Why r some men like this?

@Citychic (4078)
United States
August 18, 2009 1:01pm CST
Hey friends, why is it that some men won't show any real interest in you until they think that other men are interested? If I were a man I wouldn't want other men to be interested in my woman. I'm sorry but I just can't understand the logic behind some men's thinking. Please help me to understand this if you have the answer. I can remember back in my hayday when I was out and about in the clubs. I must have had about five or six guys all hanging around me, wanting to dance. Well my now hubby peeped this out. All of a sudden he was so interested, he simply wanted to steal me away from all the attention that I was getting from the other guys. But now, I don't get all that attention from him. What's up with that? Have you ever had a similar experience. If so let's talk about it!
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13 responses
@Margajoe (4722)
• Germany
18 Aug 09
Hi! Believe me, as a women you will never totally understand a man. It is the same with men. They will never totally understand us either. But then again, if it was all so easy, it would be boring. Good luck!
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
18 Aug 09
Who needs to understand? I don't, I just need to flirt and have fun. The trying to understand part is too painful for my brain, so I avoid it. Cheers.
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@lynnemg (4541)
• United States
19 Aug 09
My theory is that most men want someone that other men find attractive and interesting. THe problem is that once they get what they want and become comfortable, they no longer feel the need to be attentive because, well, they are no longer facing any potential competition. When my husband I first got together, he wanted to go everywhere with me, except work, he wanted to spend time with me, and he was quite attentive, especially in the presence of other men. Now, we are married and he is still affectionate when he wants something, but more often than not, he would rather hang out with his friends and stay at home when I go places then to spend that time with me. I once asked him why and his response was, "Well, I know I have you and don't have to worry about someone else taking you away." As sweet as that was for him to say, he just doesn't understand that I still crave at least some of that old attention.
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
18 Aug 09
Hmm from the other stand point perhaps. When ever I started to show interest in a girl, then a whole bunch of other guys would always be there, trying to get her first. It is called testosterone I believe, inherent in our genes, the need to dominate or something, but once the object of our desires are attained, we grow used to them, and then they lose a little bit of their luster, it is best to keep a good shine on I would think. Though I can not be too sure. Cheers.
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@jugsjugs (13047)
19 Aug 09
There are alot of men out there that find it hard to show there true feelings as well as there are alot of men that lie about their feelings.My husband is the same and that really upsets me and yet he is the first one to chat up other women and try to make himself feel young.Perhaps it is a male thing?
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• India
19 Aug 09
Jugs .. I Was Just Wondering .. When Did You Become old .. I Just Had A Feeling your Husband Is Elder to you .. Correct me if I Am Wrong ..
@jugsjugs (13047)
19 Aug 09
I am 38 and he is 40.
• India
19 Aug 09
I Think Men Do Get Naughty After 40 .. But With A Wild Companion Like you .. Could He Ask For More .. Just A Thought .. LoL ..
• United States
19 Aug 09
It sounds like he is jealous.
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@gerl2723 (68)
• Ireland
18 Aug 09
With this I do always remember Boyence song If I were a boy. Mens are weird sometimes, Im a type of person as well who wants 100% person of my man. If I dont get it then get rid of him. I mean not being so rude, but I will be working hard as well to get his attention. I will make him happy, then give his all attention to me. Relationship is always to two way both parties have mistakes. You have think as well why you dont get his attention now?
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@med889 (5958)
19 Aug 09
They are always like this, even my boyfriend is like this, he will not show me how much he is interested in me or jealous but when I have to go somewhere he will ask every details about it then he will even tell me if i can go to have lunch with a boy or not. All of a sudden he might tell me how much he cares and interested in me so I also fail to understand them sometimes especially when they do like this. Thay will never tell us but they will act when we least expect it.
• India
19 Aug 09
All Are After Beautiful Girls .. - Beauty
It's Not That Way Dear .. Don't Be Upset .. It's Just that All Men Vie For the Best Girl .. The Lucky Man Gets Her .. That's All ..
• China
19 Aug 09
Hey,dear friend.Is the kind of men.When you are there when he would not feel.But if you have other men of interest to you.Or draw your attention to the importance of the time.He would worry about.Fear that other people will be able to attract you.You fear the loss os his own..Therefore,he would have to interfere with you and other people's contacts.Men are selfish..Ha ha.At least I think so..
@frinces (419)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
Reasons are, lost of interest and competition. So women should always look fresh and interesting unless, a man would find a woman who seems like her mother-caring and thoughful. He would never lose his interest on her. If a woman wants his man to be attentive to her, I suggest that she should be a person with a pious character.
@frinces (419)
• Philippines
19 Aug 09
Reasons are, lost of interest and competition. So women should always look fresh and interesting unless, a man would find a woman who seems like her mother-caring and thoughful. He would never lose his interest on her. If a woman wants his man to be attentive to her, I suggest that she should be a person with a pious character.
@izardy (61)
• Malaysia
19 Aug 09
i believe some men didn't show their real interest to the woman they love because of lack of confident. they afraid of rejection , and i guess can't face the fact that the woman they love would reject them! . I'd been in that situation, it took me almost 1 year to reveal my true feeling towards her and actually she already aware of it earlier :)
• United States
19 Aug 09
At first when I was reading the first sentence, I was thinking of a different kind of situation until I read the ending LOL... I was thinking when you are interested in someone (not married), and they aren't too interested until someone else notices you, well in that situation it is because of the challenge. Men love the challenge, the chase, that's why a lot of times they get bored once they settle down and/or get married lol. A lot of women are the same way, it's weird. Anyways, my husband is the same way as yours! They dont realize that we crave attention, and that sometimes we even talk to other men JUST to get their attention. They will never get it, even if you spell it out for them *sigh*. It is just becuase they are jealous, that we are theirs. lol... I dont know what else to say about men and their thinking lol.