What you will do after you know the truth?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
August 16, 2009 11:17am CST
So you've confirmed that the b-----d who wasted the last few years of your life has been cheating on you.What will be your first thought? You want your dignity back.Your dignity is there,but you are to angry and can t find your dignity!!He never find his dignity again!!! You want to stop the pain.You can t, just because the pain is so deeply. You want him to feel the pain, the same way you have. He can t, just because he can t feel pain, he just feel good, because you are disperate. Actually, you want him to suffer more. He will suffer just because he was stupid and let you catch him!!!
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12 responses
@rajupaul (975)
• India
16 Aug 09
Dear Icesmile Don't lose your smile. Try to keep smile on this pain. God will help. I believe. But do something from yourself also. Both of you try to seat together face to face and talk clearly. Asked what does he want. If you find he is not assisting you don't force him. Do whatever you can do to make him understand. If still he cheat you of give pain take assistance of your country law. After all I believe don't take pain more and take wise decision to quite from himself. I know it is not so easy. But you have to strong enough to handle the situation. Bye . Good night.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
16 Aug 09
Hi, is just a ipothetic questions, is not my case, i just want to know, and i am sure that are many peoples why want to know other opinions about this; Any way, thank you...be sure that if somebody cheated on me, i never ask this kind of questions, i just say "good bye"my smile is here, even is a ice smile...hahaha
@rajupaul (975)
• India
16 Aug 09
Dear friend I don't meant to say bye as because it night I am going to leave the cafe. That why I said. Sorry I hurt you Please don't mind. Now tell me what do you want to do.
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@rajupaul (975)
• India
16 Aug 09
Dear friend you have done a joke. THanks I was surprised. Bye Good night.
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@Niah1976 (733)
• Philippines
16 Aug 09
It's really hard. But first, you have to surrender everything to God. You have to f you want to leave your partner, then leave. If you wanna stay, I guess you have to talk to him and tell everything you feel. You have to have a cheerful disposition in life. Books that tackle heartbreaks will be a great help for you my dear. You will never feel good in revenge. Just try to forgive him. Don't let yourself be depressed because it will swallow you. Be strong and accept that it is a part of life that should make you a better person. You will find someone who will love you. Just have faith in God and everything will be just fine. Good luck and God bless your heart. Happy my lotting to you!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
16 Aug 09
Hi, you right, God can help a lot, i want to say, trust in Him, this can be a good advice
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
dearest ice, ive been away for a while and have many things to catch up with and now i see this. i can feel the anger in your discussion. but there is nothing that could be resolved when one is angry. and pain will not subside when one wants revenge. take it from my experience. it took me almost a year to get over a broken heart and there was no peace in my heart then. and when i looked back, i saw the damage and the neglect i have caused to my loved ones who have been there all the time and giving support. let go ice, and move on. dont be desperate over spilled milk. he is not worth it. ann
• Canada
17 Aug 09
Not much you can do when the Truth hits you in the head...You just sit there and hopefully learn...if you don't then you can expect the same lies to come around.
@hardino (23)
• India
17 Aug 09
i would try to console the person who didnt i trust before i heard the truth,if he is innocent,i would beg pardon.
@sblossom (2170)
17 Aug 09
I think sometimes we do need to be prepared to take any pain from any relationship. Nobody can guarantee we meet the right person in our first time. So we have to suffer from any pain then go on to reach the last destination. Even the truth is very cruel and not acceptable we still need to be a strong and accept it. For any relationship the most important is that to keep you happy at the first position always. So even the relationship is over at least you can protect you from big hurt.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
17 Aug 09
I can't get past cheating, so I will break up with him, better that then argue everyday, I need to know why, why did you feel the need to do this to me, to us, there is a reason he did it , but we will never really know what that is, some woman can handle it, I can't so I move on,Great post, what I have learned throughout the years is a man can cheat on us, but if his woman cheats on him, he can not deal with it, why in my opinion is just the thought of another man touching his woman is too much for him to handle, but he is too stupid to realize that is exactly how we feel.
• United States
17 Aug 09
Well it depends on how he cheated on me and with who. I'd find a way to humiliate him first before breaking up with him. I'd have to make sure that he truly was cheating though and then I'd make sure to get him back in the worst way possible that wouldn't land me in jail or in some type of trouble with the law. I'd want to make sure he was hurt in some way before breaking up with him so I'd let them know they wouldn't get away with doing that to me.
• United States
16 Aug 09
Hi, Icesmile! First, he wasn't stupid because he was caught. He was stupid to do anything to be caught at! Revenge is hardly the answer. It just makes a bad situation worse. Dignity requires eliminating all signs of this person from one's life and moving on to someone much, much better!
@mariposaman (2967)
• Canada
16 Aug 09
hi I'm sorry that your partner has cheated on you. I am always surprised that women seem to fight over the same men while others sit alone at home. Know you will not get your dignity back however do not transfer your feelings towards all men, we are not all the same.
@marianna45 (1400)
• Romania
16 Aug 09
In this kind of situations, for sure is better to finish this relationship, just because next time he will cheat somebody again. Who cheated once will make this again and again, no matter what. Is hard, of course, i know very well what mean when somebody cheated on you. And is very hard because you can t trust in this kind of peoples again, so a lot of people will pay for him mistake.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Aug 09
I'd just want out. There is this wonderful little thing that I say to myself that always helps me in cases in which I've been wronged. "What comes around, goes around". Believe me, it does. They may not pay for what they do right away or even by my hand but these things have a way of working their way out.