Do u actually keep in touch with all your friends?

India
August 6, 2009 11:41pm CST
hi everyone,to me friends are my life and i cannot live without them..and i am so sure that is the case with most of the people.but still do we really keep in touch with all our friends once we dont get to see each other everyday??suppose you were really close to this friend in school and you couldnt think without him/her..but once you have passed school and dont get to see this friend everyday..you feel that maybe you really dont need him/her that much..and you find your new group of friends..and though you still love your old best friend you loose touch with him/her and that doesnt bother you much..you are so happy with your new friends..does this really happen?
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25 responses
• United States
7 Aug 09
i only keep in touch with friends i know for a longtime. online on aim and facebook havent gone hangout with each other for a really really longtime. maybe when all of us is not busy we will go do something fun.
• United States
8 Aug 09
That is what I do too. I try my best to keep in touch with my busy schedule and all. It is sometimes hard to keep in touch all the time since there are other things to do. How do you try your best to keep in touch?
• United States
14 Aug 09
so i guess i'm not your good friend anymore cause you dont keep it touch with me like you used to all the time online on aim and on the phone :(
• India
7 Aug 09
I always want to keep myself touched with friends but there are several reasons which seems as barriers to fulfill the wishes. The human life is not a small, it is a vast and changes at every moment. We have to do those things which we actually never wanted to do, moreover, there are also these tasks which we actually wanted but unable to completed that. Keeping touch with friends can strengthen your position, your confifidence, adds joy, divide your sorrows, a friend can solve many problem which we seems nobody could solve that. During our progression in life, we get new friends, if we get better than previous one then naturally new friends covers the needs than the previous ones. So keeping touch with old ones do not seems so easy. When we get popular or get some value anywhere sometimes ego works and that is also a reason for not keeping touch with those ones comparing to whom we got popular. Keeping touch with everyone seems a dream which only can be achieved if we try hard, else the friends with whom we meet regularly can only be kept in touch, others shall go away. Now, mobile phones, email makes things easier to keep touch with others, especially with friends. But we have lots of works in our 24 hours that it seems an incomplete task. When we feel lonely, when no one is closer to us, at that time only we may recall those ones who were friend at a time but there was no contact for a long time. New friends obviously makes one happy if they are good to you, can fulfil your desire and so on, but it is necessary to remember that at a time when these new ones were not there, the old ones fulfilled your wishes. I had many friends( I thought they are my good friends) in school, but when I passed HS, I left my school which who, I had contact for 12 years but now with few friends of school I have still contact, the real friends have not left me yet, but I have no news of the others. Time is very cruel. It makes a relation better from worse and also vice versa. The first one we always want but if the second one happens then ???????? Moreover our friends also have their personal life, their friends, they may face the same problems which we see as a barrier for keeping in touch.....
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
7 Aug 09
This actually happened to me, but it is bothering me. You see, I graduated high school in 2005, four years ago I feel old lol, and I lost touch with my one friend. I remember after the stage ceremony, we had to go to the office to get our actually diplomas, because if you misbehaved on stage they would keep it for a week to punish you. Anyway, I remember we had plans to meet that summer, but I couldn't. I had so much running around to do for college. Also, at the time I didn't have a cellphone. So, I couldn't call her whenever, if I was out of the house I couldn't get or send calls. This has been bothering me for a while, and I have no way of getting in touched. I called the old phone number three years ago and it was for a different person now.
• India
7 Aug 09
i guess since you are talking about your high school friends.dont you have common friends?i am sure someone is still in touch with your friend and you can still catch up on her that way..i think if you get her number and give her a call after 3 years she will be surprised no doubt but will be happy beyond anything...:)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
This is how i get in touch with all of my friends, through Facebook. That one is surely a powerful tool. Some of my long lost friend(s) get connected to me through Facebook. I am sure you'll able to reach her, provided she's Facebook too.
@sagnik42 (3592)
• India
7 Aug 09
I am shy in nature.I do not interact with people much.But I have a bless for great friends.I am thankful to God for that.All the friends I had in school are still very close friends of mine.They may not be huge in number,maybe 5-6 people but they are very close to me.We all know that we will do anything for each other.We are always there for one another.Although I am in college now and have another bunch of friends there, I still find time to chat and meet my school friends.Our bonding is very special and I treasure that.However, this does not mean that I do not care for my college buddies.I hang out with them.My friends are my prize.I treasure them always,be it school or college.
• India
7 Aug 09
nice to hear that sagnik42 ..thanks for responding
@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I try my best to always keep in touch with good friends. The ones that I'm not very close with I'll still greet them or say hi whenever I see them anywhere I may be at. That is just common nice though activeness kind of thing since you guys did technique went to school together. I don't see why that is a bad thing. But I always try my best to keep in touch with good friends. God bless
• United States
14 Aug 09
i guess i'm not your close friend anymore cause you dont keep in touch like you used to online on aim and on the phone :(
@webearn99 (1742)
• India
8 Aug 09
Yes! I try to. I have a list of all my friends from school and college days and occasionally drop them a mail. Some of them do reply and we keep updating each other. Others do not reply. I do not blame them. Maybe they have moved on and forgot to send me an update of that. Life is complicated and it is easy to forget. I am guilty of that. Just to keep up with friends still in touch is a hard task as such.
• India
8 Aug 09
thank you for responding..
