Marriage as the ultimate test of patience...

@dhymhy (24)
Philippines
August 20, 2009 11:28pm CST
guys, i am not yet married but i would love to be someday. is it true that the ultimate test of patience is marriage? I've read from a book that to commit yourself to a person whom you did not grow up with, to share a life with somebody who has a totally different orientation than you, is a nerve-wrecking test. but these info don't scare me.. i just really wanna know.. thanks for your idea..
4 responses
• Nigeria
21 Aug 09
Yes you need all the patients in this world in marriage. I am married and i know what it entail to get hook with someone different from me. What binds us together is love. For love sake, i tolerates, endure and with patient i seek to be understood. You must be creative too with wisdom to deal with your spouse. Sometime, she wouldnt want to listen. I learn to waite for the right time to push things over. I dont always see myself as mr. perfect too. I admit my errors too and i tried to be sincere even when i am drawn away. Their are issues of inlaws too. In short it is an institution for both parties to learn and grow together. It is really fun to be with someone you adore and love. Dont get scare of commitment!
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
thank you for your idea.. i am not scared of commitment, in fact, i am really excited when my day comes. :D i love your statement "what binds us together is love."
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
The ultimate test of patience is not being married, but having children and dealing with their antics. Each child is different (even twins are not exactly the same) and you've to meet their demands and their needs when they're still small. YOu've to be able to teach them well so that they don't go around people's house and destroy their lawn, or jumps on the furniture despite telling them not to, or getting them to be quiet. Nah, you don't have to be afraid of these challenges. You have to live through it, and learn to handle them. That's how we become better parents and humans. That's my opinion.
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
thanks for sharing your opinion.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 09
marriage is need patience. I have experienced during my marriage. patience was very difficult to do.
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
i agree that patience is hard but with love, i think that it's possible to grab every opportunity to be patient..
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
21 Aug 09
The reason why you date is to get to know your partner and to learn how to adjust to each other's little habits and traits. By the time you marry you should both be very familiar with each other. But, having said that, as a wife I can tell you that marriage definitely is the ultimate test of patience. Not because a mate is hard to live with but because he/she is someone you love so there will be times when you really want to SAY what you're thinking, but you hold your tongue.
@dhymhy (24)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
yes i agree with you.. i sometimes feel that way for my fiancee..