Sweetness drives in Friendships

Love is sometimes under lock and key. Fear of being hurt, fear of the unknown, fear of going through a similar episode which hurt in the past makes us cold and incapable of loving. When a friendship cuts through the armour that we have put up and love sees the light of day then it causes fear to turn into anger and the love is repressed again and again. Anger is a negative emotion and it takes a lot, a heck of a lot for me to get angry. I have never been angry with friends either here or anywhere else. A friend would never give me cause to vent such a negative emotion. Others might try but not a friend. I have not had cause to be annoyed by friends here on myLot. Sad for them yes but not annoyed. In the whole time since I joined I have not put up a discussion implicating others, unless they were in the only category that is capable of making my blood boil, those that cheat. Among my friends there are none of those though.

Hello friend! Good day to u! I was so busy yesterday and i was angry yesterday with myself. Anger is no good in our life but sometimes we cant help it...but getting angry with friends here..no i have no right to get angry. Some comments hurts but thats there opinion of life. As u know..we can never please everybody, we can only please ourself. We have our life to look at...family to look after so for me friends are not so much of my priority but having said that..my life would be so meaningless if i wont have friends...i dont care if they are real or not but we all need friends to share our life and inspired our day. There is something in friends that ur family cant provide. I prefer having friends online...coz they tell u straight in ur face what the real score is...it hurts but then its good. I choose which discussion to respond..and i dont want to feel responding if i dont good at that discussion. I like to respond into something that i am good at. Sweety life is so short..we all get angry with our family with friends and with our life but at the end of the day...its us who suffers the most. Relax and dont let ur anger control ur life...smile and think of friends that cares. Have a good day baby. P.s i burned the cheesecake last sunday..my son was into mischief and i forgot the cake in the oven hahhahaha still was a good day.

I respond to every kind of post and most are right along the lines I always get which are mostly upbreat on most things

Wow.. What an wonderful explanation?? Especially in the very first paragraph. I will pass this discussion to my dear one. so that some more understandings could come with us each other. Its true, I show my angry often to my dear ones. means, not having much love towards them. as zandi explained here, "Anger comes when I am empty and someone wants me to love, to give him what I need myself" our dear friends/relations must realize that our sweetness towards them remains the same always. they must understood us in our bad times and should be a support. In stead being a suppoprt in our bad time, and started fighting that i am not at all good in caring or i am busy with something, then "pure for sure". I will burst out in angry towards my dear relations. Nowadays i reduced much of my angry and fight as I confirmed no use. better i try to be more patience in explaining my situation, when i am not in a good mood. But dear Zandi, Even we fight with full angry, the real ones always stay with us. I think, I have 3 relations like that, in never avoiding me, even i gave them many hurts. I still have other few decent good friends. I am wishing to make them too in my permanents friends list. Its all about understanding, from two sides. Take care.. Happy postings.. Have a nice time!

Oh zandi, it saddens me to read discussions like that! I don’t understand why this is happening to someone who I thought was quite level headed. You are quite right anger fuels hate and mistrust and takes all involved further and further away from a resolution and a resolution has to found or there will not be enough room for all involved. I am working on my anger, it is still there for many personal reasons and when I need to express it and try at least not to direct it at anyone, not always easy though!

Hi zandi458 I have to say no, I have been truly lucky thus far with my connections here on mylot, if one of my friends say something that hurt my feelings which may happen since I am overly sensitive I would write them a private message explaining my feelings and hopefully the situation will be resolved and we can move on.

No, I am not angry, or annoyed, and it is sad when friends here are angry. I try to stay clear. I once made the mistake of joining in with a friend who felt angry, before I knew all of the story, and I only embarrassed myself. I will not join in with people who are fighting now, because it is not profitable for me, or for MyLot. I do take a break and get some sleep when nothing else will work for me.

you do know anger if the result of fear, in the case of friendship it is often caused by fear of exposure of your true self that for what ever reason you keep hidden. I have not invested enough of myself to cause me fear here on mylot in fact I don't expose myself to this much in everyday life, I have been burned to many times.

Hi friend, SWEETNESS DRIVES IN FRIENDSHIP I have a so many friends are their but in that only few friends are sweetness friendship with me.A good friendship never breaks in life.I am having a few friends we are all good friends forever and ever our friendship is from schools days long friendship.I will never lose my friends in my life. friends bring happiness to our days and joy to our world. friendship is a treasure of happiness joy and sorrow. have a good day.

I haven't been getting annoyed lately over other MyLot users. I try either being nice to them or I try not commenting or starting a discussion for the most part.

In views with this my friend. Yup! we can change anger into love. We can make realities to happen as great friend. But if that already in a year I don't think it can be done. Ok that's my share in this discussion hope I can contribute something...have a great day!

Looks not a zandian approach here but this is a lovely post. The poem like first part is more absorbing. Asked for love but that is banked and have no loose case in hand. Life is like this our desires and aspirations have been caged and we are left with open face. The anger part is probably true. when you get angry over such matters a sound sleep surely heals the wound. And we are there to get our wounds healed not through anger but trough love. Just a look, a smile and a friendly gesture. All is over.

My lot or others,,keep sharing ur love,, and u will realise it never reduced,,as a matter of fact that love multipied,,There is no need to be angry at anybody,,we are learning to be caring and loving set of people,,Its hard but never impossible to control our temper,,we do get bad vibes sometimes,,but say what, that's life,,smile and move fwd

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