Do you get mad when someone is always texting in front of you?

@mommyboo (13198)
United States
August 18, 2009 7:48am CST
We have become a nation - well several nations - of texters. Are you the one who gets irritated about people texting around you all the time, or are you the person texting all the time? Granted, I know a lot of you here don't like to hear everybody's conversations via cell, but texting is silent - there's no hearing about anybody's hemmorhoid, okay? Out of curiosity, I'd just like to know. Is there some form of phone ettiquette that frowns on texting? Do you think it was actually written by someone who cares about people who text? LOL! I have no big need to impress strangers, so if you don't like my conversations and/or texting, I have probably tuned you out. You have the same right to tune me out, so instead of having a hissy, I'd prefer you just do that. That way neither of us informs the other that we have both irritated each other and we can both have a nice day. I do try to keep it short if I'm with a friend because I'm sure the friend prefers my attention, but we're all busy here. Everybody I know will take a call or return a text, even if we're having lunch, shopping, at the gym, whatever. For the record, I am not a teenager - would your view of this change based on age or social status?
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@marty3888 (2359)
• United States
18 Aug 09
A couple of years ago, I got a new phone. I found a service that has a plan of no free minutes and only $10.00 a month. When ordering, I took the option of not having texting on my phone. So I have never texted (if that's a word!) and probably never will. I do feel I need a phone, but I don't use it unless I have to. But zi don't have no problem with other people doing it. I also didn't have no problem when people talked at restaurants, grocery stores etc. I have a problem with people texting while driving because they tink they can do it, now that it's been shown that it's worse than drinking and driving. I also don't see the need to even have your phone turned on at weddings. They say put it on silent. Why do you need to recieve a pone call at a wedding? or church? I think the person whom invented texting did it because he or she knew was goling to make a fortune. As far as no one else hearing your conversation, I never thought of that. I definitly agree with you about people who have a problem with your conversations. As long as you're not hurting them, which you're not, I don't see what the problem is. I'm sure they do alot of things you wouldn't approve of, too. I used to keep my phone in my car and not even carry it around with me. But when I ordered this phone, I was told keeping it in extreme tempratures would ruin the battery. So I carry it around, but I still only use it when I have to and my bills are under $20.00 a month!
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
For the most part, the people who get all snippy about texting or long conversations in public are people who generally don't use their phones much, in fact, they may even not have a cell or mobile. At least this is the general consensus I have been able to make about it. People like this seem to be unable to understand the people who are on or using the phone all the time. I have days when I barely touch mine, then I have days when it is ringing off the hook and texting for 10 minutes straight. In my opinion, it is a tool AND entertainment, and I do pay for it - unlimited airtime and text/data, so I figure why not make and get good use out of it? I can say I DO understand people who rarely or never use a cell, if that's how you feel and that's how you are, it doesn't bother me, because I don't care what you do. However, it does offend me when YOU care what *I* do lol. I feel the same way about people who are very environmentally friendly and frown on me for not recycling or driving an SUV or whatever I do that they don't. It's almost like they feel put-upon because I don't do what they do. Same thing with vegetarians who have an issue with my steak or burger. Not all environmentalist or vegetarians are like this, but some are, just like some non-cell-users are like this. Therein lies the issue. I think all people like that should just do what they do and let me do what I do and not make any comment, because what I do has nothing to do with them lol. I don't tell them to get on their phones! I just don't want them telling me not to get on mine. Make sense? As far as having a phone on vibrate in places where you don't want it ringing and interrupting something, that's a safety net for people who use a phone for business, people who have children, or people who are caretakers of some sort and need to be reachable all the time. I have my phone on vibrate at least no matter where I am, so if I get a message or a call that NEEDS to be dealt with, I can go deal with it without interrupting anything yet still be reached.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hey mommyboo! What happened to Ali? Did she suddenly go backwards? She was getting bigger and older? Anyway, you and I have already had this conversation so you know how I feel about it, but I'll let the lot in on it too! I don't understand the idea of texting! I was having this conversation with my little twenty year old neighbor last night and she explained to me why she likes it much like you did mommyboo! She said there are just sometimes that she doesn't want to talk and it is faster and easier! Alrighty then! If that's how I really feel then I don't answer the phone and let it go to voicemail? I might text if I had the proper phone system, but I don't! And then I see people like my 44 year old girlfriend who gets carried away with it even when we are having lunch or out doing something! But, she is like that with everything! I just chalk it up to her being Bipolar and having to do everything to the extreme, and I'm not making fun of her she honestly can't help herself! She has now gotten addicted to texting! Of course this is my best friend from Rehab so need I say more? I am trying to look at everyones views about so that I am being fair! Ok now mommyboo! I luv you!
