How many times you have helped people not related to you

India
August 16, 2009 7:27pm CST
Hello mylotters I read somewhere that whatever you give to others without any expectations,comes back to you many folds. And I believe in this. So I offer my help whenever someone needs it. Particularly is some one needs help for education purposes I do help to the extent I can. Does anyone share my belief in this regard? will you help someone or give some excuse? Happy mylotting
20 responses
@emilie2300 (1892)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Yes I do believe this also. It always come back in a good way for you. It is like doing something good and later on when you least expected the favor will be returned to you. Or if you don't help maybe one day you will need help and no one will be there to help you because you didn't lend a helping hand to help any one. I always help people even if there not related to me. It makes me feel good and it is like a reward for my self that I have done a good thing today or any day. I feel you just never know one day you may need help your self and the favor will be returned.
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• India
17 Aug 09
Hello emilie, Thanks for your response. Yes you are correct. It is very true that the unslefish help you offer is mostly returned to you manyfolds. I have several experiences. I Have a nice day and happy mylotting
• United States
18 Aug 09
Yes I have also and the most rewarding thing is feeling good about doing it.
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• India
1 Sep 09
Hello Emilie I feel feeling good is the best reward anyone can have. If one feels good then good health follows automatically and with that every good thing in life.I hope you agree with me Have a nice day
@smart44 (511)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
i can't count since its not necessary to count how many times you help the needy instead stay helping them without any expectations that they will pay you back. The Lord will be the one who looks after you. And all the helps you gave to all the needy will return to you over flowing.
• India
2 Sep 09
Yes smart44 you are correct. When we start counting our deeds then the purpose of the deed is lost. It is very true that He is watching us constantly and knows what we do or don't.It is simply our work to be of some use to anybody who needs it and then continue our journey. Happy mylotting
@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
1 Sep 09
I do agree with you that whatever you give to others without any expectations, it will comes back to you many folds. Used to be when I do something to people, I expect that same people will do the same to me, but through experienced, I don;t hold that belief anymore. Now I just help anyone without thinking of gaining something abck in return. What I always put in my mind, is that there will be time that I need help, so, I cannot be stingy in offering help to other. Happy Mylotting
• India
1 Sep 09
Hi UCUE thanks for your response. Yes, when we see some one in trouble, if we keep ourselves in their place even for a minute then we cannot stop ourselves from offering to help.Whether we get back or not. But one thing is sure that we will get help when needed may be some unknown corner
@radx682 (327)
• India
17 Aug 09
I remember helping people who are not my blood relations...I feel very happy helping such people because they are very grateful than the blood relations...I do not know the number of times I helped people because I personally feel that these things should not be counted but you should continue doing it...:-)
• India
17 Aug 09
Hi radx thanks for your response. I agree with you that we should not bother about other peoples reactions and continue what we are doing. For many years I have been in administrative post. There were many employees of lower grades who were not confirmed of their services for many years sometimes morethan 10. I have always made it a point to confirm their services before I leave that place. Even now I receive calls fromthem enquiring about my and family's welfare and believe me it is a great feeling Happy mylotting
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Yup, i do share the same belief as you. But I'm not looking for any good as in return, i just tend to put myself in people's shoes. Last time i used to fetch people which is not related to me when I'm on my way back to the hostel too. Especially when it's night time, it can be very dangerous for a girl to walk back by herself. So, one day i saw this girl walking back by herself and it's going to rain, so I made a u-turn so that I can fetch her. I invite her to join me, and by the way I'm a girl also which I don't think I can do anything bad to her. That 5 minutes drive back to our hostel really gave me the awkward feeling. when we reached, she looked at me weirdly, and without a 'thanks', she quickly get out from my car. Sigh.. I'm speechless, since after that I'm a bit reluctant to fetch people anymore.
• India
17 Aug 09
Hello angel thanks for your response. Yes sometimes we comeacross people who behave as though it is our obligation to halp them. The other day it so happened that a girl was given a lift and after alighting from the vehicle she just walked away without bothering to utter a minimum thanks. Such incidents really puts one in an awkward situation.From next time we become cautious about whomwe are helping Happy mylotting
• Malaysia
18 Aug 09
Ya, sometimes people response can make us fed up to help out other people. But i think that we should not just let this 'people that take for granted' distract us from trying to help people. In my four years doing degree, i did help quite a lot of girl, i mean fetching anonymous girl while I'm on my back to the hostel. Last few months ago, i met this girl and she asked me whether i did fetch her back few years ago, and she so grateful for what i did. I believe if we try to help other people, may be just a very small favor, it can mean a lot for somebody else.
