Destiny?!

Philippines
August 21, 2009 8:37am CST
Do u believe in destiny? I once had a relationship with a guy that i thought was going to be my husband...we got on very well and we thought we were compatible for each other. But for some reasons..it did not happen. I thought im never gonna love ever again yet here i am been married for 5 years to the man i love even more. U think this called destiny?
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12 responses
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
well, i don't know..it depends on the person whether he wants to wait for the one he loves or he makes his own destiny and choose it for him. sometimes both actually worked. for me, am just waiting for that person, if she comes by the way.
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
Dont search for it and it will come knocking on ur door! Hope she'll come very soon in ur life. I can only pray for u friend.
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• Philippines
23 Aug 09
I know am still kinda young but i feel that it's decreasing soon,one day i'll know that am old
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Dont worry...man is just as young as the woman he feels. Thats my husbands magic words by the way. hope this will make u smile.
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I had been in love before with a man that started out as my friend. Things were very good between us and I thought that we to would end up getting married and living happily ever after. That didn't happen unfortunately. I have, after many years met this man. We met over 3 years ago and began dating about 1-1/2 years ago and have since moved in together. I have found that I have fallen in love with him but unfortunately he is to afraid to let himself get close to any woman as he has been burned by too many other women in his past. When I first slipped up and told him I had fallen in love with him, well, let's just say that everything changed from that day forward. He told me at that time that he didn't feel the same way for me. It hurt. I had thought from his actions and things he had said to me that he had possibly fallen in love with me also. I may be a fool according to some, ok many, people; but I do love this man. He has all of the qualities I have every looked for in a partner, but after that day I have wondered if this relationship will ever go any further or if I am just wasting my time. I do feel that he was part of my destiny but don't know what I should do. He has stated that he has trust issues with regards to women as they have cheated on him in the past. He states that he trusts me with his children, his money, his property & his life, but doesn't trust me completely. He says that he is afraid that, in a vulnerable state that there is that chance that I could cheat on him. I am a very faithful, loving, caring, honest & trusting individual so cheating is not even a thought in my mind. How do I make him see this? I have been with him through thick and thin and believe me he has definately come with some major baggage, yet I have always been there for him and been right there beside him through everything. Should I just keep letting things go day by day and hope that someday he will realize how important I am to him or finally let his guard down and let himself love me or should I end the relationship before it goes any further for my sake, his sake and the sake of our individual children? I am just at a loss at to what to do. Any help or suggestions with this would be greatly appreciated. Thank you to all who read and respond.
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Hi friend! Life is so complicated sometimes. It's a question if are u still happy to be around him and if is he still happy to be with u? If he trusted u with almost everything in his life then it must be love. Give him one more chance to see himself. Past experience in life can make u better or bitter as a person. But one thing i can tell u...he is a fool not to see u. U are not the one that looses at the end of the day but him...to loose someone like u will be a biggest mistake in his life! Maybe his not ur destiny..but i am 100% sure u are his destiny...he just found true love in u my friend! ITs his destiny of finding true love...wish he will see that!
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I do hope you are right and that he will see it sooner than later. I know they say that time will tell with everything in life but for me the waiting game isn't always a patient one. I don't like the not knowing factor. Does he love me or does he not? If he does then why doesn't he tell me? If he doesn't then why not tell me so that I can make a decision with regards to a relationship that will probably go nowhere? I guess those are tough questions for anyone to answer. Thank you for your response and have a great day.
• Philippines
23 Aug 09
U should sit him down and talk things. Ask him the things u want to know and whats the real score. After talking to him then u can decide ur next step. Hope it will turn out good for u friend. Fingerscrossed!
@Fracker (177)
• Pakistan
21 Aug 09
Well, 1st of all... in relationship, you really don't know what is your destiny.. Only destiny knows when it going to catch you. It happened with me number of time, when i met some girl and thought of same. But i knew until its not the end, i can't be sure. And same thing happened.. I marry to a girl to whom i never met before, never seen in my life.. and from no where she become my final destiny.. and now my this chapter is closed.. i don't care how many girls try to come close to me, i find many beautiful girls around me.. good friends.. when you close the chapter, then nothing can change your mind.. It called destiny achieved and chapter closed :) now i have time to concentrate on other things like my career, my family etc.. .
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Wow thanks for sharing ur life. And the girl u married to is a very lucky woman. Yes like u, i concentrate my life with my husband and son. They are the best thing that ever happened to me.
@Fracker (177)
• Pakistan
21 Aug 09
Yeah, if you do that, then you will find your self v lucky. Since relationship depends upon building them up. While giving more time to your partner, think more about him, make him more think about you. But don't just fall on him, so he start taking you as burden :)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Yes i understand...but sometimes relationship can be so tiring too. Like today we arguing again..spices of life hey!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
If you are not fated to be together then it is not your destiny. You may have to kiss many toads before you meet your prince charming!
