Do you think it is necessary to buy expensive gifts for friends when can't ?

@ajithlal (14568)
India
August 16, 2009 12:54am CST
Sometimes people buy huge expensive gifts for the sake of friendship and sometimes they might not be able to afford it. Do you think it is necessary to buy expensive gifts for more money which we can't afford? Sometimes I feel guilt for not buying expensive or costlier gifts and most times I go for cheap gifts.
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@youless (87602)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Aug 09
I think it doesn't make a sense to buy a gift that we can't afford. If you buy it for your good friends, I don't think your friends will accept it comfortable because it is just so expensive. Perhaps he/she has to return you another expensive gift one day and this is a pressure. I love China
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@wolf2999 (213)
• China
3 Sep 09
I love china too.where are you from? I think my best friends do not accept my expensive gift.Because they knows my situation.Gift is renciprocity.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Mar 12
I also think it is not good to give expensive gifts to friends and to accept gifts from friends.
@fwangaa (3058)
• China
16 Aug 09
i don't think it is neccesary to buy an expensive to your friend, if your friend don't need that gift. i have be given a lot of expensive gift. but most of them i don't need neccesary, and they also give me a big heavy to my back. so you can make a gift what your friend need or the gift full of your heart even not expensive.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
5 Aug 12
I think it is not necessary to buy expensive gifts to people who care us and most times they will understand it.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
29 Nov 12
I think money can never bring good friends and only love and care makes good friendships.
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
Gifts need not be expensive. It is the thoughts that counts.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
1 Jan 11
I also think that thoughts counts more than the expensive things.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
28 Nov 12
I think the way we love and care for our friends matters more than the expensive gifts we present them.
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
29 Nov 12
I think the value of the gift is not important. Although there are times that I do buy expensive gifts for special people but for me, what matter a most is the thought that comes along with it. Another factor that I think is important is the usefulness of the item to the person who is going to receive it.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
2 Dec 12
I think it is mostly the friendship that is more important in ur lives and the quality of time we spend with our friends.
@Shavkat (50202)
• Philippines
20 Aug 12
We need to be practical in giving gifts, unless we wanted to be showy to other people. We can give gifts that is handy, not that expensive. A simple thought of remembering the person is far more important than giving luxurious gifts.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
2 Dec 12
i also think that the giving gifts especially expensive ones are for showing people than the real friends.
@marguicha (83792)
• Chile
19 Aug 12
Gifts are just tokens of love. They have nothing to do with the money you spend on them but on the energy of love you spent thinking what your loved one would like. I make jams and other nice things to eat for Christmas. When I was younger and my eyes and hands were better, I did some embroidered gifts that meant little money and lots of love. I have come to hate the word "buy". There are lots of things in this world that money cannot buy and they are the most coveted.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
2 Sep 12
I also now think that gifts have nothing do with money and most probably the gifts only shows the token that we care.
• United States
29 May 12
Well I've had a different perspective on this one. You see I had a friend who would buy me expensive gifts and I would buy her what I could do. But she always out did me, I felt bad. However, when we were teens my Mom fed her and my family took her places her parents would not for several years so I kinda felt like it was her turn to spoil me since she now had the means. Only though in time to find out she could not afford any of the things she bought as everything was on credit and in time it caught up to her.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
14 Nov 12
I also think sometimes we might feel bad when our friends buy expensive gifts for us and we might not be able to buy like that because of the cost.
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
14 Nov 09
i think its good to present huge expensive gift to friends its not for the sake of friendship but because you want to see smile on their faces. if you cant afford it then buy something very important for that person then explain how you think thats best this time
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@Hatley (163766)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 09
if you have to buy huge expensive gifts to make someone smile then you have rather chintzy friends, my friend. I smile when i get any gift.
@esteria (396)
• India
16 Aug 09
well it is never about cheap or expensive gifts. It is about knowing what the person likes the most and what he or she will need at that time. When i go shopping for gifts, then my eyes only search for things that my friend may like. The price of the gift depends on the need and liking that the gift has. I mostly always end up buying gifts far more expensive than that permissible in my budget but when i see the happiness in my friends face it gets compensated.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
21 Aug 12
I think it is a good idea to buy things people need and wanted rather than going for expensive gifts and going budget wise is also good.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
I only give expensive gifts to those people I love. I have a bestfriend of whom I am giving all she wanted as long as I can. Of course, there is a limit. For my finances have a limit, too. But as long as I can afford it, I will give my bestfriend anything.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
30 May 12
I also think most times we need to buy gifts that we can afford rather than gifts that we cannot afford.
