I had such a good weekend till it was over

Four Pound Maltese - This is Four Pounds Of Pure Love
Canada
August 6, 2009 2:30am CST
Last weekend was one of my best weekends I have had in a very long time. I was feeling not to bad and my ex husband had come down to get the money from the house and of course he brought our little puppy with him. We actually had a good visit and all went well till after he had gone. I have been informed that if he comes again and brings the dog I will be evicted. I was very upset and I cried for two days. This dog is litter trained, quiet and has never done any damage since we got her. I have been kept awake from people fighting and drinking. I have had my apartment smell of cigar smoke which chokes me, because they smoke in the hallway and the smell comes in with the door being up a good inch and when I go pay the rent I have to go fast because the smell of smoke nearly knocks you over and yet I can't have a visit with my puppy??? Go figure. What would you do? Move?
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Sounds like you love the puppy, but do you love where you live? You can argue with a lordlord til you're blue in the face and you are not going to get anywhere. But, you could go see the x hubby and the puppy at their current home---or not? And, you don't say why he is an ex either--- But, it's simply your choice. Personally, I'd get back with the ex !!! sounds like you care for him:) And, of course, the puppy:)
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
I really do love my puppy. Hubby left for greener pastures and he soon found out it wasn't what he thought. He has done a lot to make amends but we are separated now and forever but we chose to remain friends. Thank You for your response.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
8 Aug 09
Greener pastures seldom are what you think they are going to be. Ask me, I'll tell , you---been there, done that. He must have hurt you really bad but have you thought of forgiveness? I am so glad my husband and my family forgave me. Give it some thought. Both ex hubby and new puppy need you:) quita88
@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I am so sorry, Thats rotten of the management to do that. Good luck on finding a new and better place to live. Does the management people have anything to say about the other doings that go on in the building. Your life sure has changed in the last year, life sure can suck sometimes. Some of us have been on mylot so long, our lives have changed alot. I hope yours improves for you. Take care, as always sending xoxoxo your way.
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
OMG I wish we could meet one day!!! I looked today for a different place and Holly Crap I couldn't believe the price of rent. It has gone up like crazy. I couldn't find anything for my price range. I pay 815.00 here and only pay power, phone and cable. Heating is hot water heat and it's free. I don't have to pay heat, water or sewer and garbage. Thank You for your response.
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@Polly1 (12648)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I wish we could meet someday too, that would be great. I have an idea, since my house apes have moved, I have an extra room that I could rent you. The rent would be cheap, the company good, no smoking, (gave that up a few years ago). You could bring your little doggy. I even have a pool with easy access on getting in and out.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I think I might be looking for a better place to live. If you are that bothered by the smoking then that alone should make you want to leave. The puppy rule seems rather dumb too
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Rent has risen a lot the past few years :( Stay put for now I guess. The blanket is a great idea
@AmbiePam (50056)
• United States
6 Aug 09
That's horrible! I guess if you feel that strongly and it's possible, you could move. After all, it appears you have a lot of trouble around you with the other neighbors.
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
What the problem is there's too many young people here and since I'm only 59 I am too young to get into independant living apartments. At least in those places it's all elderly people. Maybe one day. Thank You for your response AmbiePam.
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@AmbiePam (50056)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I'd like to live in an apartment complex with only elderly people. They're sweet, they're nice, and I have more fun talking to them than people my own age!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I guess if that is the rule, no pets u will heve to follow the rules or find u another place. Did u know about the rule when u moved in?
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• Canada
6 Aug 09
No I didn't know the rule but did know that half the apartments had pets so knowing that I didn't think to ask if my half had pets or not because I have absolutely No intention on getting a pet and never once thought having my little puppy for a visit was going to be such a big ordeal. Thank You for your response.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Sorry, u had trouble w/this. Sounds like u have some busy bodies living around u, Guess they are everywhere.
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• United States
6 Aug 09
If being in the apartment really upsets you and you have the means to move then most definitely, if it was me, I would move. IMO it is very important to feel comfortable and happy in your own home.
