Pregnancy

@Robyn28 (385)
Canada
August 25, 2009 4:28pm CST
I've been in a relationship for 2 half years and things changed I pregnant I'm happy about it and a little scared at the dame time it's my first one it wasn't planned having a hard time telling my mother. I'm at a good age I'm 30 it's not like I'm still in high school or anything like that. Any word of advice or the unexpected?
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@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
25 Aug 09
Ok first of all you have too tell your mom. Its not like your a teenager. Things happen even at the age of 30. I can't imagine that she wouldn't be overjoyed. My daughter was 25 when she told me she was pregnant. I was nervous in the beginning only because of their finances at the time. She was in a relationship for about 5 years already. Now they have a beautiful 3 year old daughter and they are married for two years. I love my granddaughter to pieces. She is the most important thing in my life. The big question is how does your boyfriend feel about this. If he is ok then their shouldn't be a problem. My advice is to enjoy the time you both have left together because everything will change once the baby comes. Sleepless nights, mood changes that will affect both of you. Everything will be about the baby. You will not have any downtime accept when the baby is sleeping which in the beginning (first month or so)is when you should sleep to. This is hard because while the baby is sleeping you will want to get the bottles prepared, shower, clean and you just won't have the energy for all this. So instead of going thru all that, sleep when the baby sleeps it will help you so much with your energy level and your mood. Trust me I have been in your shoes twice and its hard if you don't get your rest and sleep in the beginning. If people offer their help take it. I wish you both luck and a happy healthy baby. Take care!
@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
14 Oct 09
Hi Told my mom finally couldn't really hide it anymore clothes weren't fitting she's nervous ,but happy now that I told her. I'm at 18 weeks or close to it at this point my boyfriend seems a tad scared if you asked me, men are funny with things like this I took him to the doc with me to see the altra sound so he could see how far along I am or the babies development he said it was interesting that's all he gave me he doesn't express himself much. He said he wanted to be a father at a point I don't think he was ready for it ,but he's still here by my side he's one of those 33 years going on 12 he's like a big child with the video games. Even though it wasn't planned I don't regret it. I think it happened for reason emotionally I was more ready. he knows there's changes that have to happen I have five more months until the babies due I think he's half happy and half scared as I said he says things or does things like touching my tummy and kissing my tummy he only started doing it when he foundout. take care
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
14 Oct 09
Once the baby comes he will be so in love with this child that everything will fall into place for both of you. Its a little scary in the beginning the first month or so when you are tired and maybe cranky but with help you will get thru it. So many of us have gone thru it and you will too. Good luck and God Bless.
• United States
25 Aug 09
I think that this happens and what you should do is decide if you want to make things go further with the dad. I had my kids very young and I am still with the dad but when a child comes in the picture things change big time. Being a parent is a life time commitment so keep that in mind. I think your mom will be okay with it, you are a grown women and what you do with your life is your choice. Please keep me updated and congrats on the baby:) Happy mylotting as well.
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@Robyn28 (385)
• Canada
14 Oct 09
Hi I told my mom she came around she's a bit scared for me or worried ,but I think this happened for a reason it wasn't planned and everyday I grow bigger and bigger and everyday I can't drink or caffiene reminds me oh my regular clothes haven't fit since late July I do like being pregnant minus the gaining lots of weight. The dad to be seems a little scared and a tad happy maybe he's hard to read. It hasn't quite set in for him it has for me the maternity clothes in which I have to wear now. I'm at 18 weeks if it's not there yet it will be soon. I know things will change I think it happened for a reason and I know life will change my life's pretty low key I stay home alot and some of my friends have kids so I have some people I can turn to plus my family is having kids a tad late the aunts were older having little ones. I have places to take my child when it born I want to go see them and have play dates and bring the baby for swimming lessons when it's old enough. I want to be a good mom
• United States
25 Aug 09
I would think your mother would be ecstatic to hear that you are having a child, at least that seems to be what most grandmothers to be are, when they find out their child is going to be a parent, particularly when the child isn't still a child her/himself...i woudln't worry about it, just share the good news with her! Yes, she might be worried, or have her concerns, but that is what mothers do, they worry!!
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