Do you prefer the single life or the married life?

Trinidad And Tobago
August 9, 2009 10:11am CST
I have never been married so my answer would be i prefer the single life simple because there is a lot of freedom attached to it..i mean you can go wherever you want and with whomever you want without have to anwer to a husband or wife. I have a lot of friends who are married and i hear them complain that if they had to do it all again they would choose the single life. Those who said they would choose the married life indicated that they would do so because it adds meaning to their lives. Which would you choose?
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49 responses
@taripres (1499)
• United States
10 Aug 09
Well, I was married and loved it, even though I'm divorced now and couldn't deal with the underlying issues involved between us! Marriage is grand and it takes a strong person to be married and committed with all of the temptation and influences out here! That's why some people can't deal with it, not to be mean, they're just not mature enough to handle the challenges of being in a stable relationship! It's a 100% effort on both parts and if you can't deal with that you should have never gotten married in the first place!! Marriage is not sumn to take lightly, once you're married, you can't be that same single person you were, it's responsibility of home and family, time to calm it down and grow up!! Marriage is suppose to be bonded by spirit, you won't get it if you're not committed to it! Taripre$
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Wonderful response, you are so right, wish all men thought about marriage like this, I find that some woman get married just to say I am married which is really stupid, considering things don't work out for them, I can take it or leave it, although yes it would be great but I don't live for it.I was asked once but at the time we were to young neither one of us were ready so I said no, and he never asked again,(whimper) sad I really loved him.
@taripres (1499)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hey, who knows, that great guy may come around sooner or later and sweep you off your feet like he's suppose to! Then you'll be all over the marriage thing like I was and still wouldn't mind doing, just need the person who would put up with my nympho antics Taripre$
@liuchen63 (270)
• China
9 Aug 09
I prefer a married life. I had a dream since I was a little girl that I would have a happy family with a lovable husband, cute children, a sweet house with a small garden and so on. Being a single one is so hard for me.I'm a person who can't live without people.I want someone to love,to care about,to talk to,to play with,to do a lot of happy things.I need someone around me when I feel sad or in the bad situations that I can't stand alone. So I prefer married life and I'm doing my best to realize it.
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Aug 09
I believe that every little girl has a dream of finding their Knight in Shining Armor and living happily ever after and getting married. But for those who have had their hearts broken on more than one occassion there views on living happily ever after change. You say you are a person who cant live without people but this does not always mean that you have to get married...if you have good friends then you would have all the support you need...some of them may just be a phone call away.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Aug 09
hi i had a great marriage but now I enjoy nothaving to'answer to anyone but myself, its a luxury you dont often have in marriage'although I did indeed enjoy my marriage.its just that why spoil a good thing. Iwas asked once to remarry but said no as I wanted my memories of my marriage to be mine along.no remarriage just being my own person. not someones wife or someones mother but me patsie.
@EliteUser (3964)
• Australia
25 Sep 09
Hey, Well I think that as you said above, being single you are totally free and can do anything you ever want. But then again, you might be also lonely so you might need a partner, and start up a family. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
• United States
28 Aug 09
I've been married before, but I was only 18 so I think that makes a difference. I'm in no rush to get married again for at least another several years. I do prefer to have a partner than to be single.
@taztheone (1721)
• India
28 Aug 09
Neither, I prefer to be engaged in a relation. Committed status seems better for me, so that anytime it can be brought back to single status without much hassles!
@soulist (2985)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Right now I would prefer to be married. I want to be settled down and start a family. No matter what I accomplish in life I think being a wife and mother would be my greatest accomplishment. I don't like being single and going through the dating scene and being heartbroken a lot.
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
14 Aug 09
Hello Trinidiva, I enjoyed my single life but I prefer to be a married woman. It's true that you have all the freedom for being single and you have all the time by yourself but when you get older, you will long to have a family. I married quite late and so, I enjoyed my single life to the max. Right now, I am happily married to the man that I love and blessed to have a cute little boy. If I am given an option, I will choose married life!
