Are you talkative ? Or reserved ? How would you like your friends to be..?

India
August 8, 2009 2:03am CST
Hi Dear Pals, Good day. Mostly friends like people who are talkative and of more fun. Some people tend to be talkative and they are not.. Some people wanna be talkative. But some people want their friends to be less talkative and more listenable... No matter how they are... They are our friends... Now share how you like your friend to be?.... Have a nice day.. Happy Mylotting... Cheers,..
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27 responses
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
8 Aug 09
You wanna talk talkative ,that's me ! I am normally the gift of gab queen.They know it and except it,or I highly doubt they would be well suited friends for me.I will tell them if ,I am feeling this way ,when they call to stop by.They still keep coming even knowing full well what they are in for at times.But I listen also ,if a friend has something serious to say or needs help ,they call me.So in the end we all take a bit of advantage of one another's good traits,so we must also take the bad.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
8 Aug 09
That is what friendship is all about, isn't it??Sharing the joys as well as the sorrows; the good things as well as the bad ones.
@Capsicum (1444)
• United States
8 Aug 09
You are right if its a two ways street ,it is real .Its these pesky emotional leaches that,I cannot handle. Always wanting and sucking the life out of you down. I guess ,I am very fortunate, to have such good friends.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi Capsicum, Really well said. Taking advantage of one another's good traits as well the bad one really means friendship. I really know you as a gab queen when I first got the response from you.... Nice reading your views. Thakns for sharing.. Have a nice day.... Cheers
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
i could be extremes at times. i can be talkative or i can be reserved depending on the mood and the situation. i am normally a quiet person and quite shy. but amongst friends and family, i'm really very chatty/talkative. as a trainer, i could talk for hours and hours until i lose my voice during presentations. with friends, we can be in an all-nighters and we wouldn't get tired of talking until the wee hours in the morning. my friends can be extremes also. they are as varied as my moods are. their personalities match certain qualities in me. some of my friends are total opposites of each other, because of my extreme personality also. have a great day too phillip!
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi mylesnarvaez, Nice to have your response here too. With friends no one can be reserved.. I really agree that with you... Thanks for posting... You too have a nice day.. Cheers
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
the type of friends we have... somewhat reflect how we are to them. earlier in the friendship, i think i'd be a little reserved but the longer the friendship is... the more we are comfortable with people. i think i'm fortunate that even if i'm an introvert, i'm comfortable around people because i grew up in a large family and keep a great circle of friends.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
10 Aug 09
If we treat our friends as friends, we have to accept and respect our friends for what they are. Though we may have preference the qualities we desire in our friends, that would mean one is bias and selective. This is not true friendship, in my opinion.
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi whyaskq, Really well said. True friends accept their friends as they are.. Thanks for sharing,,, Have a nice day... Cheers
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
9 Aug 09
If I don't talk too much I'm happy, the earlier in the day the better....
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi ElicBxn, Thanks for reaponding.. Nice to read your response... have a nice day... Cheers
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Hi phillip! I can be very talkative at times! In fact some of the time my friends get tired of listening to me! But, I am a fun person and make my friends laugh too! But, I can also be a good listener. And in order to have a good friendship you need to have a good balance of both. You have to be a good listener and your friends need to be the same way! You have to know when to talk and when to listen! That's what makes a really great friendship!
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi Opal26, Really well said. Balancing the rhythm really earn more friends. Funny talks really attact more... thanks for sharing... Have a nice day... Cheers
@Porcospino (18647)
• Denmark
9 Aug 09
Sometimes I am very talkative and sometimes I am quiet and thoughtful. It depends on my mood. Some people think that I talk too much but I am not always like that, I can be shy, reserved and quiet, too. My friends are very different, some of them are quiet and some of them talk a lot. I have met my friends at many different places, some of them are old neighbours, classmates or co-workers and others are online friends who have turned into real friends/offline friends after we met for the first time.
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi Porcospino, Ha.. Thats really goo to read your response.. Pur character mostly depends on our mood too. thanks for the response.. Cheers..
@taface412 (3176)
• United States
9 Aug 09
I was very talkative when I was younger and sometimes on some days I am the same way again, but I have noticed the older I get the mre reserved I am getting. I still ama very passionate person about the things I do choose to speak out on which I have to admit probably is a bit overzealous, but makes life interesting.
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi taface412, Really what you said is true. I too were talkative in my childhood but later on its chaged but not reserver a little talkative... Thanks for responding to this discussion. have a nice day. Cheers
@divkris (1163)
• India
9 Aug 09
I'm talkative but can be reserved too. I'm reserved when i meet new people and once i understand what type of people they are and become comfortable with them, i become talkative. I prefer to have talkative and reserved friends too because you need people who can chat with you as well as those who will listen to you
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi divkris, Thats really true. We need a friend to enjoy and to listen. Well said.. Thanks for sharing.. Have a great day... Cheers
@fifileigh (3619)
• United States
9 Aug 09
i dont talk for the hell of it. i think more, and talk when necessary. i guess i prefer similar people who talk when they have something to say. but talkative people are also interesting and entertaining because they always have a story to tell. so, u should have at least one talkative person in your group to keep the rest entertained, and the group from getting too boring and quiet.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi fifileigh, Yes .. Of coarse.. "they always have a story".. Really true.. Thanks for posting your great response in this discussion.. Cheers.. have a nice day..
