Somebody Married !4 Times. Whose Fault Is it?

India
August 27, 2009 4:57am CST
I just read a new item, where a man, an engineer by profession had 14 living wifes. He had married 14 women between 2006 and 2009.He searched for divorcees in matrimonial sites and hooked them. Now who is at fault? Today we see marriages are arranged not based on the character of the bride or the groom. It is financial consideration. In this case the man was earning rs70000 per month. Girls fall for looks and glamour. Elders think they are 'know all's' and fix marriages with couples who are rich and famous without checking their background. To be frank i dont feel pity for the women or their parents, because they deserved it. Who do u think is at fault?
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@srganesh (6349)
• India
27 Aug 09
The fault is on the man.As in the news,he had approached only widow women and they have fallen in prey with his money and good looks.Remarriage for widows is still a hard thing in our country and no wonder if the parents run in hasty decisions.I wonder how this man managed to maintain relationship with all the fourteen girls.Cheers!
• India
27 Aug 09
No i will congratulate the man for his guile and expertise even though for a wrong reason.. i think women need more of such doses, then they will stop running after name, fame and money thx
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
27 Aug 09
I didn't see the news. So, I don't know more details about it. But, I wonder how this man manged all the 14 women at a time. If you ask normal laymen, they say it is difficult to manage one single woman. He must be very rich. I think Rs.70000 per month is not enough to spend for 14 women. Where did this happen?
@srganesh (6349)
• India
27 Aug 09
Yes!We can appreciate his expertise in doing that.Really he should have a good brain to make calculations every time to get newly married.He should be good to plan and execute it without all other wives to suspect him a little bit.But it is a criminal activity to cheat on others and he is notorious and not popular to celebrate.Cheers!
@UK_Shree (3604)
27 Aug 09
14 wives! All at the same time? That is completely crazy and actually I think that it makes a mockery of marriage. People should only marry when they truly love someone and really do want to spend their lives with that person.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
27 Aug 09
Yes, it is good when a person marry only one time and spend his/her life for the partner. I am living a life like that.
• India
27 Aug 09
Yes 14 although my posting was wrongly typed as 4.. lucky man and women desrves it. They think too highly of themselves thx
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
27 Aug 09
People should only marry when they truly love someone and really do want to spend their lives with that person How do you know they DON'T all love each other though? I am married and had, up until a few months ago, a boyfriend as well....I love them both very very much and if I could have been married to both I would have been...Its not a mockery of marriage IMO, my relationships arent a joke or for play..i lvoe these men deeply and passionately
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Okay I'm assuming he is married to 14 women at once....and if they were all up for getting married then NOBODY is at fault.... Today we see marriages are arranged not based on the character of the bride or the groom. It is financial consideration LOL thats nothing new..in fact it was MORE common place centuries ago compared to today..Marriage was about social status and money way way back in the day.. Girls fall for looks and glamour again not true when it comes to the majority... I dont see anything wrong with what he and his wives are doing..if they are all in agreement of it then whats the problem..
• India
27 Aug 09
Hello no wife is in agreement. He is cooling his feet behind the bars. But he needs a pat on the back for having brought atleast 14 women on their knees. women think they are always high fliers and always look for the best of everything...
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
27 Aug 09
no wife is in agreement. ah if they were forced then thats a different story BUT i wouldnt blame him..i would blame whoever forced them (assuming it wasnt him) But he needs a pat on the back for having brought atleast 14 women on their knees If they were FORCED then he DIDNT "bring them to their knees" women think they are always high fliers and always look for the best of everything... very very UNtrue....I and several women I know are just the opposite to that actually..We like to live simple lives, arent into material things or social status etc....
• India
27 Aug 09
The women are all above 25 so not kids to be forced. They went blind seeing his 70000 salary and his lavish lifestyle. its a shame women can fall so low just for the sake of entertainment and pleasure. When a genuine groom offers to marry, women will begin all types of dramas and conditions.. now doesnt this man need a pat on his back? Dont say women are not for name, money and fame. Have u ever heard an actress fall in love with a football or a hockey player? thats isif ur in INdia.. they want only the stupid cricketers why u think ?
@subha12 (18453)
• India
28 Aug 09
I have read this news too. Its just something I feel bad about. I think that person is mad and sick. How can he dupe so many women and their families? i think they could not know beforehand about him.
• India
28 Aug 09
YEs the man is mad and sick.. but dont u think that these women were also mad for money and entertainment? why do women run after money and fame? Cant they marry someone who is good in character and less in physical beauty?
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
this an act of depraved. As a male, I'm not agree. If he is real gentleman and intended to help, he should marry only at most 4 wifes, not 14.