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Girl... you use yahoo... instant messenger. Texting is just like that! Just as addicting! In fact, you know that I use messenger on my phone occasionally like when I'm not home. I've chatted with you for quite awhile via mobile yahoo messenger lol. Just pretend it's texting
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
20 Aug 09
My best friend used to make fun of me for texting and now she has an iPhone so I just make fun of the iPhone. She has told me that now it's easy for her to text, so she knows why I did it all the time lol. Granted she does text a lot for work so it's not all entertainment like it is for me.
• United States
18 Aug 09
Good question. I'm 21 years old and even though I don't even have a cell phone (hate them with a passion), I understand that many people's lives have been enriched by them. There are good uses for texts. Many people overdo it, but back when I had a cell phone I'd use text just after pulling outside my husband's work, for example, and text, "I'm here". The thing that bothers me is when the people I'm with, when we're in conversations, that have their cell phone out, texting. Sometimes I stop what I'm saying and they simply don't notice. They have two conversations going on at once, so like call waiting, I think it's simply rude. I have literally lost a friendship over this. It's like her eyes were glued to the screen. The other bothersome thing is when people text at work and they aren't supposed to. If you are at work, you are AT WORK. There should be no texting just as there should be no phone calls. But like you said, it's silent. It's easier to get away with. I felt the same way back in high school when cell phones were finally popular and kids would be texting at their desks. You're at school to LEARN, so put down the cell phone and do it! In public I think talking AND texting can both be rude. A lot of people who text have held up lines, etc., which really isn't a big deal (they just aren't paying attention). I'd rather have strangers text than talk on the phone...because most people are so loud not to mention those annoying ringtones. Some people talk through an entire meal in a restaurant. Teenagers tend to be less annoying in public to me because they avoid talking on the phone. It's usually middle-aged and up that talk, talk, and talk as if the world is their phone booth and yet they find texting annoying. I guess it's up to the person. :/
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I use text for that a LOT... to let people know I'm there, on way, late, lost, hungry... etc etc. LOL! I also use it for quick 'how are you' keeping in touch type messages because sometimes I don't have time to call. I have a few friends who are very technologically stunted, so although they HAVE cell phones, one of them barely even knows how to turn it on, and once she gets it turned on, she has no idea how to make a call lol. I have the feeling if I called her and actually reached her on it, she'd tell me that the phone made a racket as if it was going to eat her and now that she found a way to get it to shut up, now she couldn't figure out how to turn it off. As far as cell phones at school, there are rules about them. The kids are supposed to have them out of sight, and if not off at least on vibrate only. I know that teachers, proctors, and admin staff are allowed to and DO take cell phones, ipods, and other things from kids if they are out being played with and distracting to anybody. They require a parent to pick up things like this from the office and they will NOT release them to the kids no matter what sort of fit the kid has. I had to pick up my son's cell phone before, and also his ipod... and a hat he wasn't supposed to wear on campus! Now I am actually glad he has the phone because it's a way for me to reach him if I need him to come straight home, or if he's late and wasn't supposed to be, or if I'M not home and he needs something etc etc. I have told him that I expect him to be responsible and respectful with it, and reliably earn the amount that texting costs each month. It's just easy to become dependent on having that easy-reach communication with kids, it's something I will likely do with my daughter when she gets older. Sooner or later they WANT to be independent and you cannot follow them around breathing down their necks until they are 18. At least the phone gives you a flexible way to keep tabs. I try to keep it down in a crowd, restaurant, or whatever, but that doesn't mean I hang up either. It really depends on the conversation lol. I hear some people's conversations and I want to laugh, really LAUGH, at the content, but I have to keep it under control because some people even if they are loud get totally bent out of shape once they realize 15 other people heard them talking about their hangover....