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• Canada
6 Aug 09
The idea of apartment living doesn't bother me half as much as being told I can't have my puppy visit overnight and yet it's ok to party and keep half the place awake. I'm keeping my eyes open for a place and if I find one for the same price or less I'm gone.
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• United States
6 Aug 09
Good Luck!
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@jillhill (37383)
• United States
9 Aug 09
I don't know what I would do..maybe make arrangements to see the puppy someplace else until I decided if I actually wanted to move! But I can see how much the puppy means to you....so it's a big decision on your part! Hope you can find a way to work it all out!
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• Canada
10 Aug 09
You do an excellent job of not only reading but listening to what people say. You got the right message that Yes indeed my puppy means the world to me. When I handed her at arms reach to my husband so they could leave I was absolutely heart broke. Tears flowing hard I looked at him and I said, "How the hell do people manage to share custody of children? This is ridiculous." He left and I cried for two days and I bet you can tell I am now also. Moving is not possible right now, I did do lots of searching and turns out my rent of 815.00 is the cheapest in town and I can't pay more. Thank You for being a loyal friend.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I don't understand that at all..I know where i live at my apartment I had to pay a pet deposit because i have a dog & cat, but it is a pet friendly apartment building.....Even if I did not have a pet i could still get a visit from someone with a pet..I don't know, but if i could not get a visit from a person with a pet , i think i would be looking for another apt, unless for some reason you cannot move...They should be more strick about that smoke & the drinking and fighting than worried about a puppy for one weekend...
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
6 Aug 09
P:S i would also like to add this...How in the world did they even know you had a vistior with a pet? Since the dog is paper trained there was no reason for them to know..Here where i live we always have a bunch of busy bodies always telling everyone what you do..I rarely see any one here except for my closest friends because someone is always running to the office & tattling...Thats one thing i hate about apartment living...
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• Canada
6 Aug 09
They knew because they saw my ex come and second of all I didn't think I had anything to hide and I let them know I was having a visit. I didn't think to hide the fact. Some people here have cats. When I asked why I was told dogs will scatch the carpet where cats won't. Now as far as I'm concerned they must like cats better because I have never seen my dog scatch the carpet as where cats are always digging in their claws.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Well if they allow cats then they are pet friendly...I was assuming that no pets were allowed..Cats scratch much more than a dog..My dog does not scratch, cats are the scratchers with those sharp claws they have...I think they are just picking on you, and i would just find another apartment.
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@idowrite72 (2214)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I think that I would move and make sure that I told them off before I went. I hate the unfairness of EVERYTHING in life. It is always said that "Life isn't fair" and much of that is because people make it that way. That is a stupid thing for YOU to have to go through with all the other things that have gone on around you that definitely are much worse for the good of all. I can relate to it----I got a write up at work one time for being late with some paper work, when almost every year there was someone who didn't have the same things done before that year. I'm not sure why I was being picked on and my co-worker and I laughed over it since I was retiring in just a few months and we said, " what are they going to do to? Fire me?" The principal doing the write-up tried to tell me that she didn't know I was retiring and DID write me up again later that spring for missing too much work since she was told she had to by her superiors. That was in my 30th year and the only ones I had ever gotten............go figure!!
• Canada
8 Aug 09
Good grief all those years of work and that's the way you get thanked. Crazy Thank You for your response dear friend.
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• United States
9 Aug 09
Real crazy considering I worked in the inner city with some of the worst kids in the city. It seems we tried to help them, but the "powers that be" didn't want our input in how to help with them. There were all kinds of things that could have been done that weren't and some were much better than what WAS done with certain children. Often, what was done was what was easiest instead of what was most beneficial. They didn't care about helping the kids at all.
