Does it make you mad when someone takes up all of your time?

@Citychic (4078)
United States
August 18, 2009 12:10am CST
hey friends, has someone ever taken up a great deal of your time and just keep quite because you don't want to hurt their feelings? This happens to be on occasions and even presently this is happening to me. I know that I should stand up more for myself and not allow my time to be used up inappropriately but I seem to have a hard time putting my foot down. What about you? Do you just keep your mouth shut and try to be polite when someone is wasting your time? Like wow, I could have been mylotting or doing some other worthwhile endeavor if all of my time hadn't be used up?? talk to me you guys! I'm really kind of pissed right now!
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
18 Aug 09
I will go crazy if somebody takes up all my time. This happened to me once when I went to Madurai for a visit. We stayed at a hospital and we were giving some donation to the poor people over there. The NGO people who helped us to donate, arranged for a plan. It was like spending the whole days unnecessarily instead of spending 2 hours. I was very annoyed with the plan.
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@Citychic (4078)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hello Daliaj, oh I can't blame you not one little bit, i would have been so pissed off too if somebody would have used up all of my time like that. Especially if it's an event that takes a whole day and it should have only taken like two hours??? I would have been around there ready to go off on somebody, I'm so serious about this. Anyhow it's so hard for me when my patience is being tested. Hope you are better with it than I am, take care and I will see you around. Please be sure to add me as a friend if you havnen't already done so. Take care and have a great day and stay way from that Madurai plac. Hee hee hee!
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I get irritated when it happens often. If someone drops by once in a while and I am visiting, that is one thing, but I really get irritated when people come over all of the time and I can't get anything I need to do finished as a result. I prefer for people to call before they come over so at least I am warned and can quickly re=plan my afternoon.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hey there lynnemg, I know just what you mean, when people come barging in on you unannounced it's enough to make you want to pull your hair right out of your head. Or even their head for that matter, lols. Anyhow I been there before and believe me, it's not a good situation to be in. All I can say is be slow to open your door, Happy mylot and thanks for your response! C ya around...ttyl...Smiles! Please add me as a friend if you haven't already done so, thanks in advance!
• Philippines
24 Dec 11
Hi there Citychic! I am very conscious about time. I do not want wasting it especially if I know that I have lots of things to do. There have been instances when I get to bump into some people who suddenly just takes much of my time by sharing stories on hours end. Sometimes I just tell them that I have to go as I have to do something important or go somewhere. Or, that someone is expecting me. I can do that politely.
• United States
22 Aug 09
I've been there done that. Sometimes I end up getting stuck and having to just nod and yeah yeah alot while getting frustrated, other times I just do a quick gotta go and take off. It can be very annoying though.
@lumenmom (1996)
• United States
21 Aug 09
I use one of the church's computers to do most of my work and was doing okay till I met this lady who is very nice and has a daughter the same age as mine. This worked out well becuase we both needed more uninterrupted time online and having the girls occupied with each other was a reallblessing. I thought that would be it, but then the mother...having all this new found time decides to talk her head off, telling me her whole life story. I thought maybe it will only be for today since she just met me and it will die down tomorrow.....no such luck. So now I just start typing fast and lund and do not look her way, hoping she will get the hint.....It has not worked so far. A couple of times I said I had to get some work done, and she said ok but kept talking!! Now her boyfriend comes with her and he;s a talker too.
• United States
20 Aug 09
Yes I have gone through that. When people have tried to take up all my time when I needed to be at other places to. I try to be polite and tell them I really need to go I have to be somewhere and that we can talk again sometime when we have more time. I try not to be rude but sometimes it does happen when you have to go somewhere.
• Indonesia
20 Aug 09
I wanna stand up more for myself but I can't! I try to be a nice and polite person but when this thing happen, I can't do anything except stay smile and try to sound interested to them,, when actually I really wanna say "just shut up and do you know you have waste my time for hours?! I wanna do something else too!" Actually, this is only happen when one of my friend phone me. He always talk about himself and I don't understand the topic. Like "I win kendo match! Step by step in the right kendo is..." and I don't understand this kendo things! I smile, nod and say "yes, yes" that's all. I find it difficult to concentrate to other job, like do my homework, write, etc, if I'm on the phone. So I stuck in sit position, say "yes...yes" several times. I hope you can say the truth to your friend (I hope me too!) and save your time and be honest at the same time
• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
It depends on who is the person.. If it is someone I'm close to, I won't really mind and take it as I'm spending my time to be with them. But, if it is someone I'm not even close to, I will surely just tell them they are wasting my time. But, I won't go overboard. I will tell them nicely just for the purpose so that they won't repeat the same thing again.
