What would u do if you'll see your bf/gf's ex pictures still on his/her mailbox?

Philippines
August 6, 2009 9:17am CST
Hi I would just like to share with you one of the few things that I recently discovered that make me shock! One night, I told my bf to give me his password in a social networking site coz I will edit his layout there. Then the stupid me, tried to type his email ad and that password to his mailing account, to my surprise! I was able to signed in! ahaha.. So then, I was busy looking into his inbox, drafts, sent items... and when I finally read through almost all inside the inbox, I've seen this familiar name, so I opened it, and to my terror it was full of his ex-girlfriend's picture... nude pictures! stupid pictures! pictures of them! grrrrrrrrrrrrrr!!!!! Well I can't help it, so I was like staring at those pics... I really don't know why, I don't understand why it's still there where in fact they broke up for almost 2 yrs.. but still it's in his inbox!!! so what's his point of saving it there????? For him to see those everyday???grrrrrrrrrrrrr.. So I called him, I said, " I am so stupid to open your freaking mailbox! and guess what??? bye! don't you ever let me see that face of yours again!!!!!!!!!" ahahaha.. On the next day, he went to our house to apologize..blahblahblah.... and well, me being a silly girl.. forgive him! aaahahaha... So how about u? What would you possibly do when you have this situation???
11 responses
• China
7 Aug 09
Personally,I will give some privacy to him.Although I am strongly curious about his emails and short messages.Instead of finding out what I don't want to read,I will just neglect them.If by any chance I see them,I will communicate with him.I will make the final decision according to his response.I don't like dong things on impulse or I will regret one day.
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@frinces (419)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Same with me. I also give privacy on my boyfriend though I was so curious when I saw his ex-gf's picture in his photoalbum. I let him tell it to me. I don't show him that I am interested about her. I show him that I trust him and his relationship with his ex-gf is no big deal. He just gets mad because he wants me to get jealous.
@lexi19 (25)
• United States
11 Aug 09
He can use the excuse of "he needs it for blackmail" but being that was two years ago.. him and his ex both need to grow the hell up and be adults! This is what I would do*** I should say done because this has happened to me before*** You need to explain to him exactly how this makes you feel. Tell him to put hisself in your shoes and make him understand where you are coming from. Tell him it hurts you severely to see those pictures and ask him to delete them right away*****MAKE SURE HE DELETES THEM ALL AND PERMANENTLY EMPTY HIS RECYCLE BIN***** If he loves you, he will do it.. no excuses. And the "theyre memories and shouldnt ask him to get rid of that" is complete BULLSH*T!! Think about it... they are memories of him and his ex... if it was them two in a group photo with friends, that's one thing. But if it is just them two, that's exactly what it is, a memory of their relationship, which is over... and so should the pictures! IF this girl was his first love, I can understand having ONE fullly clothed picture and that is it. More than that is disrespectful to you! You did nothing wrong by forgiving him, but you do need to make him understand how this made you feel.
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Thank you so much... this really made me think. You know what, he said he deleted those pics right after we argue but the thing is, I was not even there when he said he deleted it, now, how can I be sure if he really "did delete" those pics right??ahhhh this is crap! And here's one thing, he keeps on telling stories about his ex's which really irritates me! but I just don't let him know that it pisses me off or something, or shall I say jealous. I know past is past BUT how come he shares that to me whenever we have quality time together, why not talk about us or anything except his ex's.!!darn! makes me sad now.. the fact is, I really don't know if he trully loves me, coz whenever I'm with him, he talks about their happy and sad moments with his ex gfs.... It's kinda annoying! anyways, thank you for the response I really do appreciate it a lot.. have a great day! :)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
Hi aprilia23, I have a situation almost like yours before. I also asked his password on this site to fix his layout. I was very eager to get his password becausae there was this anonymous album on his photos & it was on private..blahblahblah.. Then, when I opened his account, I found out that that album were full of pictures of his ex-es! Pictures of them being so sweet & flirty & all. It was kinda disturbing.. I was carried away by my emotions that I canceled his account..lol. On that day, we had a planned date. So I still showed up.. At first, I was smiling & being normal. Then, I suddenly had my boiling point! I shouted at him & slapped him over & over again! I was so mad, but I wasn't crying..lol. Then he asked what was the problem, so I told him about that album. He apologized & all.. & told me that he loves me & that it's just pictures, NO BIG DEAL. So, okay. We became okay for like 3 months but we broke up knowing that he & one of his ex-es are still in love with each other! It was painful, yes. But still, I let him go. They lasted for like 2 months & he tried to get me back but i rejected him..lol. So I guess, it was better that we broke up because now, I have a boyfriend who wouldn't do what my ex did. Well, that's probably it. hehe happy lotting!
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
ahahahahaha... i like your style really! you have this strong sense of courage and i really adore you for that.. what you just did to him was so great! I guess Im stupid enough to forgive my bf.....hmmmmmmmmmm i hope I have your courage and strong will... thanks for your response! have a great day
• United States
7 Aug 09
I would be beyond pissed. My first boyfriend had pictures of some girl in their "secret spot" tons of pictures of her, a collage of her, a collage with me and her on the same picture. He was from Ecuador, we were engaged but my caption was just la gringa (the white girl) I to this day do not regret breaking his iPod dock.
• Indonesia
7 Aug 09
Some people kept his pass as memories, sometimes they kept only on their heart, some other by kept things that related to it. It's not wrong I guess, as only kept it and never want them back. It is not fair judge someone still on his/her old relation only by they have things which related, but it is important to take it carefuly. If there were any proof he/she kept things from their pass and still have comunication with people from those, you must take aware. But if they just kept things from their pas and they don't make any contact/comunication, you can calm down
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
7 Aug 09
Hello, I hate to see that and hate to forgive him too but love is always forget and forgive... If you love him and he loves you, then you did the right thing. Nothing is too late and nothing is too over... he might just like to keep it for his nasty thinking... lolz. well, guy does something weird that you never know. I know it hurts and I can't take it either... my husband never have any of his ex for me or he never want to tell any story about someone to me either, that is good but he is just someone different if you know him.
• China
7 Aug 09
If I were a gilr,and if i were you,I will leave him alone until he is finally aware what the problem is.Then let him swear to god he could never again make me unhappy!!!!!!
@grundmang (112)
• Israel
7 Aug 09
donth think ill stay to see whats going to happen
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
I will get mad and tell my girlfriend to delete those pictures. If I caught her another time with those pictures, I guess it is time for me to let go of her since he cannot get over with her ex-boyfriend's pictures.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I had something much worse happening. I started dating this one guy and we were dating for a month or so when i found out that he actually got back with his ex. he failed to tell me about it though and surely he didn't tell this other girl that he didn't tell me. so me and her had a talk and i broke up with him, she didn't. couple of month later he sent me an email saying that he misses me and that he thinks about me when he is in bed with her. i went ahead and forwarded her this email... guess what? she forgave him. what is wrong with her? how can you forgive a guy for telling another girl that he thinks about her when in bed with you? I guess some girls have no self respect...
• India
6 Aug 09
I feel it does not matter for me though.Sometimes the first love cannot be forgotten.I have to say that its all about the trust.If you feel that the concerned person is not trustworthy then you can probably call it quits.As for me I have my MOM's photo on my cell and my pc's desktop as a screen saver .Hope this does not offend anybody