Religion the hardest think to overcome in a relationship.

Trinidad And Tobago
August 22, 2009 9:03am CST
I come from a multicultural society and I have seen many broken relationships because of religion. It is strange how love thy neighbor becomes don't agree with his religion hate him.
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@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
22 Aug 09
Religion is a sensitive issue, and when it comes to marriage, both parties must mutually agree. In some religions, you have to convert whether you like it or not, so if you're willing to do it, then you've to expect some rough times ahead (without breaking up) if you decide to go ahead with the marriage. Yes, love thy neighbour; be compassionate to everyone even your enemies. However, it's hard to change people's mentality when it comes to religious beliefs. I think if you come from a different religion, it's best to talk things out seriously with your fiance. Is one of you willing to embrace a different religion if you're not allowed to retain yours?
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
So bfore falling in love we should check the person's religion rather than who that person is?
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@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
25 Aug 09
Hi rosemango, it's not necessary that you must know the religion before falling in love. Some fall in love, then get to know the religion later. In fact, to some people, religion becomes a concern only after falling in love. If you believe that "love conquers all", then religion should not be a stumbling block to continue your relationship and be married. People will talk behind your back, but they are not the ones getting married anyway.
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@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
22 Aug 09
It is not good to ignore or break a relationship in the name of religion. You start a relationship with a human when you like his behavior, his character, or something he has which you are ready to accept, so where does the question of religion arise, it is not fair to break a relationship in the name of religion. These religion are all man made, and friendship or any other relation is above it, all humans are children of god.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
Religion and God are truly not the sam but where does one begin and the other end?
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
The word is same not sam. sorry
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@uicbear (1903)
• United States
23 Aug 09
i have found for friendships that I really don't have any issues with religion. Actually, there are times when I have been able to have questions answered and curiosity satisfied simply by asking about things that I just didn't know. Where I think religion would be more of an issue is in a romantic relationship. Religion for many people is the foundation of how they are raised and a huge part of your way of thinking and belief system. I wouldn't change what I believe for someone and I wouldn't expect them to change what they believe for me. And, let's be honest, with many religions there are some huge differences.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
It would be nice if everyone thought the same as you but sadly it's asking a lot. Religion is about love and good relationships are about love, however, love has its personal issues and seem dependent on many factors such as time and place, family, background, religion etc.
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@KrauseHome (35514)
• United States
22 Aug 09
Personally Religion will always be a Big factor in families and relationships. I think overall the problem is too many people are taught to dislike and such when they are of such religions, and they sometimes feel they are better than everyone else as well. Overall I think Yes, to me, being religious is an important part of a lot of people's lives and it is important, but at the same time if more people would just remember more "WWJD" or Jesus in the bible, they would be able to get a long more. That does not mean you have to always agree with them or believe the way they do, but to remember everyone is human and makes mistakes is the best way to be. If you are religious just show them respect and show them your love and in time they might be more willing to accept you as well.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
That's what i think, religion teaches in such a way as to cause division. Maybe not deliberately but there is a definite nasty competition for supremacy.
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@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
22 Aug 09
Hi Rosemango, Religion can be both good and bad, depending on how a person looks at it. I've known it to cause a lot of problems in marriages but other times it works out fine. My wife is a Roman Catholic but her youngest daughter married in the Pentecostal faith and followed her husband, all with her blessing. The children too were christened in that church. I know that if my wife had insisted on her daughter and the children following the Catholic faith, there would have been problems between the families with the young couple caught in the middle. I've found that unless a couple agrees on religion before marriage, one or the other doesn't attend any church and if they do attend different churches there is often a depute. Religion is certainly not a necessity for anyone and I would prefer that children be left to decide for themselves when they become adults. Blessings.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
Strange isn't it arent they all Christians. Even in beliefs within faith there is division. we seem determined to find differences.
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@Fracker (177)
• Pakistan
22 Aug 09
Problem is not religion but people. People should think about this issue before making any commitment or moving towards making an relationship. They should know prior to start the relationship that isn't possible. Would there be any complication in it? It is like you are making couple of peacock and chicken. Which don't make sense at all.. So if you start relationship without realizing the fact that, you can't join, you will end up on the disaster, like we see now a days.
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
I agree people are the problem, but not in the same way as you. people alwats look for differences. We should focus on what is common in the faiths, a belief in a supreme being and in the way we should live our lives. Unfortunately I myself knowing this can be at fault.
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• India
22 Aug 09
this is real problem. many say and have seen here still parroting the same lines that religion should be the main issue, without even verifying the truth. but when one partner insists the other that they should either convert to their faith, love just disappears. this insistence is very high amongst believers of semetic religions - christianity and islam. i have observed this from very close quarters, so it a personal statement of fact. you said it rightly: It is strange how love thy neighbor becomes don't agree with his religion hate him.
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
It is true what you say. But how does one overcome years of inbred prejudices. It is difficult especially with the prospect of HELL looming before us. I don't agree with the system because I have seen and heard the heart.
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@malpoa (1218)
• India
22 Aug 09
Whenone is marrying out of his/her religion it is better to have a solid idea of the partner's religion. Also it is very important to sort of the diffrences regarding religion before marriage. Because otherwise it will become a serious issue which willlead to divorce. It is also better not to interfer in religious beliefs of your partner, that way there is this line drawn which will not be crossd by both and so no issues about it. i know many families where the parents are both of diffrent religion, children aslo got their partners from other religon. some got converted to their partner's religion, some deny to call out a name for the all mighty...
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
True one must understand but should it be a reason to end a relationship?
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• United States
22 Aug 09
SSince you mentiond a Christian quote will add that the Bible tells its readers to not be unevenly yoked, to only date and then marry other Christians. And love your neighbor has never meant that you have to agree with their religion. I do not know what other religions say about this but I know that it would be extreamly hard to raise my children in my belif system if my spouse did not also belive as I do. Having a faith of any kind should be strong, it would not be a good idea to marry someone that does not belive the same as you on the things that are important. All you would do when it came to those fundamentals is fight. How can you have a harmonious and strong marriage if you cannot agree on fundamental belifs?
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• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
I am a Christian but often question what Christianity is portrayed as.
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@hsofyan (3448)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
22 Aug 09
Religion teaches love for each other. People who spread hatred and hostility, may not learn his religion properly.
• Trinidad And Tobago
24 Aug 09
Not necessarily talking about hate here, just low tolerance. Hate is such a strong word I speak simply of parting company.
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