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Hello friend...thanks u just make me smile..not feeling so good today i got fever. Oh yes funny enough when i got home lots of toads around, i was hoping to catch one but they are so quick for me. Prince charming sounds so good to be true.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
Am glad this response brought smile to you. Don't take fever for granted now. The swine flu fever is so hot. Better rush yourself to see your doctor.
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Thanks friend. Yes i will see my doctor later.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
21 Aug 09
I think it can be, I was with someone that I thought would be with me forever, i took him for granted and got a little too comfortable and lost him, the fact that you two found your way back to each other could be called destiny in my opinion,I wish the two of you the best, don't take each other for granted keep the relationship exiting, you will be fine.
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Yes i can only give my best shot in this relationship.. Thanks friend
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
You are so welcome, I am really happy for you, if we can all be so lucky to find that special one, I wish you the best, thanks for your response.
@lovein (345)
• India
22 Aug 09
If you have gone to school or collages , applying the educations in work place may be your destiny. If you have not listened teachers,lectures,educators from others, and you have learned cooking self. Then if you will think of destiny , it will give you pain. It is good to think that , I am not the right man to know about destiny. All educations may not be suitable for me. I will believe only those education, which I can apply in my day to day life. Thanks
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
You could be right. Our lifes experience educates us even more. Its how we see life and how we apply it in our lives. All i can tell u is that, all things that happened to me..i see them as gift, either good or bad...coz all of that is what makes me as a person now.
@jujuby (62)
• India
22 Aug 09
I think rather we reach destiny ,destiny reach us appropriately.Actually life is a journey where we have many stations to halt and to meet many people we hate or adore we learn many lessons from each one of them."there is a saying Love the one who adore us than we do" .
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Thats right. I will share thoughts ive read somewhere long time ago about love: "if u love someone set him free..if he comes back he is meant to be urs but if he doesnt he will never be!"
• United States
22 Aug 09
i guess i cant really answer that question... some time yes some times no somethings just dont work out so i guess yes and no
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Yes i can understand...its all part of growing up i think...life is everyday a learning process for us. Could be destiny or not what matters is that we doing the right in life and we make other people happy. Mkae our life worth living for.
• India
21 Aug 09
Yes.. Its destiny. You lost him because something was better was waiting for you.. god bless.. :D :D
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
So nice of u..thank u.
• United States
21 Aug 09
When I was a young child I was not in the most loving environment. So I wasn't very happy overall as a child. Sometimes then I would have the same dream over the years where I was getting on an elevator (strange dream because in the rural area where I grew up there were no elevators in stores then or any of the small office buildings in town). All these people in the dream would get off the elevator except one. It was a man, I always thought of him as "that younger man" in the dream. He wouldn't step out of the elevator, but I always had such a good feeling about him I always loved that simple dream, even though I could never understand why I had it or what it could mean. I had that dream off and on until I was about ten years old, then it stopped around then I think. Years later, when I was around 22 or so, I thought I was madly in love with this guy, and I thought he was madly in love with me. We talked about getting married and one day he asked me to go help him pick out living room furniture for a new house he was thinking of buying. I was on cloud 9, until I found out a week later that he was engaged to someone else and he was buying the house, and the furniture, for her. Long story short, a couple of years later I met another man but I refused to go out with him at first because he was four years younger than me. So we just became good friends for a year or so. Then one day, his new date stood him up, so we went out to dinner. He then said he was tired of dating others he didn't really care for, that he'd always wanted to date me and asked if I wouldn't just give him a chance. So we went out on a few dates and I started liking him more and more...and now we've been married 31 years and counting. I always think he must have been that "younger man" I used to dream about when I was a little girl, the elevator dream that always left me with such a good feeling. So yea, I believe in destiny. Oh, as for the weasel who had me help him pick out furniture, that marriage of his lasted about 2 years and he's since been married several times. Last I heard he's single again. I'm glad I didn't end up being one of his many wives along the way after all.
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
Wow what a great love story! Thanks friend for sharing it with us. Yes i also believe in destiny...and im so glad u found the man of ur dreams. When i was young i also had this dream of a guy from a distance but i cant get near to him. And i still have this dream now...for some reasons i dont know.
• United States
21 Aug 09
I definitely believe that things happen for a reason. I think that each person could be compatible with more than one other person but that through experiences and change our potential partners change. I believe that God won't give us something we can't handle, and if men and women are supposed to be together then there sure is someone for everyone, but like everything with God when you'll meet only he knows.
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Yes i agree and with God everything is possible and everyday is full of surprises. Thanks my friend and God bless.
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
21 Aug 09
I think there is someone for everyone and it is not always who we think it is. We need to realize that who we are and how we love is because of what we have went through in our life. Maybe the old relationship was to prepare you for the joy you have now. We need to know what love isn't to know what love is when we find it.
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
Yes u are right. As we get older we seem to understand more about life and the real value of love.