Does Age Difference Matters In A Relationship?

Philippines
August 17, 2009 8:42am CST
Ive been married for 5years now with my husband and we have a 3 years old son. OUr age difference is so big that u wouldnt think it will work out for so long. We value our marriage and we both work together to make our life worth living for. But sometimes makes me wonder...if age difference does matters in a relationship? Coz sometimes for the life out of me i could not understand...how could i be so much in love to someone more than twice my age.
7 responses
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I don't think age should matter,especially if he makes you happy, sounds like you are very happy and in love that is what matters, me I am 42 so I would possibly date a younger guy in his late 20's, older I would say 60 depending on him, if he is 60 act and look 60 then no I would not date him, age is nothing but a number like most people say, so as long as you are good to me, and can keep up with me, we have no problems, older men now a days are nothing like their age but there are a few that is every bit their age, I would not be happy in a relationship like that.
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Thank u very much. Yes what matters in life is that we are happy with each other. And hope you'll find one that will make u more happy in life. Thanks friend.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Me too, he really needs to hurry up lol, right now i have my grandson to occupy my mind, and my new kitty lol, someone will come into my life before I get too old,glad you have your Mr right.
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
hehehe not to worry he will come...and he will knocking on ur door.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
18 Aug 09
i think sometime it dont, but i know this guy who's 24 and his g/f is in her 40's, and she complain he need to grow up. but i know another girl who in her late 20's and is with someone who's old enough to be her dad too. to me i wouldnt date someone who's old enough to be my mom or young enough to be my daughter. to me it's wrong
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
I fully understand where u are coming from...i cant blame u..coz sometimes also i wonder why im here. But one thing is for sure we had made it work for the last 5 years...
• United States
18 Aug 09
I really don't think that age difference should matter. But in some cases, I think age difference matters when young women or men take advantage of older men and women, like taking all of their money when they die, and they never even loved them. It is horrible that that happens! I just believe that if you truly love someone, then you are meant to be together and get married and be together for the rest of your lives, and that shouldn't make a difference to anyone else and what they say :)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
Thanks, yes u are hundred percent right. But in our case..we both working together, i earned my own money and he got his own money, we share responsibilties.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 09
Well, it is a challenge that you need to upkeep to live and love the man of your choice. Falling in love is great at any age. When you love someone who is significantly older than you, the older partner can slow down and may not be able to keep up with you or with the lifestyle you had years ago. Age difference should not affect any relationship. Consider frankly, what you feel is missing in your life and what you fear. Come to terms with whether your 'couple pace' is shifting or you are facing your mate's mortality and the prospect of being alone or a caregiver.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Thanks. We are giving the best of what we have in this world. On my side,my only fear is losing him...and i always believe in giving full commitment in the family.
@pushkin69 (546)
17 Aug 09
No i dont think that age matters once both people in the relationship are over the age of consent. Obviously this is important as both people need to be able to make decisions as an adult. I think that if two people come together and have found their soul mate then age is just a number. People can grow and mature at different stages of their lives and I sould never say it impossible to fall in love with someone much older or younger that yourself. IT really depends on what stage of your life you are at. It may be a problem for example if one person is older and is ready to settle down and have a family and the other is not considering children and wants to go out a nd party all the time. But that is a stage of live rather than an age, a person can be ready to settle down and have a family when they are young too.
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Yes u are absolutely right. Thanks my friend...more power.
• India
17 Aug 09
i think that age does matter in a relation ship.............and the status you are in i don't think that you should be having any problem...because the mental setting i think its working and the other compatibilities are good....and you have child....so i think you better concentrate on the upbringing of your child.........
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
Thank u very much. Yes we both concentrating for the future of our son..and its a good thing. More power.
• Philippines
13 Dec 09
I don't think age matters in a relationship.what is important is the maturity of the partners.it doesn't matter if you marry a younger or older guy.as long as he is mature enough to take the responsibility in raising a family and is already done with his "wild single boy" days,then he is a good partner.he should be responsible and mature enough to have his own children.marriage is commitment not to be taken lightly.