Hubby's hair

@jesssp (2742)
Canada
August 24, 2009 5:36pm CST
If your husband had a really embarrassing, really out dated hairstyle would you straight out tell him to get rid of it or say nothing to spare his feelings? My husband thankfully has nice, normal hair but if he didn't I definitely wouldn't hesitate to tell him he needed a change. A gentleman just came into the store sporting a mullet and it made me think about the women married to guys with bad hair. I always feel a little bad when I see a stylish, modern looking lady with a guy who's got the classic "business up front and party in the back" thing going on! So would you tell your boyfriend or husband that he looked ridiculous, even if he truly loved the style?
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@lhsy2k (227)
• United States
25 Aug 09
Well ultimately it is his hair, not yours. You can tell him that you think his hairstyle is outdated, or the nicer way would be to tell him you think he would look really good with shorter hair or whatever. You should go with the latter, turn it into something positive. Then you spare his feelings and he gets the hair cut without you "telling him to get rid of it".
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@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
26 Aug 09
Oh absolutely I'd tell him that his hair looks bad because in today's day & age, a "mullet" is just not acceptable, I mean he's not a hockey player or something or living in the 80's. Before I met the husband he was in fact sporting a a mullet, and I told him one day that it's good that he got rid of it because I probably wouldn't have given him a 2nd glance. That's how unattractive I find mullets.
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@mermaidivy (15415)
• United States
25 Aug 09
My partner has a normal hair cut - not trendy or ridiculous looking, the only problem is just he is losing his hair and he doens't know what he can do about it. We have talked about it and he is unhappy about it so I don't think I should say more to hurt his feelings...
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@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
26 Aug 09
If he's losing his hair then there's pretty much nothing he can do about it. The only thing you can do is make him feel good about himself and let him know that it's no big deal at all.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
25 Aug 09
I think he should do something different with his hair and I did say so, but the problem is that he wants me to tell him WHAT...
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• United States
25 Aug 09
Yes, I would tell him if I didn't like his hair. He was in the Marines so he has that short style. He looks like he either is in the military or a police officer and people tell him that all the time. I don't mind him having short hair because it looks good on him. It starts looking bad if it gets longer. And then I'll tell him he needs to cut it again. LOL But I don't usually have to tell him to cut it because he keeps it cut short and when it starts getting longer he cuts it again. One time he shaved it all the way and I didn't like it all shaved off and I told him I didn't like it. He said it was cooler since he worked outside but I told him I like it when he at least has a little bit and not to shave it all the way off again cause I don't like it that way.
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• India
25 Aug 09
well as a wife it is the wifes duty to make sure that the husband looks good.. if he is the sportive type maybe jus telling him directly that he looks like your uncle would do the trick but if he is the broody type we need to resort to conspiracy... you have to decide what hairstyle you think would suit him and then you can subtly say that so and so actor looks so sexy because of his hairstyle and how you wish your husband had that hairstyle.... or as a final measure one can resort to the methods of seduction if the hairstyle is very ridiculous and it is a matter of national importance that he change his hairstyle...this is how i would do it if i were a wife or if i were a woman... sadly i am neither.. but pls let me know whether this can work
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
25 Aug 09
I most certainly would. I was a hairdresser for many years & i wouldn't want my him running around w.a bad do. Of course that may be why u have a husband & i don't, lol.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
26 Aug 09
Oh, there's no way my husband's going to be running around with a mullet!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
26 Aug 09
i DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT HIM HAVING A MULLET!! Where did that come from?
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
26 Aug 09
I just meant if he did have a mullet I wouldn't put up with it. I didn't mean that he had one or that you said he did, just that I would definitely say something about it IF he did, just like you would!
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
25 Aug 09
Just because you say so doesn't mean he'll change it! It's like trying to get him to throw out that t-shirt he's had since he was in school. The one that has a billion holes in it and is honestly more hole than shirt! He refuses to get rid of it because it has sentimental value, and because of how comfortable the fabric has become! I don't have the problem with the hair style though... my hubby has no hair! Bald on top with just a mustache and goatee on his face. Looks really good on him, and I don't think that's something that will ever go out of style. I also don't have the problem with his clothes... at least not anymore, althouh he once did have a shirt I described up there, until one day I took one of the little holes and ripped the whole shirt wide open, which forced him to throw it out.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
26 Aug 09
That's true enough, I can't imagine none of the women married to mullets have never tried to bring up the subject. I would like to think that if my husband had a god awful style he would change it for me if I really hated it. He trusts my judgement and taste plus I'm the one that's gotta look at him! As for the really bad shirts, well, lets just say they end up the victims of various and assorted 'laundry accidents'. Or I just hide them.
• United States
25 Aug 09
I think I would have to. I hate to be the witchy girlfriend to tells her guy what to wear, but a mullet is really unacceptable. Luckily I have never had this problem and I hope I never do. :P
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
Yes! The mullet is just flat out unacceptable!
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
Definitely! I would tell my boyfriend or my husband in the near future that their hair that he doesn't look good anymore with his hair; that he looks so dirty with the kind of hair; or whatever the reason maybe. It is simply not good to look at that you are very beautiful, prim & proper but your boyfriend/husband looks like a janitor. This can also help him boost his confidence & will make him look decent & clean.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
25 Aug 09
LOL, I agree! It isn't about trying to hurt his feelings, it's all about trying to help him look his best!
@Trensue (5253)
• United States
26 Aug 09
My old hippy with a long ponytail and bald on top is just who he is. I wouldn't change a thing. If he is happy with it then I am too. I wouldn't say a word. I have other things to knitpick about!
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
My husband had some hairstyles over the years that I didn't like. But I just give him a little suggestion that maybe he would like to change his hair a little. There were times he accepted my suggestions. But there were times he still insisted on the hairstyle he had. He sported some hairstyles that were a little wacky. A few months after we got married, he just came home one day with short hair.Hmmm...nothing wrong with that But his nice jet black hair.. changed to a very bright orange!!! After a few days, he stopped liking it. The only solution he thought of was going totally bald! These days, fortunately, he just lets his now normal jet black hair, a little long. Then, he goes to the barber to have it comfortably short.
@Babymycah (166)
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
yes I would definitely tell him to have his hair cut. My husband used to have long hair and it makes him look like he hasn't taken a bath. I told him so and since then he always have a clean cut hair. He would ask me how I like his hair every time he have his hair cut.
• Philippines
24 Aug 09
Hmm. well, my boyfriend has a long hair, and he likes it that way.. I really don't mind, only because I love running my fingers through his hair. .. Anyway, when it gets really long I would tell him to get a haircut, and actually would nag him about it till he does so... I think his hair is a compromise, not too long ( for me ) and not too short ( for him )