@sharra1 (6340)
• Australia
11 Aug 09
I think it is a matter of personal choice. I have spent most of my life single and have been in a relationship now for 5 years and I prefer being in a relationship. It is true that not all relationships are good but when they are they are great.
• United States
15 Aug 09
I am on my second marriage. From my experience, if you're not with the RIGHT person, it's better to be single. By FAR better to be single! lol But, if you find the right person, your true best friend, it is far better to be married! I hope one day you find your right person
@haiershen (1080)
• China
11 Aug 09
i have never been married, so i am enjoyed my single life, it is very freedom and very comfortable,maybe one day i will want to own my family, but not at present. good luck and have a nice day!
@rajupaul (973)
• India
16 Aug 09
Dear friend you have asked a very common question. Right now I am married but I think it is better life as I have responsible for my family and my self. As a single I have no work to do and free from all burden.Belief me it is better life I feel. As I can fight with my wife and share emotion and she also take care in every moment of life. Now try to understand how happy I am. As a single I was just wasting my time. Playing foot ball, cricket, spending time with girlfriends. Don't you think it is nothing but waste of time. Moreover now I am spending time with myloter. bye
@hagirl (1295)
• United States
11 Aug 09
If you would have asked this about my first marriage I would have said it sucks. I am remarried to a wonderful man who would do anything for me and I he. It is nice to know you have someone to come home to and grow old with. Everyone complains about their mates from time to time but when it comes down to the hard core they could not live without them. It not only adds meaning but companionship along with friendship. That one person who is your best of friend who you can tell anything to and not be judged. This goes with the scenario that your marriage is a loving two way street.
• India
11 Aug 09
i will scream and say that....."BE SINGLE".........don't ever dare to get married and don't ever think of that ...marriage is starting of a new end....i have been personally in a relation ship for a very long years and i broke off.......and its a very bad experience...so any body who read my comment don't get MARRIED....its a Nobel advise.....take it
• United States
10 Aug 09
I do like married life alot. But I miss the married life BEFORE the kids. I had freedom to do things & with my spouse but then we had kids and we can't do alot of things as they are all pretty small yet and we can't afford to pay for a family of 5 to go to the movies ect. Can't even go fishing anymore like we used to because we'd have to acommidate naps, standard meal times, potty breaks, trying to keep them from going into the water/river or they'd drown for sure, and spend more time fixing their poles than enjoying the relaxation of just fishing & each others company. So we stay home & it sux.
@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
I prefer to have someone in my life. I mean I prefer a married life than single. Because it is sweeter to be with someone who loves you than sour than no one else to makes you laughter... how about you? have a great day!
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
Hello, i prefer the security of a married life. Yes no marriage is perfect but i am willing to work things out to my future husband. But i will marry someone on the right time so that i will have no regrets. happy mylotting!
@nrn2003 (661)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I am living inbetween :) I have been in a relationship for eight years. We are not married but I would love to be. I am giving him until the end of the year to propose. 8 years is a long time. He knows me and what Im so I feel like he should be able to mak ethe commitment or not. But I am ready to get married.
@Elaine77 (315)
• China
11 Aug 09
hi there, Since I'm now single and there is a lot freedom in my single life, I kinda enjoy this single life, but when I go out with my friends and their boy or girlfriends coming with us I feel like jealous of the thing between them. It's hard to pick one between single or have an relationship with someone, as both of them have it's own good and problems, if we choose one between them, we have to accept all of its good and weaknesses. Good day!
@jasmeena (846)
• Indonesia
10 Aug 09
Well..i`d choose marriage life but i `ll get married with someone who is responsible and can take care of me,whom i love (and he loves me more than i love him).I don`t want to get married because all of my firends have already been married and family`s pressure.. I was single for 1,5 years and it was my terrible moment as i was single when iwas about to reach 31..i tried to have relationship but it is hard if your heart doesn`t want to..so i prefered being a single until now i found someone-he`s my former neighbour-and i hope we can get married before 2010,atleast in December this year. Sometimes, my friends bad marriage brings impact on me; i wnat to get married but i am afraid of having similar marriage like their marriage..the solution is try not to think negatively too much..there are many happy marriages, learn from them