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@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
7 Aug 09
As I mentioned elsewhere if there is a genuine allowing for pets at all, then ALL tenants should be allowed pets, not just half...Also, from what you're saying the apartment building you're living in sounds like it has real "winners" for tenants who aren't considerate of others. Have you asked outright why it's okay for some tenants to have pets and not others??? Anyway, I'd be looking for another place to live if possible and one that is 100-percent pet friendly Okay also...how many times has your ex come over with your puppy? In many states there is a legal "clause" where if one OPENLY has a pet for at least three months that is doesn't hide the pet, then a landlord cannot take legal action against a person--now this pertains to NY laws but here's an excerpt http://www.gibsonstudio.net/birdbrain/legal/nycpetlawbreef.htm New York City: The Pet Law § 27-2009.1 of Administrative Code of the City of New York Keeping Spot, Fluffy & Polly Home... A Briefing Paper from NYCDH [i]Fourteen years have gone by since New York City passed the Pet Law (§ 27-2009.1 of the Administrative Code of the City of New York) protecting pets and their owners. Since its passage in 1983, what is often called the Pet Law has been enforced by many courts and agencies, and dozens of legal issues have been resolved. At the outset, pet owners should not be discouraged by clauses in their leases that often appear to prohibit pets. Various laws, including the Pet Law, override no-pet clauses in leases, rendering the no-pet clause unenforceable. And the no-pet clause itself is not always as prohibitive as it seems. Unfortunately, people are often not aware of the laws pertaining to tenants and their companion animals, and thus give up their pets unnecessarily in certain circumstances. Sound legal advice obtained early in the course of events is essential; if it does become necessary for the pet owner to go to court, chances of winning the case with attorneys’ fees awarded are often good. Knowing some of the laws yourself can only help. What follows is a summary of those laws.* [/i] There are a LOT of other websites about this and there might be something similar in your area
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
Thank You for all the info. I have no idea what the laws says here but it sucks bad. I cried for two days. I asked the manager why some pets are allowed and some not. I was told only cats were allowed becasue they don't do any damage and only the suites that don't have updates are allowed. I was told that my carpet is relatively new and so is the kitchen floor so my puppy might scratch the floor. I think the fact that I don't party with them has a bearing too, but I didn't say that out loud. Thank You for your response dear friend.
@pyewacket (44036)
• United States
7 Aug 09
What a bunch of hogwash...seems they prefer cats over dogs for some reason and that could be a case of discrimination. Also, if these cat owners in your place have an unfixed male, who is to say, it's not spraying urine all over--that would be worse I think
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
6 Aug 09
That sucks..Does it say in the rental/lease agreement that no dogs/pets are allowed? Maybe they should put up no smoking signs in the hallways..that would help some with the smoke. But it's like this..if you can find another place that is still within your price range then it wouldn't hurt to look. Because I love my animals and I wouldn't want someone telling me that I couldn't have them.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Sorry to hear that and I understand all about that since I once lived in a apartment like that..although the landlord got grabby when he was drunk and we moved out of there fast..the wife of the landlord never believed it or was just in denial over it. So hope you find another place soon that will allow you to see your cute little dog.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I smoke is that bad on you I Would move as if they have a no pet thing they will make ya move any how they dont care how people act but come to pets all hell can break loose and I dont understand why pets are not as distuctive as people!
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
Thank You so much for your response Lakota.
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@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
7 Aug 09
your welcome
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I'd write a lettet of protest. I'd include everything you wrote above. Sadly, it won't do you any good. But you could have your say and then I would move. But moving isn't that easy. If you do move, make sure the priorities are in line with yours. No smoking tenants, no noise between hours of ____ and ______, and you can have one well-behaved animal. Even 2 out of the 3 would be nice. Probably a waiting list for such a thing. All reasons why I own my house and hate apartments.
• Canada
6 Aug 09
You're right moving isn't easy but I'm sure going to be looking. My ex also told me that if I ever have to move and I get in a place where I can have a pet he would be willing to come and let me keep puppy for a few days as he knows we miss each other a lot so that was nice to hear and gives me a good reason to be looking.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
6 Aug 09
Shared puppy custody, how adorable is that? Very kind and considerate of him. Good luck, I hope you find a really nice place.