• United States
19 Aug 09
The only time I find that happening to me, is when one particular relative calls me on the phone, in the evenings. She seems to only call around 8:00 or later, when I am just about to settle down, and enjoy some TV for the night. If you engage in her conversation, she will talk non-stop and never let you get a word in...this could go on for hours. She goes from one subject to another without taking a breath. So, what I do now, is look at my caller ID when the phone rings. If I see that it's her, and I don't want to talk, I no longer answer it.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
19 Aug 09
It is one of my pet hates! I absolutely detest it when people come over to my house unexpectedly without calling first; I find it so rude; it is like saying that your time and what you happened to be doing when they interrupted is not as important as them. I have a friend who makes very long phone calls to me and will get quite offended if I tell her I cannot talk at that particular time. I used to put up with it and seethe. These days I behave more assertively but it is still very annoying
• India
19 Aug 09
It is really annoying to those people and to ourselves also. Firstly, the other person doesn't understand how much of our time they are taking up and secondly, we just stay there, without saying anything cause we don't want to hurt their feelings. Being the nice guy really sucks in many ways in life.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
18 Aug 09
STOP IT. and if they don't take the hint walk away. Easier said then done, I know, but most effective. I don't, I tell them what is what. I try to do it in as polite a way as possible though I do sometimes slip here, and believe me, if I tell you to shut up about something, you really don't want me to think I have to repeat myself. I believe our TIME is the very most valuable thing we have. and that we should use how WE want, a minute spent, can never be earned back. Cheers.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I don't allow people to waste my time,I may give a little then I will excuse myself, I know this lady that loves to talk she would see you having a conversation with someone else and she would say excuse me, then go on/on/on/on, I let her do this twice, then I said to her, can you please stop doing that, you see me speaking with someone else and you monopolize the conversation with no regard for what we are talking about, she said I am so sorry you are right, will never happen again, I said thank you. just because she says excuse me means nothing to me, when you think its o.k to do this all the time, not like you talk for 1 minute, she will have you standing there for a hour, oh heck no I had to put a stop to that nonsense. you can tell people how you feel, you will be surprised at their reaction, most people know they are a pain in the butt, just need to be told every now and then,nicely but told non the less,when it comes to my time and my space I am in total control, I will only give you as much of it as I want to share no more simple as that.
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
o yeah... i am so strict in keeping my schedule and I have been that way for years... i make sure i finish everything I want to on a set time cooz there's just so much to do I'm a single mom= I have two kids =so I have to make wise use of my time .If anybody meesses up with my schedule, it makes me mad!
18 Aug 09
Hi Citychic, I know how you feel as people just love to take my time, so I just say no and its works, try using that word, they will understand. Tamara
• India
18 Aug 09
No Time To Waste .. - No Time For Bull---- ..
Hiya .. City Girl How Are You Nowadays .. You Got To Learn To Deal With Such Type Of Situations More Effectively .. You Surely Won't Be Willing to Spend More Time With A Person Than What He's Worth .. Thank You ..
@marguicha (102357)
• Chile
18 Aug 09
I will not let anyone do that. Not even my best friends who help me when they come to my house. I tell them I´m cleaning the kitchen (or making the bed, or anything) and they help. And if after talking for a while over a cup of coffee I want to be alone ( or play canasta or post at mylot, I tell them byebye, I´ll take a nap now or I have to go to the super. I don´t mind white lies but I need my life. And noone will have her heart broken for that so please don´t feel you are a sinner. To intrude in such a way as you say is a lack of respect. Don´t let anyone do that. Not even if it´s your mother. In my country neighbors don´t call upon the other people in the block. It´s not used. Relax. Take care!!!
@med889 (5958)
18 Aug 09
I have been in this situation once and I had to remained silent just to do not hurt her but at the same time I also wanted her to know that she should stop. She met me after quite a long time so I had to listen to her though. If she was my mate in class then definitely I would have told her to please be silent for some time.
• United States
18 Aug 09
My grandfather does that a lot. I could be working on homework or just reading and he'll come and ask if I want something to eat and then starts talking about some random subject. Sometimes he talks about his childhood and where he grows up and sometimes he talks of how he started his own business. I usually continue what I'm doing but nod and glance at him a few times so he'll know I'm kind of listening. I guess because he's my grandfather it's not too annoying for me.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
18 Aug 09
Hi dear its saying to break some one heart is big SIN so if it happened to me (it did many time). so i just try to listen it quietly. Take care