• United States
19 Aug 09
I know what you mean about overhearing strangers' conversations (because for some reason people think you have to talk into a cell phone like they'd talk to the drive thru clerk at a fast food restaurant)! You know what's horrible about that kind of thing is that my mom is a very rude cell phone user. Whenever I'm out with her, not only is her ring turned on the loudest volume (and it's annoying as none other), but most of the time it's my aunt calling. Between the two of them they have every health problem imaginable: Bipolar, depression, Mitro-Valve Prolapse, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, you get the picture. And they proceed to talk about this kind of thing on the phone. Obviously talking about depression isn't disgusting, but when they start talking about how their IBS is doing, I want to dig a hole and wait in it until they're done. Sitting in a restaurant talking about bowel movements is simply out of place in every way imaginable. Cell phone usage at school is also very hard to keep under control. Back in high school (and college when I went, but going to class isn't even mandatory there), kids would put their backpacks up on their desks and text behind it. Teachers hardly noticed, and when they did, only a small percentage would actually have the nerve to take the phone. But a teacher's job is to teach, not scan everyone to make sure they aren't doing anything wrong, so I can understand that kids get away with it.
• United States
18 Aug 09
I only get annoyed when we are playing something. Like, we're all playing basketball and everything, and you hear a ring tone from my friend. They spend like 5 minutes writing a meaningful text, leaving all of waiting. Sometimes, he would take his phone and text on court. We'll be all like wtf? We need him to actually play and stop talking to his girl friend. That is what annoys me, but if someone texts a little bit and stops, then I'd be okay with that.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
20 Aug 09
Ha ha... now THAT is ridiculous... playing BASKETBALL and trying to text? That's beyond my capabilities lol. Honestly, if I'm busy, the texts can wait. If I start getting a bunch of them and they don't stop, I'll go check and make sure it's not a crisis of epic proportions but usually it only requires a scan thru and a quick return so they stop.
• United States
18 Aug 09
I usually text on the bus. I don't think it should bother anyone since I'm not talking loudly on the phone and I have free time on the bus. I usually only text when I'm by myself and not when I'm with friends. If I'm with friends, I only text to return someone else's message. It is really disrespectful to a friend is you are texting or on the phone the whole time while you two are suppose to be spending time together.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I do agree that constant texting when you are with someone is disrespectful, the only times I can think of that I have had to do something like that is if there is some issue with my kids or an emergency of some type and I don't happen to be somewhere where I want people overhearing a conversation. Texting is also helpful for directions so you don't have to write anything down, someone can text you an address and you can store it, a phone number and you can store it, or you can make a comment to someone else in the room without people near you hearing it.... I know that sounds odd but my best friend and I have done that before because we did not want our kids hearing something or we did not want to embarrass someone else or have a friend who tends to repeat things she hears overhear what we were talking about.
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
18 Aug 09
It really doesn't bother me a whole lot if people are texting while talking to me as I would hope that it doesn't bother them if I do so.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I don't care about it unless the person is completely tuning me out for big blocks of time - which has never actually happened LOL! That's the only stipulation which I would get irritated about.
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
18 Aug 09
sometimes.. it annoys me when i am talking and the person whom i am talking is texting.. it also annoys me if a person is texting while walking, or while driving.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
Why does it annoy you if someone is texting and walking? I do it, I have not run into anything or anybody, granted I walk slower but if I have to stop, I will stop someplace where I am not right in the way of other people. I still feel that what one person does is not another person's business, especially if the people are strangers. If you start getting into how you should have a say in what others do, then that in turn means others have a say in what you do, and I would NEVER be on board with that. EVER.