@imsilver (1665)
• Canada
7 Aug 09
I do my best to keep in close touch with my loved ones. I'm really big on scrapbooking and normally turn a regular letter into a big deal. The internet is great and all but nothing beats recieving a little something something in your mailbox that lets you know someone is thinking of you and loving you. Granted, I tend to send out a lot more than I recieve but everytime I put something in the mailbox I can spend a couple days imagining the smiles that will appear when my friends recieve my packages. That's what keeps me doing it.
• Australia
7 Aug 09
Well Yes i could relate to what you have been saying and more often than not people do encounter such a situation am sure in such a Fast-Paced life. A life where a husband generally dont find time to speak to his wife and keeps such a discussion for weekends. In such state remembering an old Friend does become difficult and its human tendency too as they so ...Out of sight ..Out of Mind
@sameroad (3179)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I love my friends so i always try to stay in touch and talk to them or hang out with them whenever i can. some friends might fade a little away and i might not really talk to but i still try to check up on them from time to time.. i miss my old school friends. i don't really have any friends now. that i get to see often anyway. school day friends are some of the best.
@zoey7879 (3092)
• United States
7 Aug 09
I used to keep in very close touch with my "friends"...When the realization hit that out of my large social circle most of them were just using me to get back at someone, hoping for future favors, or as an emotional crutch... I quit communicating with them and they've all never bothered to ask why. If I have to always be the first one to write, call, or visit just to get the other person to maintain contact.... They gotta go. Now the very few friends that are responsive to phone calls, txt msgs, etc... we keep in touch several times a week.
@patofgold23 (5069)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
i got so busy since I had kids...but I do keep in touch with them whene ver I have a few extra time to text or call...
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
23 Sep 09
Yes. I like my friends. If they are near my house, I will visit them and if they are very far I used to call them.
@bmuchler (441)
• United States
8 Aug 09
I lost touch with some of my high school friends after graduation. My best frined was a guy who I loved dearly. We lost touch for a couple of years, but when we reunited it was like we had never spent any time apart. I still need him, especially when I need to talk. Even though he lives out of state I always know how to get in touch with him and him me. I am reuniting with old lost friends through social networking sights. As far as my new friends, I'm not really sure I am as close to them as I was to my friends from high school. I talk with them on e-mai, but don't really call or hang out much with them. (Three kids makes it hard to get out). But I am very happy with my new friends. It also makes me happy to be able to get back in touch with those I've lost.
7 Aug 09
Yeah...it happened with me when i passed school.I ahd many friend in my junior school whom i really dun see these days.We used to hang out everyday, all together like a super group.But i dun know when all that went away.Really feel sad for loosing my friends and all because of my fault..But i didn't make the same mistake in my high school.I have kept intact each and every friend i had there.We meet atleast once every week, have fun and try to live our memories together.
@lynettebyc (2416)
• China
7 Aug 09
I don't. Friends come and go in my life all the time. I know them in different stages, and everyday i have to work, eat, sleep, and a day only has 24 hours. I don't have enough time to keep in touch with all of them. So gradually I got accquainted with new friends and time was less for me to contact old friends. But in my mind, I know I miss them very much. Whenever we get touch with each other, we are still in the same situation. I believe true friendship will not vanish. But I do agree that we should occasionly contact best friends. No friendship will last without foundation, like each other's current life, attitude etc. Enjoy life
• Malaysia
7 Aug 09
It actually does bother me when I think about it. Deep inside me, I really want to get back in touch especially with my best friend in elementary school. There is so much to talk about. I just hope someday either one of us will make a move and get connected again like old times.
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
7 Aug 09
I have tried in vain to keep in touch with my old school friend, after my marriage I had left the country, so there was a slight drift between us although I used to write to her regularly,(20 yrs back). Then when she got married and left my home town to another place she slowly stopped writing and contacting me, I collected her phone number from her parents' and contacted her, it was me who was taking all effort, she did not bother much. Now we hardly talk to each other, I feel v. upset at times about this.
@ruzzel016 (241)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
friends are also important to me.. because there's a time that I have a problems then I can't share it to my parents because Im afraid or shy but I usually do is to call my friends to share it and also they give me some helpful advices.. But normally I send them a message if I missed them or to remind them that I still here for them no matter what..
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
7 Aug 09
I also have a pack of friends, each of different sets from high school, college, church organizations and now at the office. People change, particularly in the interests and priorities. Once we get old, our taste of friends varies but this doesnt necessarily mean that we dont really care about the old ones anymore. It just so happens that in life, your new pack of friends seem to fit and excite you much more than your old friends do. It may strike you with a pang of guilt somewhere but this is who and what you are now. It may have been the distance or the non-communication for x number of years but most of all, it is growing up. Due to all these circumstances, she most likely have a new group of friends also. She probably feels guilty the same way you do. Not to fret, it does happen. Furthermore, it could be that she may not be the real best friend for you after all... you will just realize that there are people (whom you meet later in time) fit enough to be best friend forever.
@thokius (426)
• Austria
7 Aug 09
I actually never kept any I've my friends and now I regret doing that. When I was in school I just pushed everyone away from me. The sad part is that many of them wanted to be friends with me... but I just kept running away and hiding from sociaty. Now I'm trying to start a new life. Maybe I'll have more luck in myLot then in the real world...