• India
18 Aug 09
Hi angel thanks for responding. Yes you are correct. We should not be let down by some particular incident and stop our good deeds. We cannot afford to lose the mental satisfaction such deeds give us. Happy mylotting
@izardy (61)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
i love to help people, but nowadays lot of criminal take advantage on our kindness. recently what had happened in my place is when a fren of mine trying to help someone he found laying unconscious in the middle of road, it happened at nite time when not so many vehicle pass by. so when he's trying to help this guy suddenly out of nowhere one of the guy fren came and ask my fren his wallet, and the guy who pretend to collapse woke up and help his fren. with this kind of incident it make me think twice to help..
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Hi Izardy, this situation happened to me before. My friend and I met this situation where there was a girl lying on the road. There was other kid stopping our car asking for help. If it was me alone, i will never get out from the car and check what is happening and it was 2 am that time. But my friend felt we should check whether that girl is ok or not. Then he get out from the car and checked that girl, we brought this girl to the nearby hospital. I'm so glad there is nothing bad happen to us. The things happened to your friend really really make us think twice before helping someone else.
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• India
17 Aug 09
Hello izardy, Thanks for your response. Yes sometimes it happens as you have mentioned. Though we get the urge to offer help from your experience I feel that we should check our neighbourhood also before offering to help someone who ssems to be in need.It always happens that there are always somepeople to take advantage of other's goodness. Happy mylotting
@coolcat123 (4392)
• India
17 Aug 09
I never expect the returns of my helping to others. Actually i just love helping others at times when they need someone. I keep myself in that persons position and feel very bad when no one comes to my help. I always help my friends with studies and ready always to share my knowledge best as i could. More than myself i care for others and this quality has many times left me in problems of loosing things. Here, as u help other by giving your costly materials for them to use and if they not take care or run away with it and dont give you back , how would you feel. So now i have stopped giving things to other instead do them by my being.
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
I share the same belief just as you do. i won't expect a good returns from other people, but i just tend to put myself in other people's shoes.
• India
17 Aug 09
Hello coolcat,thanks for your response. Yes some times people tend to exploit our good nature and try to take advantage of our urge to offer help.But we cannot help it. We can help others in such a way that doesnot put us into trouble and we dont meet any loss. Happy mylotting
• India
17 Aug 09
no way..it ll not work.. please dont expect anything there is no GOD...No rectitude..No virtues.. no give and dont expect... stay calm...live thy life.. cheers... WE ROCK \m/
• India
19 Aug 09
Hello, thanks for your response. If you believe in living life you enjoy it. But I am sure if it happens that in time of possible need some one will be there. Because we do not know what will happen when. Is it not? Anyhow best of luck Happy mylotting
@the_ruler (1446)
• Turkey
17 Aug 09
I did it! Well, it happened so many times. I always help the people who really need my assistance and if I have enough time for it. But I can't say I help people financially very often but whenever someone needs me to do something for him or her I usually feel happy to help.
• India
19 Aug 09
Thanks for your response. Yes it need not be money alwasy. Some kind words at the appropriate instant or helping in teaching some one who cant afford to go for it.Or giving out clothes. anything which was given in time will be appreciated Happy mylotting
@daryljane (3439)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
My mom taught me this belief and i know its true. that when you help out wihtout expecting something in return, it will come back in a thousand folds. And ive help a lot of people in my lifetime, related or not. Some i dont even know. Last week, i was about to cross the street when an old lady is having a hard time walking also about to cross..she walks really slow and everyone is walking fast to cross the street..when i saw her, i went back and assisted her to cross..its not something that you do everyday.. i can just imagine that what if its my grandma crossing the street like that, will someone help her out. So i just imagined that im helping my grandma..
• India
19 Aug 09
Thanks for your response. What you have written is very much correct. Whenever some one approaches for help, immediately we tend to put ourselves or our dear ones in their position. We think what if they are in such position. This happens many a times. This is the feeling I think which urges us to offer help when it is needed. Happy mylotting
@mith018 (57)
• India
17 Aug 09
Yes i have...i have taught i young girl near my house the basic things that she will learn in her school...since her parents din send her to school me and my parents gave our money to spend for her...other than this i have helped animals...i feed few stray dogs outside my house regularly
• India
19 Aug 09
Happy to ge your response. It was very nice of you to have a child whowas very much needy. Also it is clear that you love animals and would like to look after them whenever possible. Keep up the good work Happy mylotting
@hardino (23)
• India
17 Aug 09
i didnt have any opportunity to help people not related to me and my family.so if i get a chance,i would extend my best possible help to the people who are not familiar to me.
