Do you hate people staring at you?

@daliaj (5689)
India
August 17, 2009 3:24am CST
I hate it people stare at me. I have noticed that people especially guys in my place stare when girls wear western clothes or a little tight dress. I think we should discourage this habit. I feel very irritated when somebody stares at me. Have you ever faced this problem? Do you hate it when people stare at you?
13 responses
@chocsie (262)
• Greece
17 Aug 09
Yeah I don't like it at all. Now, I'm used to it, but earlier it really used to bother me. It's kind of uncomfortable. Here, guys stare at you even if you are dressed normally and modestly. I guess it's just a habit for them. I don't even notice it anymore though.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
Yes, you are right. Many times I felt that guys stare even if you have dressed properly and modestly. I think there is something wrong with the people who stare others. I wonder how you got adjsuted to it. I can't take it and it keeps irritating me the whole day if I come across such an incident. Thanks for the response.
@chocsie (262)
• Greece
17 Aug 09
I definitely agree that it's irritating but throughout my whole life, I've lived in countries where people tend to stare so now I'm just used to it. It doesn't mean I approve of it or anything... I wish they would stop.
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
17 Aug 09
I too hate people who stare at me but I avoid a situation like that especially when guys are around by wearing a proper dress (not tight). It is a natural behavior of men to look at women so why distract them more by wearing tight dress.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
19 Aug 09
I understand that it is a natural behavior of men to look at women, women also look at guys. But, I think men can do it in such a way that the woman won't feel that the man is staring at her. It will give a feeling of uncomfortableness to the woman. You can see that women wear tight or short dresses in western coutries, but no man looks at them. I think the attitude and mentaily of men also should change.
@seanbryan (351)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Aug 09
Hi daliaj! There two things why people stare at you, it might be that you are attractive or there is something unusual from your looks. In either way I must be proud, and gain more confidence as i've got their attention. I just don't mind them as long as they are not talking to me, otherwise it would be a different story if they are whistling at me which is a sign of disrespect. Good Day!
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
You have a differnt view towards peopel who stare at you. You are kind of right, all the people who stare at you may not have wrong attitue. I always fear that they have wrong attitude and it is a sign of disrespect. That is why I feel irritated when somebody stares at me. Thanks for the response.
• United Arab Emirates
17 Aug 09
guys staring at girls that way is just natural i suppose, sure it should be discouraged but then p[robably those type of guys haven't seen such recklessly dressed girls in their lifetime either. I hate it when that happens, but its mostly at clubs and bars where staring and checking one out is required, but when I'm with my hubby or freinds, it does get quiet annoying so I make an effort to expose less and cover more when out with them.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
18 Aug 09
I don't think it is only a problem with exposing. Guys tend to stare even if you are not exposed. I can't completely change my dressing habits for the sake that somebody stares at me. I dress according to the standards of the society. If a guy finds a pretty girl, there is a way to look at her and appreciate her beauty. I feel it should not be done by starting at the girl. Thanks for the response.
• China
17 Aug 09
hi friend.yes.i think i hate people starting at me.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
You are also like me. I hate it too. Thanks for the response.
@fashman (48)
• United States
17 Aug 09
some people belive that the position is by there power. I feel irritated too....but some prople has stick with attitude and they have o change
@webearn99 (1743)
• India
17 Aug 09
I too hate it when people stare at me. If it because I am different. They could be curious, startled or simply taking in a bit of eye candy! All reasons triggered by the way I am. I would take the reason out of it being normal. If I want to be different then then I also would have to take what comes with it!
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
I think you are also like me. I hate people who stare at others. I will never become one among them. I am sure. I look at people; I like people watching, but I will never look in such a way that it irritates the respective person. This is my personal opinion. I think there will be many people with the same opinion. Thanks for the response.
• China
17 Aug 09
I used to feel pressure when I was stared at. But then I kinda get used to stand in the spotlight. I think attracting other's attention makes me more confident.^_^ Good day.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
17 Aug 09
It seems you have a different opinion compared to me. Thanks for the response. I had a thought that everybody hates it when people stare. I don't like to be stared by anybody, at the same time, I won't stare at anybody. I look at people, but I don't give them a feeling that I am staring at them.
@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
17 Aug 09
Depends on how long they state at me. If they stare at me too long I might just go over and ask them why they are staring at me. :D
• Indonesia
17 Aug 09
Yes, I hate it too! I think it's impolite and it really annoyed me. I feel unsafe.. maybe this is too over, but who knows he can do more than stares to me? Even if I take a walk to church every evening (only with t-shirt and jeans), there will be some guys who smoke and gather around stare at me, chuckle, whistle or call me. I feel afraid, really! That's why I will never go around wearing tight dress. I will only wear it if I go by car, not when I walk. Just ignore it and walk as fast as possible daliaj Don't glance or even look at them!
@divkris (1163)
• India
17 Aug 09
May be the guys in your place are not used to the kind of attire you wear! May be they come from remote places where the woman is not allowed to see her own skin Well, i don't mind people staring at me - i take it as a complement and if it is with a drool then it adds up to the complement . I used to be a shy kid in my teens and could not tolerate witht hese stares but then when i grew up, i slowly understood that people stare at you irrespective of your dressing style - so just keep calm and carry on
@radx682 (327)
• India
17 Aug 09
Yes I hate when people stare at me...especially guys...because the very look itself says that they have bad intentions....It is not something to be proud of..it is dangerous if the place is lonely...nowadays if someone stares I stare at them very angrily...I give them back so that they never look at me again.
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
i hate it when people stare at me... it's rude and it makes me feel uncomfortable... so i stare backk at them to make them stop