Are not you concerned about your childen ???

@krajibg (11942)
Guwahati, India
August 21, 2009 11:13am CST
This is serious. Just listen. This post modern era is full of uncertainty and you now what I mean. You are scared of the intruder, you would not be ready to welcome even your relative to your home for as you have a ten aged girl and you are worried lest something doesn't befall on her. Secondly, you know this is an age of murder and violence and you both are service holder but back at home you have your children and in the subconsciouis mind you are occupied with the well being of your children. Now tell me are not you concerned about yourself and your children and you are afraid of the intruder. Right? Please share if you are afraid of the intruder.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I will not bring anyone into my home unless I was absolutely comfortable with them, i will never leave them alone with my daughter and grandson, these things we have to think about, I love my children, and I will not leave them alone with anyone I am not 100% sure about, anyway my daughter would say, mom if you are leaving take them with you lol
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi kitty, Sad but true is the situation. you can not rely on any one. Be it your relatives or other people. you can not be 100% assured of the safety of your children.
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
23 Aug 09
You are so right, I focused more on the stranger but relatives are just as conniving, how sad this is to have to worry about people you know hurting someone you love, this is really serious and I am glad you started this discussion, this world is filled with people that have no heart and they will use your kindness to get close to your kids, I am known to be so sweet, and very kindhearted, but when it comes to my daughter and my grandson, I always think of them first just the thought of someone I bring in their life trying to hurt them, I will end this now I am mad just thinking about this.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Yes kitty, People around us are like that. If you show kindness they take them as your weakness. The better thing is to be more vigilant so far as the children are concerned. sometime you have to show that you are not so soft as they think.
@dragon54u (31184)
• United States
21 Aug 09
I am concerned about the intruder into my home but not so much for myself. My children are in college now and I do not want them to go through the sorrow of knowing I was murdered. So I'm very cautious. When the boys were little my husband at that time made fun of me occasionally for my attention to the windows and doors. We live in the desert, he said, and nobody was around. I thought that was just the type of house I would attack if I was a criminal or insane murderer! So our house was locked up tight and all precautions taken.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi there, That is really funny. This is ok that one must be always on alert. You people in the US were very comfortable until that Oasma bin Laden attack and now I presume that you are worried over any intruder and any violence breaking out.
@dragon54u (31184)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Lashoaf is right. Preparedness is the key to living well and living safely. I am and always have been prepared to handle things by myself and protect my family on my own. My sons have also been trained by me to be prepared. If more people would take preparedness in all things seriously, we would not have so much of the financial and social trouble we have here now.
@tintukm (1084)
• India
22 Aug 09
Children are the of the future.No harm should be made to them,its everyone's responsibility to keep the innocent small children away from troubles.Reporting of any such ongoing child ill treatments,taking a step forward firstly is what anyone can do. Social work is a part of the society of its welfare only.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi, You say no harm should befall them but that would not do unless yu keep a sharp eye on them.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I do worry always about my kids and even the ones that are grown and moved out on their own. I, of course, would be afraid of an intruder but I am more afraid of other things that my happen to them. When the weather is brutal...I don't feel comfortable until they have all made it home safe and sound. The list of things that could happen to them is too long to list here but yes...I worry all the time. we all want the very best for our kids and would never want to see anything bad happen to them. ...nothing.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi sid, I can well understand the concern of a loving mother. How could you have an easy sleep when your children are not home? But though sad this is the condition that one needs to keep a sharp eye on the movement of the children.
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• Malaysia
22 Aug 09
hi kraj i dont have children but i worry for others children ... when i see the child walking alone or playing alone at the play ground i curse the parents .. sometimes when i see a cute child , i dont dare to approach and pet them as some parents may think i am the "bad guy" why are this stupid children attacking and killing children ... ?? MONEY
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
There are lots of horrible reasons as to why the children are abused, abducted, insulted or become prey to the criminals. This is why now these children have lost their natural freedom of movement.
@dawnald (84124)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Aug 09
Not as afraid as I was when we were living in LA, but it is always a concern, sure. You can't be with your children 24/7 and it's always a worry when you're not with them and things are totally out of your control.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi dawn, Yes this is natural that you have a throbbing nerve when you are out of the house in the work and the child back home is in care of somebody else. Your mother's heart would not be at ease but you are helpless as it were.
• Gibraltar
21 Aug 09
Holah krajibg, Very good discussion you have started after a long time. Yes we must show our concern about our children. That most of the new generation are getting soiled only because there is no parental guidance and I ask why they have no guidance? If we seriously think of the society we must stand on our feet and see the things as they are.
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@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi Mylotters, Please overlook the unintentional grammatical mistake in the post and also the typos. The 'teen' is as ten there. Hope you would co operate with me.
@Poison_Girl (4164)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Well, I can honestly say that no, I'm not afraid and concerned for my children. Why not? Because I don't have any children. You'll probably ask what about my future children? Well, no, I'm not concerned for them either. I won't have any future children because I don't ever want any children. Am I concerned for myself? Yeah, you bet I am.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi poison, I guess you are married. But you are not willing to have children. That is not abnormal but not so much natural. Why any problem with children?
