When you have problems in life you ask help or just manage yourself?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
August 11, 2009 3:00pm CST
All in life, soon or later, will be fine, even is hard, and sometimes is almost imposible to imagine that will be good. But all in life will be ok, just time can resolve all, and patient. When is hard for you in life you ask help from others? or just wait and say..."tomorrow is another day"
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@rosepedal64 (4192)
• United States
12 Aug 09
icesmile, why do you feel the need to solve your own problems? You can get help from others, but it is just an opinion on most subjects. Have you ever thought that maybe someone can give an open light, make you see things in different way, and possible have the correct answer on the subject? Don't be afraid to ask for some kind of help with your problems. It won't make you a less of a person for asking that question. Hey you stated your feelings in here on this problem of yours and just maybe you can get the helpful answer. I come here for help on various subjects.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
12 Aug 09
Hi , i am one who are very independent, and i learn all my life that i must manage myself my problems, all peoples want something return if they help you...so, better for me to deal with my problems
@tonyllenium (6267)
• Italy
11 Aug 09
in reality i think it would be better if you can hav some people that can give you an help when you have a problem in life...but personally i will manage it by myself also because i have not people normally to ask an help or better i know that in the majority of cases people around me can' give me one good help and so i will do it by myself as natural!!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
11 Aug 09
you are right, in those days, people don t like to help unconditionaly
• United States
11 Aug 09
Hello again! I'm not good at asking for help at all. I try to take care of everything myself, and only ask for help if I can't handle things. That's very rare, fortunately.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
11 Aug 09
Hi, i am like you all time i handle myself...but sometimes i am a little tired..i am sure that you are too..
@wolfie34 (26881)
• United Kingdom
11 Aug 09
I am forever asking for help and advice and I either come to Mylot where I know my friends will rally around and help me and give me some invaluable advice as to how I can sort my problems out and what I need to to do or I go to my therapist who I see on a regular basis. We all need help at times and we all need to feel that we can reach out to get help, going alone can be traumatic and worrying, so if we have friends or can contact people through Mylot etc we can get the support we need to help us solve problems and to make life more bearable.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
11 Aug 09
Hi, is good to ask help, just i never ask help, i try to handle with my problems, is very hard to accept others help
@murtuza89 (513)
• India
12 Aug 09
I prefer to manage it myself. I prefer to give it a try myself. However after all my efforts fail, then I consult others. But as far as possible I solve my problems myself. 'Help yourself' is what I believe in. Everybody should try solve their problems themself. Otherwise it shows immaturity and lazyness.
• United States
12 Aug 09
murtuza, Are you a loaner or do you have a mate? If you are loaner then maybe that is why you want to solve everything on your own. When you get that mate then I think you will start to share your problems with that mate. The mate seems to be the first person you consult with. Don't you think.
• India
13 Aug 09
I am not a loaner. As I said, I just believe in doing my stuff myself. I don't want to depend on others advice. However if the job is really out of my reach then I do believe in taking help from others.
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
24 Sep 09
Hey, Well if I have a problem or problems in my life, I just manage it myself. I have found that friends are totally useless, unless they are true ones. I have never had a true friend in my life time though. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
• United States
12 Aug 09
I usually ask for help but sometimes i try to manage on my own.
@mtvmtv (601)
• India
12 Aug 09
I always tries to solve the problems myself. But don't hesitate for help if needed.
@cindyhxf (1447)
• China
12 Aug 09
when i met problem before.i tried to manage by myself.or i talked with my good friends and i felt better after i said out.i didn't expect they can help me a lot for my problems.sometimes they just listened didnt say anything.that's enough for me.i know all problems will solve by time.tomorrow is another day,yes,i think this way always.we don't know what will happen tomorrow.maybe bad things today it will be better tomorrow.things will change.any problem isn't problem after we die
• Malaysia
12 Aug 09
i will say i am kind of independence person, i always try to solve the problems myself if possible. if things really bad and not within my mean to solve, then only go for help.
@cindy27 (130)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
it depends upon how hard the the problem will arise. but as far as i can i always see myself dealing with my own problems even keeping it as long as i can cause im a really private person. Everything will surely pass just what my mom is always saying so i got it until i grew up. specially when i can conclude that if the problem is just a matter of time and i cannot really do anything about it. But if the problem is just to hard to bear. No man is an island, sometimes not just by asking for help but someone could listen to you is just what we needed to unload us and it really works for me:)
@warren06 (71)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
when i have a problem i rather solve it in my own, without informing other people.. because i know that you can solve your own problem,,
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
12 Aug 09
hello ice, first thing i do is pray i get the strength to face the problem. at the same time, i get to tell other very close friends, but mostly i tell my mom. after that, little by little i get to find within me what to do and slowly i solve the problem. i try not to be emotional when i find that it is difficult. just ask my mom's and God to guide me. happy mylotting, ann
@marianna45 (1400)
• Romania
12 Aug 09
hi there, no, when i am in trouble, i never ask help from somebody, i want and like to deal myself with my problems. I don t know if is good or bad, but i learn in my life that no body help you with a reason, and i hate when, after a while, a person say to me...do you remember when i help you?
@jugsjugs (13046)
11 Aug 09
When i have a problem i now try to sort out what ever the problem is by my self as that way i do not feel like an inconvenience to anyone and also i do not owe anyone a favor in return.I think that tomorrow will be better than today as that way i do not worry about it so much.Happy Mylotting.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I am a pretty independent individual, however, I will ask for help under certain circumstances. I try very hard not to get too many people involved in my personal affairs. Some people thinks that I am too "closed-mouth" about my affairs. There is not one person that I know who can do everything for themselves. Even in a grocery store you must as for help if the product you want and need is on the top shelf. There are legal, medical, financial, etc. matters that one most likely will need some professional advice with. If a person doesn't ask for help when there is serious trouble in his or her life, rethinking that decision could save them a lot of grief in the future.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
11 Aug 09
I try not to ask anyone for anything if at all possible. I don't like having that on me to be used against me later. It is always good to ask someone to talk, but ...I know that there are also times when you have to ask and I really hate it