• India
28 Aug 09
I agree he is not a gentleman. But do u think the women who got cheated were gentle too? noo they fell not for his character, but for his money and professional degree. The day women realise that money, fame and beauty is all temporary, such incidents wont happen in our society thx
@vinslounge (1297)
• India
28 Aug 09
This is a complex situation. Neither the man nor that 14 women can be blamed without analysing deep into that situation. Yes, in the present scenario, woman falls for man's wealth and they are least bothered about his character and other aspects. They fail to check the family's background and fall prey in the traps of these kinda persons. In the otherwise, Guys falls just looking at the glamour and beauty of women and fails to analyse their character, nature and other things. In my personal opinion, I never pity for these kind of girls and guys. They deserve for these kinds of attitude and activities. In my opinion, the fault lies on either side. The guy must be an extremely talented person to flatter 14 women or the 14 women must be a bunch of fools to bleieve the man and his false approach.
• India
28 Aug 09
Yes ur right, both sides are to blame for this... but women need to do a lot of introspection. They must choose between money and good character of a person.. the choice is theirs. All this physical attribute fade away bt character is forever..thx
@gelibean (159)
• United States
28 Aug 09
If the women are all fully aware of the fact that there are 13 others than I can't say that the blame belongs anywhere but with them. How can one be upset by the situation if one knew the situation before becoming apart of it. I am against polygamy only because I don't believe that each wife gets what she needs when she is sharing with so many other women. How can one man take care of multiple wives and children?
• India
28 Aug 09
Leave alone the man taking care of multiple wifes, just imagine how could so many women fall prey to greed? It is the women's attitude that is responsible for such incidents... they are quick to fall for anything that brings name, fame and money...shameful thx
• United Arab Emirates
27 Aug 09
You are so right, it was financial consideration with so much of money to throw away and afford all of them, he seems like a casanova on the roll!
• India
28 Aug 09
Yes most women are like that. All they look for is money and name and fame... They are willing to marry even a womeniser if they are heaped with money.. how shameful... good people have no respect in the eyes of women. thx
@trisha27 (3498)
• United States
27 Aug 09
14 wives wow um, that's a bit much and I think that's crazy to have that many wives in that short of time.
• India
28 Aug 09
not crazy but a genious to deceive so many greedy women at the same time.. i feel no sympathy for the women... thx
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Ok, let me get this straight, the man currently has a total of 14 wives?? I am sorry for all of you polygamists out there, but I think that is very wrong. I am happily married to one man, and I am his ONLY wife. I was previously married, but that marriage ENDED in DIVORCE. How can any one person find happiness with more than one spouse, let alone 14? I think that this man purposely set out to deceive women and their parents, and those women and parents were so desparate, for whatever reason, for maiirage that they didn't even care to look into the backgground of this man. Where I come from and the way I was raised, this is actually illegal and considered to be immoral, and is called adultry (cheating on your spouse). I honestly feel that those people whose religious/cultural beliefs entitle or expect them to have more than one spouse cannot truly be happy in life.
• India
28 Aug 09
We must appreciate the man's guiles... he deserves a pat on his back... the women, like most, fell for his glamourous job and pay pack.. this must act aa a reminder for women generally who over look character and willing to marry people of dubious character just for money... shameful thx
@sblossom (2170)
27 Aug 09
if the man just married 14 times in his whole life i would not be very surprised. However in such short period he can marry 14 times i feel a little shocked and confused. I don't know what marriage means to him, and if the women know his history? What's the reason they got married and what's the reason they got divorced. By the way I feel a little confused with what you said. How can the man make money by getting married? I do feel sorry for the women who were cheated by it. No matter what they did, the truth was too cruel.
• India
28 Aug 09
I think this man is a genious.. women deserved what they got... this must be an eye opener for women who think moeny is everything in life thx
• India
27 Aug 09
The man is at fault. He should never do this....after all all are human beings and have a natural life to live...
• India
28 Aug 09
No i would hold the women responsible fo their greed for money. It is common to see a good groom being rejected by women on flimsy grounds and they are willig to fall into traps like this how shameful thx
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
For me it depend on the situation, as you said there are some case like parental marriage because of money. sometimes also too young the woman get pregnant and the man need to marry the woman.But you know its not that i am woman and defending all the woman in th world. But for me its the man. we woman if we will be in a situation of arranged married maybe at first we dont like the man but when the man treat us well we woman become soft and fall inlove with that man. But if the case of the man mif they dont like the woman it will never change the emotion.
• India
28 Aug 09
How stupid women can be sometimes.. they turn bling to a man's character.. all they look is for pleasure and money.. they deserve what they got thx
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 09
Polygamy is not allowed in most religions; Islam allows up to four wives but most Muslim (in my country) would not marry all four at once. If a person is able to show the same care for all his wives, and provide for all of them, then they could marry more wives. If they can't, and they still marry more than one, then they're probably selfish or desperate. We are not in a position to blame anyone who practices polygamy; it has its roots thousands of years ago.
• India
27 Aug 09
Its not 4 but 14 i got it wrong while typing.. now whats ur answer?
@daliaj (5689)
• India
27 Aug 09
Are you against polygamy? I will say it is fine if the women were aware that the guy is already married and then agreed to marry him, otherwise it is cheating. I think Muslims are allowed to have more than one wife and it is happening in Muslim countries. It is happening in India also. I live in Chennai and the chief minister of my state has two wifes - everybody knows about it.