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
i'm the talkative type...definitely not shy... I have taught college subjects for almost 3 years in the past, 7 hours a day..soo once I start talking, i could talk, and talk, and talk the whole day, you have to make me stop...........I am the same with my friends too, that's why they love to be around me.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi patofgold23, Really I too feel the same. I am not that musch talkative but wanna be wtih who talks more. Not ramblers but good friends...Thanks for sharing... have a nice day... Cheers
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
I am not really talkative, I am more of a good listener. I may share of my experiences or stories to my friends but it depends on my mood and if I really need to bring it out. I like listening to others and giving an advice to them. My bf is a very talkative guy and I don't like it. There are times that we are in a bar and I want to talk to him. He would talk to other people in the bar that he doesn't know and totally ignores me. He would realize that I am pissed off because I don't talk at all when I am angry. We would argue about that. He said that he likes to talking to other people. When I want to break up with him, he doesn't want me to leave him. Too much talkative is not good as we all know that, "Too much for something is bad enough."
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi Sophie, I think everybody doesn't have the same thinking. Some really wants his/her person to be talkative. In your case its different. But as you said too much is worth for nothing... Well said.. Thanks for sharing... Cheers..
• Indonesia
9 Aug 09
I have various friends, from talkative until reserved one. I think no matter how they are, they are my friend and those difference make us more closer to each other. I can be talkative in asking question, but actually I'm a reserved person. It doesn't mean I don't like to share with my friend, but I just speak as much as I need. I found that hear other people and help them is easier for me than talk my problem to many people..
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi ChrysanTflower, Thats really nice to read about your character. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice day always.. Cheers..
• India
9 Aug 09
How my friends are is not an issue to me at all. Everybody has their good times and bad times. It depends on the situation. Mostly I tend to talk a lot and chill with friends. It has always been a multipoint communication between me and my friends. And we make sure its the same always!
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi profaisnal_ram, Really nice to read about your views, I agree the same that each and every one has good and bad times and a real friend is always at his side... Thanks for sharing... Have a nice day.. Cheers
• Belgium
8 Aug 09
I am myself a kind of listener I would say. Normally while sitting in friends I tend to speak lot lesser then other's. But if I am given a choice to choose my friends I would say for me it does not matter if the person is talkative or quite. But I dislike people who talk nonsense. So I would not prefer friends who just talk anything without any real meaning.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi friend, Really I too get annoyed when I see ramblers. Thanks for sharing.. Have a nice day.. Cheers...
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
I am in the in between..sometimes when i am happy ..i am a bit showy and talkative..and sometimes when i am mad and sad..i prefer to sulk in silence than bother the peace..I am reserved and a little bit shy to strangers..and in schools I receive more good marks in writing and only good in memorizing but not in impromptu discussion...above all I am a great friend who will not release to set you free when you get in prison..I am to sit beside a friend and could live within in prison..i mean a friend is a friend not only in need but all around..like a weather a fair friend will not forsake even the whole world may disappoint or reject her...
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi neelianoscet, Really appreiciate your awesome response. Nice to read about the definitions of a friend you have given in your response.. Thanks for sharing ... Have a nice day, Cheers...
@Hatley (164469)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Aug 09
my best friend is just right, shes talkive but listens, she cares what I think and is always there when I need her.I am less talkative and am a great listener but we are true friends and we talk a leg off each other. we have fun and we share and care about each other and our sons too. she is one real friend to me.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi Hatley, You are really lucky to have such a best friend. Thanks for sharing your experience. Have a great day always... Cheers
@thokius (426)
• Austria
8 Aug 09
Hello Philip, I myself am the type of person that enjoys listening and observing rather then talking. But now that I found myLot I've decided to change and share my experience with you guys and girls. After all I've been listening all of my life. Maybe I might have learned something more... Cheers!
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi Thokius, Thats really true. I myself experienced the same in Mylot. Mylot really lives when reserved people talks and talkative shuts..... Thanks for sharing your views.. have a nice day always.. Cheers...
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
8 Aug 09
Well although I am not very talkative I am very social, I do talk and interact well with people and so would expect my friend to be of the same kind. I am also a good listener as well.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi yogambal_64, Thanks for sharing about you. People really like persons who are listening. Have a nice day. Cheers.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
8 Aug 09
i am very reserved and talk only when it is required. it is not that i don't talk at all. i do share certain feelings and emotions but with very close people and to count there are only 2-3 people with whom i share my feelings. well, i like my freinds to be reserved but fun loving. my freinds and i love to party and meet up regularly, we even play pranks but still i prefer not to discuss all my feelings etc with them.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi abanerji, Being reserved sometimes really needed to gain good friends. Really nice to read your response.. Thanks for sharing... Have a nice day... Cheers.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
8 Aug 09
I am talkative when I hang out with friends.On the other hand I am quite reserved while talking to strangers or not so 'close to me' people.I listen to what others have to say.I would say I keep a balance between talking and listening.I do not actually like people who do not listen and talk constantly.Sometimes you can even say that they are rude in that way. My friends are all old buddies so we know what we like about each other.I love my friends.There is nothing I want to change in my friends.
• India
9 Aug 09
Hi sagnik42, Thats true indeed. I too get a bit distance when someone is really not interested in listening. Thanks for sharing your thoughts... Have a nice day... Cheers