They're Home!

@p1kef1sh (45640)
August 8, 2009 10:10pm CST
My daughter leaves for the US on friday. Her friends have come to stay this weekend for a two day farewell. We have tents pitched in the garden, young people all over the house. They've been out to a club and just got back. There's a girl crying (not daughter) and a sense of activity in the house (it's 4am). I wonder how the night went. Do you lie awake at night waiting or your adult children to come back in from a night out?
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@sweetie1026 (1723)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
I still do and i think i won't stop waiting up for them even they are old enough to take care of themselves. Though, i do not allow them to go out with anyone except their closest friends and cousins. I have 3 girls whom i have raised alone for 16 yrs. and i can't imagine my life without them. They are all i have and they are everything to me.But i don't like lying awake waiting, it makes me think and worry more. So, what i do is watch tv or read my favorite book or magazine or stay up infront of my computer to keep myself busy while waiting.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
I did sleep but then woke about 3 Sweetie. I went back to sleep once they ere all back in.
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• Philippines
9 Aug 09
Good for you, i hope you had a good sleep after all.
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Aug 09
My son is 25 and I still worry when he's out late. For 4 years he was on his own, between going to school and working for a while in Baltimore MD. He moved down here to Oklahoma last December and is staying with us. When he was on his own, I didn't dwell on it. Now that he's here, different story. I guess no matter how old the are, they're still our kids, right? Did you ever say where your daughter is going to be going to school? If you did, I forgot.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
Yes, they are still our children, no matter what their age. She's doing two semesters at UNC Wilmington. She did have the choice of going to Oklahoma as well. But we don't have a surrey with a fringe on top! LOL. But I could have come over and said hello!
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
9 Aug 09
Forget the fringe, she would need spurs down here...lol. What college was she looking at in Oklahoma? Geeze, I woulda made extra chocolate chip cookies!
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
9 Aug 09
Hi. I don't have my adult son with me now, he's with his mom and we're separated, living far away. But this step-daughter of mine who goes to school in afternoon session. Her class usually ends at 9pm but if she is not around 30 minutes later, my wife gets worried. She will let me petch the child at school though the campus is within the military camp. Of course, she's still a child so we both get worried...
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
I bet you do. Don't we all.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
9 Aug 09
I can just imagine. I lay awake all of the time waiting for my almost 18 year old daughter to come home. she does not realise how much I worry when she is out late. I will always worry no matter how old she is.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
That's what parents do Steph. I'll let you know when I stop worrying! LOL.
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9 Aug 09
Hi p1key, Gosh!! that brings back memories, many years ago, we used to do things like that, we all use to go to the disco(remember that) and creep in in the early hours of the morning and start doing a fry-up, and yes one of my friends will be crying or something hiding behind the curtains so she can not be seen. I bet they had a brilliant time and poor you lying in bed awake waiting for them, they are having fun, bless them. Hugs. Tamara xxx
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
It's very quiet now Tamara. They're all still here, but let's just say that there are some sore head! LOL. XXXX
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• Canada
9 Aug 09
How long is she going to be in the USA? I don't have adult children, but my husband has loads of them, and he always waited up for them. Mom always waited up for my sister whe nshe went out. I never went out late at night when I lived at home. I hope she has a good time in the USA.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
She'll be away until May 2010. Two semesters at UNC Wilmington.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
9 Aug 09
No matter how adult they get they are still your babies and if it was me I would probably be waiting up waiting..It is good that you gave your daughter the opportunity to say goodbye like that to her friends..Your one Awesome Dad!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
Thank you Becky. We only have the one and she is probably indulged. But so many friends came that we know that she is truly loved by her friends.
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@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Isn't that a great thing though..well unless they are waking you up talking on the phone on the middle of the night..but then we get a extra special treat when you get on Mylot..
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
of course!i certainly can't sleep when someone isn't home yet.the four of us includes two kids 20, 14,.if they will attend an affair and they stay out late we try to coordinate as to what time their coming so guys at home will not worry.if it's going to be too late they might as well stay the night so we can sleep and they enjoy also where they are. it shd . happen not too often and if unavoidable.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Aug 09
So long as we know that she's safe that's all that really matters. Fortunately she always has been so far!
