Important question
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
United States
August 10, 2009 2:55pm CST
When it comes down to you running around all the time with your boyfriend. Who is more important your child or that man? I think the man can always wait because your child needs you more. What makes me upset the most is when a child is sick and needs the parent the mother wants to run with the boyfriend. Now if the man doesn't have the patience to wait on you then what do you do? See to me its easy to replace the man but never replace your child. How does anyone feel on this subject man or women?
3 responses
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Very true I agree with you. Are children always look up to us even as they grown up they look up to us for the best advice over things. But if a man or women is put first they child will rebel and not want anything to do with the parent or trust them as far as that goes. They will always have love in there heart for us but not the same as it would have been if we would have given the child more attention.
@coolcoder (2018)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I don't have either a boyfriend/husband or a child, but if it were to happen, the child would come first. There isn't any question about it; the child's needs come way before the needs of the parents. It's such a shame that a lot of people don't realize this--they still want their freedom at any cost, including the health and well-being of the child.
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
11 Aug 09
It bothers me because most people these days want a kid to try and keep the person they are with and when they lose the person in the long run and end up with someone else it seems as if the guy comes first and not the child and the child pays for it later. And when the child starts to rebel against the parent its there own fault for not giving the child the love and attention they needed all along.
@Improbability (140)
• United States
10 Aug 09
A person's child should ALWAYS come first. They depend on their parents for care. That said, people have also taken that to the other extreme and never make time for their significant other. I can see a man getting upset if it becomes a routine, never ending pattern of, "sorry, my child comes first." Some men won't be patient at all, but there are a lot who are understanding of this. Children come first. But that doesn't mean they should be the only thing.
@strawberrybaby39 (2086)
• United States
10 Aug 09
I agree with you. I have been a single parent for a long time. It took a while to find the right guy and except my kids. But I have been with men that wanted me to run all the time and find baby sitters and I new it was hurting my kids and I said know more my kids are first place. So we split apart and that was fine with me that showed me how much of a man he really was. Now 2 of my kids are grown and going through this and they are not seeing what is happening. I am have been trying to make them open there eyes to this but what else can I do?
