Do You Still Talk to your EX ?????

Philippines
August 11, 2009 2:50am CST
I still talk to my EX(es)... when we see each other by accident, we're like long time bestfriends that haven't seen each other for years No matter how bad our relationship ended, we both find ways to save the friendship and it's nice if that happens... it don't matter anymore who is to blame...just save the friendship. How about you.......do you still talk to your EX?
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78 responses
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hello again patofgold, I am doing my rounds again, and I opened your profile to respond to your discussions. I find your discussion really interesting. You are a smart discussion starter. Anyway, I have ex(es) that still I talk to whether through the web or personally, but it seldom happens. I don't see my ex often, maybe because we have our own lives to live. But if ever the chance would come, I won't hesitate talking to them again, Actually, there are some ex(es) that I want to talk to, just to clear things out and just want to see how they are doing. I also want my ex to stay as my friends since some of them are my friends or buddy before we had a relationship happy posting
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• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hi red... oh wow..you're earning me tons today..lolz... thanks, what nice words to say...I start discussions from my points of view and I wish to share it with my fellow mylotters... I am very much a human, so I guess that makes a lot relate to my discussions more. Anyways...I am soo close with my exes..especially to 2 of them...they would definitely kill for me loollzzz..they haven't done that, but they are willing to go to that extent...it's just that we are so close and I know our friendship will turly last....
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
Hi, It's not just you who is earning here. hahaha. you see, this is just a two way relationship. sometimes, being a good friend with a friend is very nice. because you know each other already.
• Philippines
28 Sep 09
true red... i never even expected to meet real friends over here... but i am glad i did... hey, you should know you;re one of them!
• China
11 Aug 09
Yes,I do.But it seems a bit embarassed for both of us.After all we are lovers before and now she has her new boyfriend.I just couldn't control myself from thinking about the time when we are together.So for me,it is a fact which is hard to accept.I also find that she is intended to avoid me because she thinks that talking to me as a friend is not easy,even we know that we are still friends.I do believe that time is the best solution and we need time to get adapted to be friend to each other.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 09
hmmm...you still like her, don't u?
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• China
11 Aug 09
Yes,to some degree.However,we can not go back to what we used to be.And she has her new life.I don't want to bother.We both have to move on. Well,it's a little tough but I think I must haddle it.
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• Philippines
30 Aug 09
you know sunshine..that sounds very sad.. however i do wish you get what you're hoping for deep inside..
@deod08 (166)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
I had many past relationship. Eventhough we are through.I always be the first one to approach and let it grow even we are not un a romantic mode. It makes us lucky because we enjoyed each other company and we have bond more than we could imagine.. its nice to have a romantic relationship but its better to have a relatuionship that will last.
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
friendship will last. the romance, will die down sooner or later......
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@deod08 (166)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
Yeah. Its better to choose for a relationship that you know to yourself that it will last. If you had an intimate relationship done before sooner or later it will end up into nothing.
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
good point deod!! very true!
@Informer (803)
• India
11 Aug 09
Hi Friend, I wish, I could but we never met after breakup. Hope one day we will meet like you and start chat with each other.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 09
keep your fingers crossed ! +)
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• India
15 Sep 09
Hi, The concept is good but tough than said or done.I will not be able to do this at all.
• Philippines
11 Oct 09
well, before we talk a lot more often through the phone because we had a long distance relationship at that time but unfortunately my phone broke and i didn't have time to replace them so for now am just going to wait for them to respond through pm and friendster
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• Philippines
11 Oct 09
but knowing you still keep in touch is a wonderful thing.... breaking up is never a reason to lose the friendship right?
@colydf (913)
• China
11 Aug 09
I think if you still have friendship, it is good. But for me, I seldom talk to my EX, because we both find it hard to continue to have friendship. If we still keep in contact, my current boyfriend will be unhappy about it.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 09
oh, if it creates a problem with your bf, I guess you should explain to him what your intentions are... besides you know your boundaries. but if it would help to be a little distant, maybe... just stay friends still
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@grace118224 (1040)
• China
11 Aug 09
Yes but we don't have a meeting for a long time. We just talk online or sometimes by telephone if there's something very urgent. Well i'm a person who are lazy to contact with others but my ex tries very hard to keep this relationship because he does feel a little guilty that he hurt me heavily. Therefore he tries to help out when i'm in trouble. Well we are more like brother and sister now.
