Do you ask to your partner (husband/wife) about his/her past?

@Zhizho (1350)
Indonesia
August 18, 2009 12:02pm CST
Hi there..All of us have past phase in our life.Maybe it good or bad past.Sometimes we want to forget it but sometimes to part of people have to know about the past of their partner so each other openly and be honest.How about you guests?.I just want to know,thanks for your response.
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@gaz2k9 (39)
18 Aug 09
When me and my girlfriend got together 8 years ago we laid all our cards on the table. There is absolutely no secrets between each other at all. We tell each other everything I think honesty is the key to a health relationship. We know about each others pasts and that they are just that, Pasts. A persons past shouldn't have a bearing on your feelings for them now. Be honest with the ones you love and you'll never be lonely.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 09
Hi..I agree with you guest that Honesty is the key for a health relationship.But sometimes,we could not eccept our partner with his/her past because they want to be look their future.But,sometimes we have to know and it will be experience for us to build better relation.Thanks for your response.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Hello, It is really depend, mostly I dont ask but if he starts it then I will ask for sure. I always mad with him when he sticks with his story with another girl... I hate it so much. sometimes he makes fun of me... But I never take it too seriously cuz I dont want to fight over something that is already pass
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 09
Thanks for your share friend.Sometimes,yes,as a wife,I mad too when heard about his story with his girlfriend.But as you told I never take it seriously.I think,it's mean I'm proud to be his wife.Because he choosed me to be his soulmate.
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
17 Sep 09
i am married for seven years already. and during the getting to know each other i told my now wife all about me. lucky she is honest as well to tell her past to me. so we dont have any cobwebs for we know anything and everything. we are not scared to meet exs on the mall or at the park for we know we both know about our past. its a great feeling not hiding anything. i am happy that i met an honest person and willing to tell stories about her past
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
12 Oct 09
yeah, we do tell each other's past. transparency and having an open communication with each other is the best. No matter how bad your past can be, it's just okay to tell it to your partner, if he truly cares for you then your past is just a past.
• India
15 Sep 09
Hi, I always think to be 100% transparent to your partner and in doing so you have to keep your partner known of your past facts.Very often past happenings come booming to you in a tilted manner and that will ruin your relationship.