Up to what extent should your friend be part of your life?

Philippines
August 9, 2009 1:06am CST
I have a very dear friend. She is almost like areal sister to me. She is so welcome to our family. That all our family members knows her. But sometimes, just like other members of the family, she annoys me of her words, actions and reactions. It made me think that I am allowing her intrude into my life too much. Am I right? Or it is just that I don't know how to handle our friendship?
2 responses
@yelrihs (301)
• Australia
9 Aug 09
sometimes you cant really trust friends. i still reckon friend should not know too much about the family issues and should not be around the family too much, like sister, because she is not, and she should not get involved too much around the family either.
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
Involving our friends too much to our family is also risky to our family.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
yup yelrihs, i think we can't trust just about anyone. At any time, when they're desperate, they'd betray you; sometimes they'll take advantage of you too. Just be friends, not too close.
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• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Being too close can sometimes lead to something that causes the destruction of your friendship.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
9 Aug 09
It's great to have friends to share your joys and sorrows with, and it's good to be close to them and treat them well. However, it is dangerous to let them into your family. We have to draw a line because they are not your family. Therefore, they should not intrude into the private lives or personal lives of any member of your family. You could have your friend for dinner daily, or he/she could help to cook or help with the chores, or even sleep on the couch once in a while, but basically that's about it. She has no right to make decisions on anyone's behalf or criticise anyone unless his/her opinion is needed. True friends won't take advantage of you.
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• Philippines
14 Aug 09
"Draw a line' means so much. It prevents future problems with friends.