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• Philippines
11 Aug 09
i'm glad you're friends again...it does feel great right???
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@Jean25 (344)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
Yes, there is one here in mylot and i still hate him. and since he's got friends, they started to hate me too. isn't that crazy?
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• Philippines
11 Aug 09
lolz!!!!!!!! he's probably reading your respnse right now...and his friends too......... but seriously... give it a little time... one day, you'll bump accross each other and you'll realize you don't hate each other anymore...
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• China
11 Aug 09
I am a very emotional person,so when I really fell in love with a person, I especially treasure the feelings,but also very persistent,I also attach great importance to friendship,I am a very loyal friend,very sincerely.
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
you're EX would be so lucky to have you still as his friend
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• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
One day after brake up with my ex, I call him, but he didn't respond. We brake up with nice and no quarrel but I don't know why he acting like that,,so now I never contact him anymore. If he contact me I will answer, but I don't wanna start first. Actually I don't mind to contact or talk with my ex and I agree with you in save the friendship, but what can I do if he doesn't want it?
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
well... if that's the case... I suggest you keep your pride than keep your friendship... he's not worth it the way he's acting like that
11 Aug 09
At least you are being the bigger person about it, if he wants to play games then leave him be and dont spend your time worrying about it
• Indonesia
11 Aug 09
Yes,that's why i never contact him anymore, not because I don't appreciate him, but because he didn't want it and I don't need him too.. Yep, that's a waste of time thinking or trying to contact him.. Thanks for the comments from you two
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
wow, i envy you. how i wish that me and my ex's are talking like friends or bestfriends. because all of them are not in good terms. waaaaaa!!! i really dont know why their so mean at me. well the important is i dont have any hatred and anger with them. LOL
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
i guess maybe because our relationship lasted for years and we can't just throw away the friendship...
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
same with me, and we have a kid honestly. we live together for almost four years, and were separated for two years ago. and till now were not friends. LOL well and my other ex's. well not my bad.
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
you fell bad about it? i mean you don't feel like it's a waste at all??? I'm a single mom too,I don't know how I managed to stay close with men I've dated in the past , even my son's dad..... but it gives me the peace of mind =)
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
11 Aug 09
Yup.. I'm still friends with many people that I have dated in the past. We were friends before we dated, and if we get along AFTER the end of a relationship, great. If the new person that I date doesn't like it, too bad. They were my friend probably before the new crush came along, and will probably be around as my friend longer than that new person will be in my life.
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
go girl!!! I like the attitude! tnz for d reply zoey!
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
11 Aug 09
LOL.. Thanks. Personal experience serving me well since 1995 ;)
• Philippines
11 Aug 09
lolz!!! it's better u have it your way than the other........ we're not kids anymore...=) happy myLotting
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
13 Aug 09
The past is the past. I have no problem talking to my ex. We dont. Probably because his present feels im a threat. I dont know why. I had it before dont want it no more. No thanks you can have him. You can try to live happy ever after. I know i will.
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
LOLLLZZZZ.... very well said.... tnx jd!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
13 Aug 09
Ya, especially when children are involved. I guess the ex thinks that water is thicker than blood. Its ok they are grown now a they dont give him a second of their time either. I never talked bad about him to the kids. They just figured him out for themselves.
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
oh jdy!! That's exactly what happend between my son and his dad..I never said anything bad abot his dad.. he just realized his worth...
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
If possible not anymore. Don't like to talk to get away from pain that she created. I want to be alone and want some space to let the pain goes out...If in some cases. Why not to talk with her? have a great day!
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
tnx aerous!!! happy myLotting!
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
13 Aug 09
Your welcome, my dear friend. How about you? Did you feel the same? happy mylotting!
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
hey aerous how are you friend!!! I only got the chance to go back to this discussion today and noticed your response!
@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
hi potofgold!^^ i still talk to my ex. but we're not like long time bestfriends just like how you are with your ex. we're still friends though. no grudges or whatsoever. sometimes my ex comes over in our town and i'm there to give him a tour or help him go wherever he wants to. past is past. let bygones be bygones. whatever happen happened. we can just learn from it and charge it to experience. but we're the ones who are living today and that what's matters.
