Is Six Weeks a good enough Time Frame to Rebuild Self Esteem?

Rothesay, New Brunswick
August 24, 2009 10:06pm CST
That is if your doing it in a workshop through a professional service? I have contacted a professional service, who have squeezed me into a workshop staring this monday that helps to build the self esteem in woman. Help them be more assertive, yet deal with things such as Jealousy and insecurites. I was just wondering if after six weeks of this meetings are 2 hrs a week, plus things I do on my own, could be enough to have fully healed from my issues? Been thinking about asking the guy, whom I hurt, to help rebuild our relationship through friendship during the six weeks that I am going through this workshop. Then perhaps giving it another try for serval months with out, marrying my character on the game we play. Then after so many months of trying if he sees a tremendous change in the way things go he can choose where to go from there. I just am wondering if others feel a six week time frame would be a good time frame for me to heal from my issues.
2 responses
@Care4Pets (179)
• United States
25 Aug 09
Self-esteem is a complex issue. Half the battle is admitting you have a problem with yourself; that there are aspects you don't enjoy and want to change, so for that I congratulate you. Being a person with serious anxiety issues for the majority of my early twenties, I can sympathize with your self-esteem problems. It has taken me several years, a good therapist, and the right medication to get back to my "old self". The best advice I can give you is "Be kind to yourself" and "Focus on you and only you". For this kind of growth and healing, you need to be somewhat selfish and introspective. I would not advise starting a relationship (or even attempting to do so) until AFTER you have rebuilt your self-esteem and know for sure that, whether or not that relationship works out, you are still okay with you. Best of luck at your workshop! I wish you a speedy recovery of your self-esteem and a happy future! :)
• Rothesay, New Brunswick
25 Aug 09
Yes and thanks you and yes I know if you read my two other recent posts, you will see that I learnt the no relationship thing a little too hard, as i didnt know I had that bad of a problem until after the fact. I do eventually wish to try and rebuild that relationship if he will allow it, after the healing is over. I wont be asking him anytime soon.
• Philippines
25 Aug 09
Self esteem is a vague concept that involves a lot of factors. Therefore, you cannot really put a timeframe to how fast or slow a person will be able to rebuild that. I guess, one factor is the reason for that self esteem to dip in the first place. but since you have stated that a person is undergoing workshop via professional service, then it might take on a lot faster than usual because you have a professional guidance to help you through it. the most important factor here is the person, if s/he is willing enough to survive through it and regain the confidence lost.
• Rothesay, New Brunswick
25 Aug 09
Well I am very willing to give it a try. I didn't realize, it had been so poor until recently, but I am now willing to see it through and get it much better. Hopfully with some time and patience the relationship that has been ruined by this problem will rebuild and go back to the way it was.