@34momma (13896)
• United States
18 Aug 09
i will admit i am a big texter. i rather text then talk depending on who i am talking too. i do think that texting when you are holding a conversation with someone in person is rude and should not ever be done. i don't know if this is a age thing or not. i am 37 and i text with my friend, children, and hubby all the time. in most situations it's just easier.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
If I'm with someone I try to be quick about returning a text if it needs a response. If I'm not and am just waiting or something, I am more leisurely and will 'talk' a lot more through messages. I try to get off the phone faster too if I'm visiting with somebody, but I think I have too many long winded friends, and sometimes I cannot get a word in edgewise like 'I'm at so and so's house' so they have no idea and just keep talking lol. Text is easier if I just have one or two things to say or mention and I don't have time for a long conversation. Sooner or later if a text conversation gets long, sometimes it just turns into a phone call eventually.
• United States
18 Aug 09
I do get a little angry but than I have texted when I was talking to people in person a few times too. I think there is a little rudeness to it but I also think I would rather see someone text than talk on their cell when I am trying to talk to them in person. For example being in a public place I do not mind people talking on their cells. I do care if they are holding up a line or something. I guess it depends how I am feeling that day. I think texting is cool but we should try and not be rude to others while we are doing it. I also feel a text can wait as long as it just started as you were talking, but if you were already in the mode to text than it changes they way I view it as well. Take care and great discussion happy mylotting.
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
I do agree that it's not nice to hold up a line or to constantly text text text when you were doing something else initially and then people have to wait on you, but under normal circumstances, I don't understand why people flip out about it. Granted I haven't seen as many people have an issue in real life, mostly here in discussions I have seen people rant about how they don't like people texting. I am trying to bring those people out of the woodwork and find out why they don't just ignore it. I can see if they get irritated at family members or friends they are supposed to be hanging out with, but not at ALL why they get irritated with strangers and think they have the right to say anything to them.
@prinzcy (5063)
• Malaysia
18 Aug 09
I don't care if someone is texting in front of me. It's his/her phone, why should I be bother? Besides, texting is a quite act, there's no need to be annoyed for that. But I will be bother if that person if talking with me yet he/she is texting. It's like I am talking to a wall and he/she is in his/her own world.
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• Switzerland
18 Aug 09
It actually depends on the situation. I get mad if I the person is not listening to what I say which is more important than what he is doing. I do not get mad if I am in a conversation where it is informal. He or she can text anytime he wants. It does not matter. But if I am in a meeting and I really need to persuade something to that person, then of course, I get mad without question. The main purpose is to talk about the meeting and I need his or her cooperation while I am discussion, otherwise, I just wasted my time. Happy Mylotting. Keep posting. Have a nice day. Jeff
@kb5000 (110)
• United States
18 Aug 09
to me personally, texting is a waste of time. so is social networking. when i text it takes me much longer to do it than the common phone user.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
That makes sense, in a meeting that's a formal setting. During something like that, you would expect to have the full attention of the other person, just as they would expect to have your full attention.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
kb5000, I used to be a very slow texter. I have a qwerty keyboard phone now though, so it doesn't take me much longer to text than to type, I'm pretty quick. It always seems like a waste of time if you don't enjoy something, and if you're slow. There are plenty of people like you who maybe dislike texting and perhaps think social networking is a waste of time - however, why would you be on mylot, which is in essence a SOCIAL NETWORKING TYPE OF SITE - if it is the waste of time you state it is?
• India
18 Aug 09
yes im one the persons who text all the time but i do get irritated if someone is texting when im talking to them
• United States
18 Aug 09
yes, my sister is always texting when she comes over my house :( i hate it. once i told she was not too get her cell out too text ever in my house.