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@GardenGerty (102464)
• United States
7 Aug 09
If it was possible to move, I would. It sounds like there is a lot more wrong than right at that complex. If he wants to bring the puppy down to visit, you guys maybe need to meet somewhere that is puppy friendly. I know it is sometimes hard to find good places to rent.
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
I've been on the phone and I got a shock. I pay 815.00 a month and that is no where near what the rents are going for in other places. It's crazy. Rent goes anywhere from 1,000.00 for a one bedroom and I need a two bedroom which rent for that was 1,300.00. That's about what my brother in law gets for the whole month and all I get is 500.00. It's a crazy world.
• United States
6 Aug 09
Grandmaof, thats horrible, someone must of complained about it. How long have you lived there, that can also be a reason why. From the way you explained the place I don't know if I would want to stay in a place like that. If I were you I would be on the lookout for someplace else. Just deal with what is there until your able to find someplace that is better.
• Canada
7 Aug 09
I'm definately looking. Thank You for your response.
@pergammano (7755)
• Canada
6 Aug 09
Oh my goodness....can you be dealt another blow? I am so terribly sorry that a pleasant weekend led to a miserable ordeal! I certainly think I would exercise my options, and truly be looking for another residence....now that you have a bit more time to do it! There doesn't seem to be alot, other than a roof over your head to make your apt. a home, with all the the annoyances. It's a few more months before winter comes knocking in AB...so hopefully there will time to find a NICE place that will accept the occasional weekend visit from you little furry friend! Good luck, my dear...I truly hope you can find a REAL home soon! Cheers!
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• Canada
6 Aug 09
I plan to be looking and as you said I now have more time to be looking. I am paying 815.00 here and I hope there's something else for the same price. I told my ex about this on the phone and he said if I do move I will be able to have visits more often as he will bring the dog down here which I thought was generous of him because it is a three and a half hour drive. I didn't know the rule but did know that half the apartments had pets so knowing that I didn't think to ask if my half had pets or not because I have absolutely No intention on getting a pet and never once thought having my little puppy for a visit was going to be such a big ordeal. Thank You for your response.
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@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
7 Aug 09
Do you have a lease? I would be reading the lease and if it says nothing about visitingpets being disallowed then I would contact the rental bond board and report the threat. I would also be contacting the health department and complaining about the snoke. There are ordinances in place these days about smoking in public places.
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
No there isn't a lease and I didn't even get a contract of rules or anything. You're not the first person who told me to go to the health board but for a different reason. When the people upstairs do laundry, bath or dishes their water comes up in my kitchen sink. Gross!!! I bought a big jug of lye crystals cost me 22.00 but that did the trick, cleaned out the drain real well. I asked so many times to have it fixed.
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@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
7 Aug 09
That's disgraceful. Each night before you go to sleep, think about finding a new, much better place. Keep looking and something will turn up soon. All the best.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I would if I could. Sometimes that is not possible so you just have to soldier on. It does not sound like a very nice place. How is the crime? Are you afraid for your safety? And of course what about the complex? Is it clean and safe? Right now I wish I could help you out. I'm stuck here in a nice house that my daughter does not appreciate or take care of and since I have no transportation I go nowhere and she is completely self-centered, thinking of no-one but herself. I'd almost trade with you. Start looking around to see what is available. Good luck.
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• Canada
7 Aug 09
I am looking but so far nothing affordable. Everyone says the same thing that a visit is a visit and that's pretty rotten of them. Sorry to hear of your situation, too bad we live in different parts of the world. Thank You for your continued support in your responses. I hope your situation improves as well.
@saundyl (9690)
• Canada
12 Aug 09
I'm sorry your weekend ended with an upset! Well...knowing how expensive moving is with damage deposits and disconnect and reconnect fees...I'd have to consider the expense of moving but i would be sorely tempted to move because i love spending time with my pets and i would be pretty unhappy if i couldnt have them or even have them for a short visit. Me being me though before i moved I'd start complaining about anyone who is really loud or if its a no smokers building the people who smoke like chimneys. I'd make sure i let the landlord know that they should be enforcing ALL the rules rather than a select one or two.