What do you think about sensitive guys ?

@voldrox (7205)
India
August 21, 2009 1:12pm CST
I have to admit i am sensitive, do you think boys should not be sensitive just because it takes away the "manliness" away . . . i hope you are getting what i am trying to mean here. . . some of the other guys i know think this way, but i have to disagree, i don't think there is anything like that with being a sensitive guy. . . so what do you think about sensitive guys ? Please feel free to write down ... LOL Thank you
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@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
21 Aug 09
I think sensitive guys are cool, I don"t know too many, my brother is a little sensitive I love him so much, I must admit I don't know many sensitive guys, what is the traits that make for a sensitive guy, when I think sensitive I think about myself so maybe I am wrong about my brother lol, I will say he is sensitive to my feelings, when I talk to him, he pays attention to what I am saying, and responds to what was said, I like that about him, we are also the same sign, maybe that is why.I put the sensitive in sensitive, my feeling are hurt really easy, I cry at the drop of a hat, I could read something here it makes me cry, I am sensitive to peoples needs/feelings, would not expect a man to act like that, so tell me what are some of the traits that you have as a sensitive man yourself?
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Hi kitty Well if you are talking about crying and stuff then i have to say those aren't my stuff hehe... anyways what is the case with me is that, i don't get along very well with new people, the ones i haven't met earlier, i just don't know what to talk about and all, sometimes it really takes me time to open up to new people, also i have a lot of trouble speaking in the public, it kinda makes my face pale, it happens all automatically, i just don't want something like that to happen to anybody, i want to be good at it, i sometimes can not express myself freely in the public and sometimes when entering a crowded place i feel like there are people noticing me, although there might be none doing it but i just feel that way making me act like i am being watched and i become precautions at such times... all the unnecessary things i do when actually no one is actually noticing me, but i have to say i am a good listener, there is a friend of mine who so much likes to talk with me, when there are moments he is down and out he calls me and says he is so glad to have a someone like me as his friend, it makes me glad too... sensitive people make good listeners i guess, and yeah sometimes i have to say my sad friends make me sad and the other way round too, i should say your brother can be called sensitive as well...hehe . . . have a good day kitty
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
22 Aug 09
That is so funny, I have to say that I am the same way, I always feel out of all the people in the crowd I feel all eyes are on me, when I am sure that is not that case, I live in the city I don't like it, too many people,works my nerve, I forgot to mention my grandson is also very sensitive, he is so sweet,love him so much, I am glad I had a chance to exchange thoughts with you, can I request your friendship here on mylot?
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Lol you already sent me the invitation and i am added already, just check it out
@weasel81 (2502)
• Australia
22 Aug 09
i know my bro is more sensitive, when it come to some things. but he doesn't like to show it. most men come across as rough and don't care about much, that attitude got my work mate told off by me, about my dog being injured. i'd like a guy that can sense your feelings, just so he can understand where your coming from. can't help it if females show more of their feeling than men.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Well weasel i have to say i might be looking very rough and mean from outside but in the inside i am a lot more considerable, i just don't like to show my emotions in the public, it's just like a hard shell with a soft core, people don't know how i am, only when they talk to me do they know the real me... i am better off with the people i know, i am more frank with them, it takes me time to open up to someone have a good day weasel
21 Aug 09
I adore sensitive guys. I wish my boyfriend would be more sensitive sometimes. I think you can still be manly but be sensitive also. You can be manly and like things like cars and action films and work out and do sport and things but still be sensitive. I am not too bothered about men being manly though. I like it when guys show their feelings about things and sensitive men tend to be more romantic aswell which I do love : ) Sometimes if you are sensitive you can be easily hurt by others who aren't as sensitive as you so it would be an ideal match for me to have a sensitive man. I don't think there are many of them around though : ( But don't worry Voldrox, I think in general a lot of women like sensitive men it is just the men who don't! I think sensitive people have closer relationships too because you like to share how you feel with each other. There are many good things about being sensitive! I don't think it should matter whether you are a woman or a man, we are all humans and we all have feelings.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Hi pinklemonade, that was so well said, i was actually glad to go through that, it's so sweet of you pinklemonade thank you: ), you are very right, i guess after all i am manly as well as sensitive... i too have gone through articles and some polls and found out that women do like sensitive men, they want them to share their feelings, well then i guess it is a good thing for me...hehe... there aren't many sensitive guys out here but i hope you will find the right one for yourself one day.. hehe... yeah i have to agree sensitive men can have close relationships, even i think a sensitive girl would make me an ideal match, coz we would be more understanding towards each other . . . thank you for sharing pinklemonade, i appreciate it
• United States
21 Aug 09
I think guys should be how they want to be and not how guys want them to be. If he likes being macho, she should be macho. If deep down, he's a sensitive guy, he should show his sensitive side. I like guys who are comfortable with themselves
