Being let down by friends

Hello Pink, Maybe he is going thru something at the moment and he hasn't shared it with you yet. I think he might come back around, unless you two had a bad argument or fight. Also, I know from experience of having a few online friends that when you type a message and the other person receives it, sometimes it comes out the wrong way at the other end. It's different than talking where you can hear the tone of voice in people. I had a friend that I sent messages and never heard from him. I was actually worried because I knew he had a bad car accident and was on medication. I was worried, human nature. But he did not respond for a long time. I just let it go and one day to my big surprise, I got an email from him. He told me he did not feel like talking or chatting with anybody. He felt down. Give your friend a little time, I still think he will come around again. Olivia~

This is not a friend in my eyes,A friend will always make you feel better in any given situation. If you have one good friend in life you are lucky! It took me a long time to find that particular person.I will say ,I am the opposite of you being untrustworthy of all afraid of getting burnt. It takes a long time to get to know me therefor most give up.You are in a cycle it seems, You must look for someone totally different than the people you are attracted to as possible friends. Some of us subconsciously hurt our selves this way.

Hi pinklemonade I understand, it has happened with me too, i don't like to recall them though, yeah it really feels like you are out of the equation, sometimes we feel like we are being ignored even if it is not the case, i think sometimes we tend to be too much sensitive over such issues i have to say... anyways i don't think we should think very much about such issues... just try to let go of it, sometimes we get too much attached to people....

well ...yes i had experienced this but i told my friends that this is what i feel about you and we discussed it ....now thngs are good between us ..and i think i shud talk to ur friend

Did you talk to him about all these? Or you just thought your was let down and ingnored? Well,find a right time and proper place,express your feeling to him,and see what he says,if he is the one who you thought to be,then I think it is no need to keep the friendship anymore.But if thing is not what you thought,then you really need to find out why,you know friends is just like a team,sometimes,everyone really did their best,but it dose not mean that you will win the game and all things.So,you need communicate,and get improving.

hii.. even I hurt by one of my friend,, he also hurt me the same way, we were three best frnds, so he broken mine as well as my anthr best frnd's heart also, he is really very rude even with his parents as well , but I never expect from him that, he has broken my trust,we were together for constantly 5 years & then he had jst finished or crushed out long friendship.. really I he hurt me like anything..

I think you should definitely talk to your friend and tell him how you feel. I have a good friend who lives upstairs and grew up together with me. He was my life-long friend. I think real good friends should understand each other, just like him and me. Sometimes we just have a few eye exchange then we know the other's thought! Good day.^_^

I have been being let down by a friend, in a different way though...but I can feel how you are feeling right now, it's so bad when we care for someone so much and just neglect us or treat us like we're nothing...but not letting this feeling out to them...seems making them feel that it is okay for you...the best way is when you don't feel happy the way they are they should know that...and they should know how they have hurted you...in that way you may know if they have reasons why they did that or you may really find out that they're not worth to be your friend..don't waste your time for people who does not know what friend is...and always think you have friends that loves you...and you should feel blessed for that...somehow this is one of the challenges in our life that we should deal with...be strong and cheer up always...go into the bright side, you can't pleased everyone but you should be happy enough for these people and friends who have always stood up beside you and accept who you are...

I'm sorry you have to experience that. =( I've always believed that any kind of relationship (romantic, friendship, familial, etc.) takes effort on each person's behalf. If I put effort into a friendship, I expect the other person to try as well. It's just so disappointing when the other person is a deadbeat friend. I've been in the same boat a few times. I've become incredibly selective over who I consider to be a real friend and those I just consider to be mere acquaintances. I don't think anybody could blame you for feeling so let down by your friend's inability to show he cares. Have you let him know how you feel about this?

Actually,I was in the same situation.My friends seemed distant,even though I saw them as my precious companions and tried the best to be as affectionate as possible.But the truth is that they took it for granted. I was way disappointed and felt lonely.One day, I gathered all my courage and talked to them that I was hurt.Then I learned that they simply did not feel the way I did,which is hard to change.So we reached a compromise that I should slow it down and they avoid hurting me.That`s it.I now feel much better.Hope it will help.

I noticed you said he ignores a lot of things you "write" to him. Do you ever talk to him on the phone or in person? My friend does the same thing to me with emails. It seems whenever I write to her, she either doesn't respond, or doesn't acknowlege anything I wrote about IF she writes back. It frustrated me for a long time because I spent a lot of time writing about my life happenings as well as responding to what she wrote previously. I felt like I was just writing to the air. That being said, when we talk on the phone or see each other in person, it's another story. She is responsive and we have great chats with balanced responses to each other's stories. I have come to realize she doesn't have much time to write. In fact, she doesn't have time to read thoroughly, so she often skims emails, sadly. She is pretty scatter brained, so she often does not remember what was mentioned in my emails. So it's not that she was ignoring me as I once thought; she's just not a "letter" person. I guess I'm saying people can't be completely judged by their letter writing etiquette (or lack of it). I, too, say talk to your friend. All may not be as it seems.