What if to maturity you will know that you was adopted? want find natural parent
August 11, 2009 1:48pm CST
Many people know the truth when they are mature, i mean that they know that was adopted. Many don t want to know who was natural and biological parents, bur are many who want to find natural parents, just to know all about theirs parents. If you will know that you was adopted, you will want to know who was your real parents, and will blame them or try to just to say where come your blood? Will you apreciate much more your actual parents because they love you , or will blame them that don t say to you that you was adopted?
21 Aug 09
If I knew that I was adopted, I would want to find my natural parents, so that I would have a better idea of where I came from, of my family medical history. If I was closed with my adopted parents, I would still remain close with them, however if my biological parents were nice people, I could have a relationship with them too.
12 Aug 09
The parent who never came or bother to meet me and praise me at times cannot be my parents or i will not bother to find them too. at times when i needed them, they wern't there. for me, the one who made me upto this level are the real parents and one who left me in the dark world cannot be any one's parents and thus should not be treated so.
12 Aug 09
I an not an adopted daughter but in some cases I observe that if a son or daughter discover that they are adopted in their later years. It is a painful, confusing and sad situation. Some become bitter and rebellious and even blame the adopted parents. They ask why they only told about their biological parents when they are already older. Some wish to be told when they are still younger. But, many parents who adopt are hesitant to tell the truth as they think it will have affect the child mind and his attitudes. I have known cases where despite knowing at a latter period that they adopted they feel disappointed but regain thei consciousness. When, realize they become better with their adopted parents than their biological mother. Of course the love remain but other show hatred to their biological mother while other still wish to met their biological mother despite being abandon. Thus, at the end he got two mother, but most adopted children remain strong with their ties with the parents whom they already known for a long time rather than the person whom they just meet..
12 Aug 09
That will be a hard situation for me. I will ask my parents why they don't say this truth. I will more appreciate parents who adopt me. Almost all woman can give birth but not all woman can be a mother. It's different thing, give birth and a mother. I will ask the full story. After that, I wanna see my biological parents. If I meet them, I won't say I'm their child first. I will try to get information as many as I can and based on that information, I will decide, they actually let me to be adopted because of financial, didn't have any other choice or because they actually never want me? If the reason is acceptable, I will reveal the truth. If the reason because they don't want me, I will left them forever. They don't want me and I don't need them too.
• United States
11 Aug 09
Hello, Icesmile! I have an adopted cousin, and I think I would share her attitude. She always felt that her "parents" having chosen her was far more important than someone who didn't keep her happening to have made her, and she never cared to find out who her real mother or father were. My adopted children all knew and were in touch with their real parents, because they were adopted as pre-teens for the most part. They were either runaways or throw-aways, meaning their parents were not taking care of them properly or they were no longer wanted in their homes. Most were troubled and in trouble, and raising them wasn't easy, but they were loved as much as natural children and all turned out really well. A lot of them call me "Other," since they know their original mothers.
11 Aug 09
Hello Icesmile, love for adoptive parents does not diminish. It gets transformed into gratefulness, and that covers the genuineness of the love that exists between the child and his or her adoptive parents. And yes, every child would like to know more about their parents. Adopted child is no different. When the adopted child realizes that he or she was adopted, and that his or her parents are alive, there is an intense urge to meet them, not because there is some genetic link through blood but because the child goes through a period of rejection. He or she does not want to know or face the truth, and goes to his or her parents to find out the reasons for which he / she was given away.
11 Aug 09
I would love my adopted parents more, yet I would still love my biological parents. Maybe they wanted to raise me, yet something prevented them from that happening. I wouldn't blame them for this reason. I feel that every person has the desire to learn about their blood and roots.
• United States
11 Aug 09
My husband was in a situation very similar to this, he was adopted by his father only. He found out when he was 16 years old that his dad wasn't his biological father, and this hurt him a whole lot. The fact that when he went to get his driver's license he found out that the last name that he had carried all of his life wasn't ever really his last name was a big part of it. After he graduated from high school he decided to try to find his biological father, but never succeeded. He did, however, meet his biological aunt who bascially told him that his father wanted nothing to do with him. I think that made him appreciate his dad that he grew up with a whole lot more. Also, my best friend found out when we were 22 years old that she had a full older sister. Her parents hadn't been married when Susan was born and Susan as an adult decided to find her biological parents. She called their home looking for her mother only to have her biological father answer the phone. She had three full biological siblings that she didn't know about. Susan is now very much a part of their family and also the family that she grew up with, surprisingly the two families have become very close.