• New Zealand
9 Aug 09
Im not a parent but I would definitely would wait up for my adult children if I were. Im the sort of person who always thinks about their family, if they are alright ect.. My parent's were lucky I never went out growing up and was quite introverted. To this day (Im 20) I still don't go out clubbing. However when I went out to a late opera one night with my grandmother I came home and my dad was still up awake waiting. It's nice to know that your parents care and are looking out for you. Funninly enough when my dad goes out I tend to stay up and read a book just to make sure he gets home safe.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Aug 09
You are starting to parent your parent. It happens to us all at some point! LOL.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
9 Aug 09
Yes P1ke I used to all the time when I lived with them, now I worry when I know they are out They used to ring me lol just to put my mind at rest that they where home, but I told them in the end that they didn't have to lol , but it is worrying specially in these Days and with what goes on out there xxx
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Aug 09
Times are different Gabs. So long as it is a taxi and not an ambulance that brings them home then I'm happy!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Aug 09
I'm waiting for my children to grow up (not too quickly, thank you). Is it hard?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Aug 09
It changes but doesn't get any easier Dawn.
@nannacroc (4049)
9 Aug 09
I used to but, thank goodness, they've all left home. They still phone me if they've gone on a longish journey to let me know they got there safely. I know my mum used to lie in bed awake waiting for me to get home because dad told me, it was his way of asking me nicely not to be too late without actually saying the words. You're both going to miss her.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
10 Aug 09
We are going to miss her Nanna. More than we think I suspect. But we'll just have to be brave about it.
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
9 Aug 09
I talked to my mom about this and she said she stays up checking if im home or not..this happens when im visiting them and me and my cousin decide to go out to the plaza for couple of shots of tequilla or for coffee. depends on what the trip is. I sometimes go to my parents place, my cousins who also lives in the same compound, when learning im home sometimes drags me out to the plaza or to the boulevard, its a strip of bars and restobar nearby near the beach. we usually go home at around 2am or 3am.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
That doesn't surpirse me at all. When I stay with my mother - who's 84 - she checks on me too! LOL.
@bhanusb (5709)
• India
9 Aug 09
I don't expect adult girls should stay out of home at night.In my case I could not bear my tension.My whole night would be sleepless.
@p1kef1sh (45640)
9 Aug 09
Now that's an interesting cultural difference between us Bhanusb. I could not stop my daughter from staying out even if I wanted to (and I do sometimes). She is legally an adult and beyond parental authority. That said, it is our house!
@camomom (7536)
• United States
7 Sep 09
Mine are still babies but I'm sure that I will when they get older.
@guybrush (4661)
• Australia
13 Aug 09
I hope the night ended without too many hangovers for you to deal with at breakfast, P1key! Although we have one son still living at home at 21, he seems to have given up on the long nights out, and on work nights is safely home and tucked up in bed at a reasonable hour. Even on the weekends, he and the lads seem to have jam sessions and a barbeque tea rather than going out to pubs and clubs like they did a year or two ago. Our third daughter had me lying awake in the early hours worrying about where she was a few times - so it was quite nice when she left home and what we didn't know didn't hurt us!
• Netherlands
12 Aug 09
Hi P1key! I am sorry I am late on this one as I don't know how I missed it! I do not have adult children to worry about so I can not tell you if I do or even would, but I can tell you that I did not live at home very long after I became an adult but my parents did not lie awake waiting for me to come home at night when I did live at home. I had been going out for years and staying out almost all night every night and if they had laid awake every night that I was out then they would never had been able to sleep, get up to go to work or even live a normal, functioning life with never having any sleep. This is Not to say that they did not worry about me...of course they did, but they also knew that whatever could happen to me in the middle of the night could just as easily happen to me in the middle of the day. Just because it is daytime or early evening does not mean that accidents, crimes, illness etc. stops because it doesn't...it only seems to be worse to some people because the sun has gone down. Good luck to your daughter P1key!
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
12 Aug 09
I am a little over protective of my only son, hence I do tend to lie awake in the nicht till such time that he gets home. I hear the latch, say a prayer of thanks to God for his safe return and go to sleep. If the kids are coming back together home, then there is some relief, that they are in a group and should be better off than being alone whilst returning. Group or not, I tend to worry. Guess its because he is my only son. I must learn to be braver.