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
you said it so well secret... I just marked you BR!
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@secretbear (19472)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
thanks for the best response.^^
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
you deserve it!
@Red0426 (23)
• Canada
13 Aug 09
I still remain friends with my most recent ex, he actually has helped me through some health issues. We broke up two years ago, during that time he met someone else, but they only lasted 4 months. Since then she has tried to remain in contact with him, but he does not want any contact with her at all. But he does with me, so I do think it also may depend on how long you are with someone. We were together for 10 years.
• Philippines
14 Aug 09
i guess you have had gone through something more special than he had with her=)
• Canada
14 Aug 09
That's true too, we shared a history together. We went through a lot together. Their short time was sexually based.
• Philippines
15 Aug 09
sounds like you had a great relationship...i know what u mean.. been there!=)
@mama_bear (1124)
• Canada
11 Aug 09
yeah i still talk to my ex, it is one of those weird things. we broke up becase of a geographical thing, we had to break up because he went back to australia. if things were different we would still be together. but we were the best of friends before we started dating so our friendship remained intact we talk all time time, and it works out well because there is a 14 hour time difference between us. we still advise each other and carry out friend duties long distance.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
tnx mama......... see, you could still have the friendship.... and it feels great right?
@mama_bear (1124)
• Canada
12 Aug 09
yeah it does and i can confide in him and tell him anything and i know that he will not judge me, and he knows where most of my skeletons are hidden. you know the saying that goes a friend will help you hide and a god friend will help you hide the body. well he falls into the latter camp. he would totally help me to hide a body if need be. he would even donate an organ to me if i needed one. we are pretty tight. and even if some time passes before we see each other, when we do see each other it is like that time never passed. we are basically the same person. so girl/boyfriends may come and go, but i know that we shall be going strong in the future, we have plans to end up in the same nursing home *lol*
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
wow mama... you and your ex shares a very tight bond there... i admire you both for that! it's funny how you described it... but if he's willing to do all that for you...oh boy... marry him!L:Olz
• United States
11 Aug 09
I have one Ex that I'll never speak to again if it's at all possible, and a couple more that I still see and have a friendly relationship, and lastly, one who is my best friend in the entire world and I couldn't live without. The latter, I speak to every day, the few in the middle I talk to occasionally if we happen to see each other when friends get together and I still adore them as friends. The one I never speak to can cease to exist for all I care. He made my life miserable while I was with him and he's not going to do it now that I'm not.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
LOLZZZZZZZZ the one you never speak to...you really sound you still hate him....
• United States
12 Aug 09
He beat me up a couple times, emotionally abused me. So yeah, I really hate him.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
oh,you do have a reason to hate him.. now that you told me... even if i don't know him, i hate him already.. never have respect for guys like that!Q
• United States
11 Aug 09
I have a couple ex's from high school and I still talk to them if I see them in the store or somewhere. I saw one of my ex's at the race track because his brother races the little legend cars and we stopped and spoke. I also have some of my ex's on my facebook page and we will talk to each other every once in a while. There is no physical connection anymore we are just being nice and keeping in touch. My husband doesn't care if I speak to them because he knows I'm his wife and I'm not going anywhere. He trusts me and I trust him too.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
your husband is level-headed and I admire him for that... tnx sweet!
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
me i do not talk to my EX anymore..there is so much bitter words whne we parted and I think it is too hard to repair that already. if we will be friends again it woold be great. but it is not the right time for that. nice discussion friend!
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
I respect that wcw!!! you would know when the right time is
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I still communicate with her. We haven't talked in a long time. But we are friends on Facebook so we do "talk" in that sense :) She's busy up in the mountains with her new hubby and her work and I'm busy down here on the valley floor with my new family.
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
that's wonderful fwid!!!! coz ... you really don't have to be enemies rght?
@fwidman (11519)
• United States
12 Aug 09
After 20 odd years there would be no point in being enemies After the kids all grew up we just realized that we were headed in different directions as people and everything was friendly, even the divorce
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
20 years is about enough time for the wounds to heal fwid...