• United States
23 Aug 09
Actually, I'm not married and I'm definitely not willing to have children. I don't like the term "natural". I don't understand why so many people are so quick and willing to have kids. I have a "problem" with them because I find them incredibly annoying. I don't have the patience to deal with kids.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
hi there, Come on that can not be the cause. Even I do not like children those who are naughty and annoying but I have my lone child and he is a nice kid, now 7.5 years old. When you would have your own things take a different turn.
@zandi458 (27954)
• Malaysia
21 Aug 09
Back in my days, parents were never worried of their children running around in the neighborhood. Intruders were unheard of. Not anymore. The present scenario has changed and we see and read in papers cases of missing children, abduction, and rapes happening to innocent young children. I am very disturbed with what is happening to today's human behavior. They are always stirring the peace in our society and this has made me worry of the safety of my kids. Really you'd need not only eyes at the back of your head but twenty arms to control your kids all the time.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi zand, We are not only worried over the well being of our own children but for one and all. Now look what childhood we passed is a fable now for the new generation. The freedom we enjoyed is a curiosity for them. Forget about your teen aged girl getting abducted or abused there are lustful eye roving around and you are not sure what could befall her until she is home. Situations have changed and has changed our attitudes too. Even the children of today are to blame for the deteriorated condition. Do not you think so?
@jashoaf (298)
• United States
22 Aug 09
I think we must be careful that "concern" doesn't become "worry". First, it raises your stress to be worried all the time. Second, the child becomes fearful. I work at teaching my children to be prepared, not afraid. this is important to me. Researching who your child is staying with helps. Talking to other parents, watching their kids, gives you insight as to the safety of that household. Make sure your attitude is one of precaution and preparedness, not of fear. The child will learn from you. Kids in groups are safer than kids alone. Encourage buddies and friends, based on your research you have done. Whenever possible have the friends at your house rather than your daughter somewhere else. You can play with the friends, and from the way they play you can sometimes spot problems that you want to keep your child away from, or kids that need help. Your little girl will be helped if you can teach her the protection and value of modesty. Modern girls do not tend to be modest and attract those roving eyes without even being aware of it - or sometimes reveling in the power of it. Start teaching her now, not to be modest out of fear of abuse, but to be modest because it honors her, her family, and God.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Hi, I guess I have not mixed up 'concern' and 'worry' together. This is true as well that your responsibility sprout from concern and worry. None I suppose would like to be worried all the while. Step that has been taken is the way to wipe out your worries. I have not recommended either that children should be left in their own privacy. They are better in company but you have to careful and watchful what sort of company is that your child is in. In todays situation all are prepared but would your preparation work at the time of need? That is a big deal infact.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
23 Aug 09
I am always concerned about my child’s safety of course and I am always vigilant but you cannot over do the concern or it will lessen the quality of life. At home I usually feel secure, we have an alarm system and close neighbours; I have never felt scared of anything here. Of course the one thing I am very careful about is who my child comes into contact with because unfortunately there are individuals out there who are sick and dangerous. I’ve taught my daughter the ‘stranger danger’ philosophy ever since she could understand me and although I feel she is sensible enough to take care, I never stop enforcing it.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
23 Aug 09
Hi Paula, Surely, overdoing of everything is bad. Children should be allowed a certain amount of freedom to help them build their own ground that they would need to stand on later. This is too equally important that you have a check who your child are with and the nature of the third party. Thanks ....
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• United States
22 Aug 09
These days i;m very concerned about my children.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Yes, these days are the days of total uncertainty.
@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
22 Aug 09
Hi krajibg, I don't really have any worries about an intruder as this is a very safe community though obviously the little crime we have is on the increase but this is usuaally the work of immigrants who mainly commit crime amongst themselves. The only murder I have heard of within the area in many years was not amongst the local community.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi Thea, Nice hearing that you live in more secured situation where those problems are far away. But it is always better to be on the foot as there is nothing that would assure you full security. What if your trusted man abducted your child and you are demanded of a huge ransom ????
@comfort55 (1574)
• India
22 Aug 09
We live in an enclosed campus and lots of safety measures are taken by the Society members to avoid intruders. Though few weeks back one untoward ncident occurred, with the result, more stricter laws have been formed to avoid recurrence. We feel ourself safe here, but still care has to be taken.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi comfort, This is a good move that you have lots of security. But still do not stay assured for accidents take place in the most regulated family.
@partha79 (74)
• India
22 Aug 09
you started a good discussion. we should think for our next generation. if we not bring them with proper direction, we shall be suffer in our old age. but sorry, still i am single. i completely agree with your discussion. bye
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi Partha, Though we end to overlook this issue, it is too serious and we must be on guard so that none becomes victim of this menace.
@robert19ph (4586)
• Philippines
22 Aug 09
hello krajibg, Indeed I'm afraid of the intruder for I don't know what they really are capable of especially that I have a family to protect. Good if they only get some material things and nothing more. But still it's scarry. So the best thing to avoid it is to be vigilant and put extra cautious to close the gates, doors at all times. But then again what if I know the inruder, it can be friends and relatives. That is a big question. Guess it's better to have a guest/visitor if me and my wife are around.
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
22 Aug 09
Hi Robert, What is the best thing you could do is to keep vigilance and see who is who. allow only those you think are reliable or else oust all those you do not know. About the safety of your children or he children of your relatives make sure that the make home in time and you need to counsel them from time to time.
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