@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Well animegirl I have to say, i am being what i am and don't want to change just because others sometimes would want me to, i just be myself and the way God has made me, i know there maybe a lot of drawbacks to me, but isn't like if i was someone else i would have had no drawbacks at all, i have to say, although i am a little more sensitive there are a lot of good sides to me, you are so very right, we should be what we are and not what someone else wants us to be... thank you animegirl and have a nice day
@aprces (1082)
• China
21 Aug 09
Me too.I am also sentimental and have a nervous disposition In some traditional opinion,boy should be strong and careless,just like you said,manliness.that impression above must belong to woman Actually there's something more fearful by man's doing.No matter what material things or mental emotion,I want to say to be a man,he can also be meticulous and care a lot.There's no fault with them about that Sometimes man's feelings are easily hurt for more
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
It's nice to find someone like me here... but i have to say, that just because we are a little more sensitive doesn't mean we are not strong, don't get the wrong conception dear friend, we may be stronger in other issues but just because we are more sensitive towards people doesn't make us weak, sometimes it just does the opposite, we able to learn more and grasp things faster, also don't think that our "manliness" is lost just because we are more responsive towards others... i hope you get me, we are the way we are and let us be what God has made us, just be yourself as they say . . . have a good day aprces and i will see you around friend
• United States
22 Aug 09
I have found that sensative men are sensative to themselves and not to others. I used to think thaat men who cried were empathetic, but I have found that not to be true. I prefer an empathetic compassionate man to one that will cry due to his own pain and not that of others.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Hi momonster I have to say i am not like that, i am not only sensitive with things just happening with me, i also think about others as well... i am not all about myself, i do have concerns about others as well but i just don't show that to anyone. . . have a nice day momonster and thanks for sharing
@smileonstar (4013)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Hello, Nothing wrong to be sensitive guy, but some woman don't like it cuz of many reasons. For me to be honest with you, I dont really like sensitive guy and you know why? cuz if something happen or hit you right the way... you can't handle it. Be a man means you have to be strong and always stay up on the top of the line, and doesn't matter what happen or someone wants to play around with you, you still be strong. If you want to hide your sensitive attitude, you have to ignore most of things that people say to you. Im sure you know what and who you are right? if someone say something that is not necessary, it will hit you and you know you will react with this right the way right? and it is not good when you do that in front of lady. But just like I said, nothing wrong to being sensitive but not too much, ok ? lolz...
@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Hi smilestar Thank you for being honest here, i appreciate the effort you put in, i totally understand... but well i should say i am a little strange as well if you are talking that way.. coz have a look at my comment just above, there was a time i really got hard with matters... like some say sensitivity does not remove the "manliness" off a person, i have to say that is somewhat true... i am sensitive in the sense that sometimes i just don't know how to react to people giving me the silent outlook but yeah i have to say, i am more receptive than responsive, it takes me time to open up to new people and with time i just do great with them.. i hope you are getting what i mean to say here.. it is not always that a sensitive guy always has to say yes to someone just for because he can't deny them, i have to say they can unless they are extremely shy people, but that is not the case with me, i sometimes do wonder the way i am, i can be rude at times as well, i just don't know why it happens but well i think it is just me.... anyways . . thank you for being honest again smileonstar and have a good day!
@ulalume (714)
• United States
22 Aug 09
There are times and places for a person to show both of their sides. To think it is "manly" to only act all buff-and-tough is ridiculous. I am a very sensual and feminine man, but that is not to say I can't handle myself in a fight or in other "manly" activities. I just see no need to express that side extensively, as much of the world does not call for it. I do not like to think of myself as above anyone. That is usually the biggest flaw for many "manly" men.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
I understand ulalume, sometimes being manly is often taken the wrong way, we don't always need to be all that rough and tough type, i agree sometimes we need to be like that but not as a medium to show off our "manliness"... i have to agree people will more adore if we can show both sides of ourselves, only when time requires us to act that way should we get into a fight or something similar... i have mentioned here that i am a sensitive one and have mostly been a silent one in the class but i have also bashed the class bully back when i was in sixth grade, he never showed his face to me again and something i should say i am proud of ... hehe... people tend to get the wrong impression in the normal times when we are not all that "rough and though type" .... we just don't need to be like that all the time, i am just the way i am and am sure you are proud to be yourself too... thanks for your honest response ulalume, have a good day ulalume
@Hatley (164772)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Aug 09
ask most any woman and she will almost yell yes he should be sensitive. I wish my husband was more' sensitive is a cry I hear many fellow women say. I was lucky that I married a man who was sensitive'and not crude and bullyish. he cared for me as much as' he cared for him. men can be all male and still be sensitive. that crap about not being manly is for'the birds.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
22 Aug 09
Thank you Hatley for your honest response, i have heard women say that a lot too... sometimes the men try to act like they cannot be shaken, i think they try to show their "manliness" but i don't think any man should be like that all the time, and i have to say just being sensitive doesn't remove any "manliness" from us . . . thank you again and have a nice day Hatley