@stephcjh (32385)
• United States
16 Aug 09
I do not think it is necessary to spend beyond your means. I think you should only spend what you can afford. If they are a true friend, they will understand and not expect something you really do not have the money for.
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
20 May 12
I also think the cost and expensive gifts do not bring friendship and we should always spend according to the money we have.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
16 Aug 09
Don't feel guilty at all.In any relationship the gifting mind alone is seen and not the value of the gift is counted upon.If the receiver counts the value,then he/she is not needed to be taken as a serious friend.So,don't spend much when you can't afford and your friend can understand you.Cheers!
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
14 May 12
I also think it is better to spend money how one can afford.
@veejay19 (3592)
• India
16 Aug 09
It is not what you give or how expensive or cheap your gift is that matters, it is the thought and the feelings that is most important.Friendship should be unconditional and not based on what you give or don`t give. If your friend expects you to give costly gifts and puts a price on your friendship, know that such friends are bogus and not worth having.
@ajithlal (14568)
• India
11 Feb 12
I also think friendship should be unconditional.
• Malaysia
16 Aug 09
Well you do not need to feel bad for doing this. A gift is precious is all ways no matter if its expensive or cheap. The thought cost more than anything else. It never matters if the gift is expensive or not. Feel good about it. Atleast you give one compared to nothing. :)
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@ajithlal (14568)
• India
30 Nov 09
I also think money does not matters and it is always the gift that matters.
• United States
19 Aug 09
Stop the guilt. The idea of it's the thought that counts has really gone out of the window. There is too much pressure placed on people to buy extravagant gifts that mean nothing except, I can buy an extravagant gift. In this economy, people should be more understanding, especially friends. I have only given out cards to commemorate birthdays since the economic downturn. No one has complained, nor have they given me extravagant gifts. Everyone knows sometimes you can and sometimes, you cannot.
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@Hatley (163766)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Nov 09
no ajithlal no do not feel that way as in this economy we all should try to buy inexpensive gifts and just thank God if we do have jobs. a gift from the heart is far better than a very expensive gift with no real love with it at all. I love to get any kind of gift,its the thought more than anything else with me.
• India
22 Aug 12
I agree with you aunty I also not prefer to purchase expensive gift because I have no money then I dont like borrow from others for any purpose. I can give only two gift aunty one is my smile and second one is lots of hugs but here is limited not allowed more haha.... You are ready to accept it.
@loveshop (127)
• Turkey
20 May 12
Friends will appreciate on what ever you give for present to them. They will appreciate it whether the gift is expensive or non. The value of friendship is not from your expensive gift. Its from your loyalty, honestly, kindness and truely heart friend
• Indonesia
20 May 12
I dont think it is necessary to buy expensive gift if we cannot afford it, our friend will appreciate our gift whatever we will give to her/him, the friendship itself value more than any expensive things. I have this friend she is from a rich family and I was confuse what kind of gift to give for her birthday, so I give her a homemade gift and made the birthday gift in vintage style, she really liked it and she kept talking about how creative I am and how good is the gift and her mother even talked to me that she likes it, that was so nice of her and her family. Im so happy she appreciated my gift even it is not expensive gift. I do the same to my friends, I dont see the price of the gift they gave but I value the friendship more than anything.
@vjsinduja (1035)
• Sri Lanka
20 May 12
No matter if the gift you purchase for your friend is expensive or cheap. All you need to sure is that, will ur friend like it and will it be useful for him/her... If you really can't afford to buy an expensive, you may for your budget ..All u need to make sure is that ur friend will like it
@aprilsong (1886)
• China
29 Mar 12
Well, i think it is not necessary to do that. Of course, receiving gifts from friends is a pleasure for most people. But for ture friends, they should not take the prices of the gifts as criterions of how deep their friendship is. If you recieve a very expensive gift from one of your friend, and you know his or her financial situation very well. And you know the gift is out of his ability to pay. Don't you feel a little uncomfortable? I think the answer is yes. Therefore, if you tight your belt for a long time to buy an extremly expensive gift for one of your friends. If he or she is a ture friend, he or she may not so happy. But will worry for you. Buy items beyond one's ability to pay is not necessary at all. We should never judge friendship with the prices of the gifts.