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• India
18 Aug 09
hey even my sister does the same. she keeps on texting every second which has also resulted in less scores in her engineering. people should use texting to keep in touch with others but to such extent that leads to negative in our life
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I get irritated when I am supposed to be doing something with someone, like enjoying some event or a card game, and they stop the entire game or conversation to answer some text message.. I don't mean important ones. One of my friends got to the point that if he comes to play cards and leaves the table even for a moment we hijack his mobile, turn it off, and hide it until we're done with the game! It drives me nuts!
• United States
18 Aug 09
Sounds funny to me. I guess putting it on silent would be a little more apporiate instead of answering a text in the middle of a game. I do feel that is rude. If you are with someone to hang out phones should be off and if not off at least on vibrate and or silent. Take care and happy mylotting to you.
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 Aug 09
See, I don't see it as any big deal. I can still talk to someone while I scan and answer a text, sometimes it doesn't even need answering, just reading. If someone hijacked my phone, I'd be mad. It's my connection away from home for calls, text, email, instant messenger. My husband commutes an hour each way to work and we stay in touch via email, my kids are at two different schools and that number is my preferred way for the schools to contact me. I have left my phone at home on accident a few times and it has usually proven to be disastrous.
• India
19 Aug 09
well, i do not necessarily like to see people on the cell talking or indulging in sms messages all the time. some people behave as if they were born with phones and it is an extension of their body,they just cannot live without it. i must say that it is quite silly.
@izardy (61)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
nope i don't if they r doing it (texting) in an unformal frenz meeting, however i will be mad if they r doing it in formal meeting like group discussion. i also send lot of sms (texting) to my friend, collegue, or family. however if there's someone else is with me, i will not simply sent sms unless if it is really important, just for the sake of respecting the other party. some people can accept and some people cant :)
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@mrshughes (352)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
Hi. In my point of view, i dont like people texting in front of me especially if its very important matter we are dicussing about. I think its out of respect. But if im with my friends, just chatting up i dont mind at all... Emergency calls or text is always acceptable. But for someone that is just having fun should always have the right time for it...its no good to be walking about and talk to people if u cant get ur hands out off ur cellphone coz its only create bad feelings and accidents...its about good manners.
@rasith (1)
18 Aug 09
I don't mind if someone is texting in front of me their business is theirs. I personally still prefer phone calls to texting, but texted can be useful for quick questions. However if someone I'm spending time with spends a lot of time texting I will get very annoyed. I can understand a quick response but if you're attached to your phone so much that it breaks into social activity(texting may be considered social!?!). You may as well leave it at home. I think common sense and courtesy should be applied in all social situations.
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
18 Aug 09
I think that it is extremely poor manners to text in front of someone. I have to keep my cell phone beside me 24/7 as it is part of my job. However, I explain this to people present if I am sitting down with them, or in their house. If it does ring then I excuse myself and walk away to take the call. If I am in ?church then of course, I turn it off and then listen to messages when I am in my car after the service. My father use to say that there was no thing as a person having good manners or bad manners there was only manners and you either had them or you didn't!
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@preema723 (119)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I don't so much mind when people text around me - but one of my biggest pet peeves is when people text while I am in the middle of a conversation with them. I certainly dont mind if someone says excuse me, I would like to respond to this and does so once or twice - and let's face it - things come up that need to be addressed. But I have a friend who will literally continue on talking to me while texting someone else! I think it is rude and disrespectful! I would never do it to someone else, and certainly do not appreciate when it is done to me.
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@dlr297 (5370)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I do not have a cell phone so i am not the one doing the texting. It does not bother me when any one else does it. Except if it being done while they are driving a car. because then they are becoming a danger to me and others. I was watching a show the other night about people texting, and getting hurt. One woman walked right into a man hole, and their were others that were walking into trees and poles, because they were not paying attention to where they were walking. I have to admit that i did get a good laugh at some of it. And if it is one of my kids that i am with and they keep doing it (they are all grow now) and yes they do text all the time. I still take the phone from them and put it in my purse, nothing is that important, they can spend time with their mom with out texting.
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