• India
19 Aug 09
Hello thanks for the response. We help our family members and it is our duty do so. Hence we should not miss any opportunity to help any one other than the family who are in need of that Happy mylotting
@warren06 (71)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
hello for me if we are going to help people we should not count those help. if we really help because we want. we dont need to count all of those things..
• India
19 Aug 09
Hello thanks for your response. My question was just to know how many more are there who share my thoughts. Yes, when we reach out to help someone we do it at the urge of the moment. Of course we dont keep count as we dont do it as we need not give an account to anybody. Thanks to get your ideas. Happy mylotting
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Well this is an interesting topic. From my opinion, it doesn't matter who you help because you are planting a seed to the individual that you helped; in hope that they may grow and spread out the kindness too. But nowadays, sparing kindness comes in so many forms; ie. monetary, psychology, physical, etc. Thus, you will have to be wise by providing the right form of help to those really in need. Well, still i always believe sharing is caring. Go gal! Go spread the love disease! ;)
• India
19 Aug 09
Hello, thanks for your response. I am very happy to know that there are many who share my thinking. Yes as you have called it is a disease only. It spreads happiness and warmth around you. Happy mylotting
• China
17 Aug 09
Agree. I believe you can be a good volunteer teacher at college.
• India
19 Aug 09
Hi friend, thanks for your response and your complement. You have correctly guessed my career. I have been a teacher and administrator throughout. helping students , parents, and staff year after year, it has become a part of me to help. Thanks and happy mylotting
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
I don't keep an account, but I have helped many people. I don't say no to a person asking for help if I don't have to put so much effort to help the person. There are people who keep on asking hlep, I don't help those people if I feel that the person is taking advantage of me. I also recieved help from many people.
• India
18 Aug 09
Hello thanks for your response. Of course often we come across people who tend to take advantage of our kindness. But never bother. I have seen that whatever help is given comes back to you manyfold.Surprisingly from unexpected corners. So keep up the good spirit. Happy mylotting
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
17 Aug 09
Hi shantha, a nice discussion and yes I have helped a lot of people who are not related to me and even whom I have not met. I had given money to pay the term and exam fees for my son's classmate, as she had lost her father suddenly and as they did not have any other source of income after that she was about to dicontinue her education, now she has graduated and found out a very good job for herself and I am very happy about it. This is just an instance. I have and keep on helping people in different ways according to my capacity.
• India
17 Aug 09
Thanks yogambal for your response. Yes I have often helped people in education of their children.When someone comes and askes for help, it looks as though they are very sure that they will get the help they are seeking.It gives great peasure to see them smiling when they are offered the help needed. Have a nice day
• India
17 Aug 09
Helping others is a very good thing in life. There may be some people who don't believe in doing so. But, according to my experiences in life, helping people really makes me happy and feel good about myself. Even if there is no reward for helping someone, making ourselves feel good about ourselves will really help us in the long run and help us in living a happy life...Now, that's a blessing indeed. My other happy by helping them makes us happier in life.
• India
17 Aug 09
Hi friend thanks for your response. You are absolutely correct. While we help someone, we donot expect anything in return.But the feeling that we are able to halp someone to come out of their difficult situation gives a satisfaction and certainly as you said it makes us feel good. This sense of feeling good in my opinion is very important to remain happy Have a nice day. Happy mylotting
@greenline (14865)
• Canada
17 Aug 09
Hello Shantha. Yes, ofcourse I share your belief. And, I have helped people not related to me many times and in many ways I could. This had to do with education, expenses, training on the job, advice in adjusting to new countries and environments, and more. I am very glad the people I had helped are doing quite well in their careers.
• India
17 Aug 09
Hello friend, Thanks for your response. It is very nice to hear from you that you also share my opinion in this regard. Yes It is great satisfaction to see those whom you have offered help doing well in life. Life is great Happy mylotting
@realan (520)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Definitely! It's important to help out whoever needs it. It doesn't matter to me if someone is related to me or not, if they need help, I will give it. Keep doing your good deeds!
• India
17 Aug 09
hello realan Thanks for your respons.It really gives great pleasure to be able to give relief to some one atleast to some extent Happy mylotting