Has any insult, incident or plot that was intended to break you

Strong  - Gold has to be beaten up to attain it's glory.
By Bala
@balasri (26554)
India
August 27, 2009 8:13am CST
turned into making you strong instead?
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
27 Aug 09
Bala that's the story of my life! Everything negative has given me more reason to plough on and get there! Offline the last episode was five years ago when the firm I worked for closed down. I had my own home with a mortgage at the time. No job meant I had to sell and luckily I managed that before the crisis set it. Five years later I am so happy in my rented appartment in the town centre over-looking a park with a perfect job and loads of free time too. If that had not happened I would still be there thinking it was the best job and the best place to live too. I have had insults thrown at me online too but the just bounce back at whoever threw them. As long as my conscience is clear, sticks and stones won't leave any bruises at all. Damsels in distress belong to history and are not a thing of the present!
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Aug 09
Wow! .Way to go Mysdianait.That is the spirit.
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@mysdianait (64059)
• Italy
27 Aug 09
Wasn't there a saying or even a song: 'When the going gets tough, the tough get going'? That really is a spur-on!
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
27 Aug 09
Hats off to you mysdianait! What a response.
27 Aug 09
Hi bala, Many years ago I was a very shy timid person and if anyone was horrid to me I would go away and cry, well once I was working at this place and one of the girl I worked with was away sick and I had to do her job as well which took me a longer time then noraml, well there was this big girl who has been bullying since the day I started work there and I have been there a year. This bully of a girl started having a go at me for taking too long, so I gnored her and went to have my coffee break, but she just wouldn't stop so I lost my temper and fought back at her, from that moment she just completley changed her attitude and eventual became my friend, and from that moment I was able to stand my ground with anyone and fight my own battle, I have to thank this girl because she has taught me well. Tamara
@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
Great Tamara.God I am happy to read your response.I like the way you fought back without giving in and substantiated your position and ego.You get the best response for being so assertive.
28 Aug 09
Hi bala, Thank you so very much for liking my response to your discussion and giving me Best Response, but life is very hard when you are only 4ft, 8in. tall and I do get people tring to bully me but I stand my ground and would not take it, I am a person that woud not take cr*p from anyone, it was a hard lesson that I'd learned from this hard tough gril that came from a roughy area. I taught he to be kind in the end, workded both ways. Thanks bala. Tamara
@balasri (26554)
• India
29 Aug 09
Well I do see height as a problem.I myself am only 5feet 4 inches and it has never occurred to me that I am short.I am the most happiest and confident person in the world with whatever god things I am endowed with. Will anybody refuse to receive a pot of gold because the fairy who is offering it is short? Will anyone drowning will refused to be saved by a short person? Height is related only to the length of the bones whereas no one can measure the length of a resolved person's mind can reach.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Yes, it makes you a stronger person because you learn that not everybody is compassionate and kind. We need to protect ourselves from problematic people in order to have a happy life.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
27 Aug 09
That is another point any one should keep in mind.That was a very good addition Mirita.
@Mirita (2668)
• United States
27 Aug 09
I'm glad that you feel the same way.
@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Aug 09
That's true.Those dissapointments are great lessons in life Mirita.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
28 Aug 09
It is true that are a lot of bad things that happen in life can be blessings in disguise. I was in a relationship years ago with a man who was very afraid of commitment and very attached to his mother who did not like me at all and she did everything in her power to split us up and in the end she succeeded because either his love for me was not strong enough or he could not stand up to his mother or both. At the time of the break up I was devastated; I thought I had a clear direction in my life and suddenly I was alone and convinced that I would never feel the same intensity of love ever again. These days as I look in retrospect I have to say, “Pheww…How fortunate was I to escape that fate!” I am married to a man who is not afraid of commitment who has a family that made me feel like one of their from the first moment I met them and had I stuck it out with “momma’s boy” all those years ago I would not have what I have now including the most beautiful and loving child who happens to look just like her dad!
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@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
I am happy I made this discussion.How nice to see such a wonderful response that is the real sucess story in life.A great story with the happy ending.I am glad that you have chosen the right man and happy now.I wish you ,your husband and your wonderful child all the best Paula.
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@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Hey balasri! Of course! Any insult or incident that has happened in my life has made me stronger and I sure have had plenty of them! I have been verbal abused, negatively beat down and all it did was eventually make me angry and then make me stronger! You can only take so much abuse before you turn it around of your abusers and become the opposite of what they say you are! I had been verbally abused by my parents, bosses, friends, strangers and came out to be stronger than them all! I wouldn't ever let anyone dare try to say one word to be today that was even the slightest bit negative or abusive! If they did they would have hell to pay! You know that saying "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger"! And that my friend is a fact! I am one of the strongest people I know today!
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@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
Right.To become strong like iron we definitely need to undergo severe curing processes.
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Hi Bala! Gosh...to name just one..lol..I think that my life has been full of these things. I can't really put a finger on just one experience. I think that life is full of challenges in which we have to straighten our backs in the end..we become stronger for it.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
All of us have to go through these ordeal in life.I always consider them as the blessings in disguise and the stepping stones.We just use them under our feet to attain what we really are.
• United States
27 Aug 09
uh yeah many I have been told repeatedly that I am evil or that I will burn in hell because of my beliefs I have been insulted and tormented for most of my adult life because I am a witch it made me a stronger person it made me more sure and more secure in my beliefs simply because I saw how those who claimed to be better than me treated me in such a horrible way I saw the hypocrisy and knew that I was in fact the better person I know that while I ascend to the next plane of existance they will be the ones burning in their own hell for how the treat people I love the smell of ironic justice in the morning LOL
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Aug 09
Absolutey Zu.No one is above anyone here.Each and evry person is special in his/her own way.May be the entire world would scoff at you and stil you must be the entire world to someone who loves you. And it sure is a great smell Zu,the smell of the ironic justice.
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
27 Aug 09
I should say so Bala. I was not the person I am today some thirty years ago.I was the same as far as skills went, because I did not qualify later.[academically].But I lacked a bit of confidence, despite my good education and other capabilities. I won't say that some particular incident or person wanted to break me and I became better. God gave me opportunities where I could make a name for myself and with my God given resourcefulness and determination I made the best of it. But I would normally get very stubborn with outsiders if they try to belittle me and where I could not speak I did not speak. But today noone dare do it to me.
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@balasri (26554)
• India
27 Aug 09
These insults and scoffings are the touchstones to assess and renew ourselves without which we would remain the volnerable lot forever.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Oh my, just one? I could name a dozen. The insults I used to get from excess facial hair just made it so I knew who my friends were/are better than most people. The boss who screamed at me all the time made me determined to not quit until I was vested in a retirement program. I did it so that wouldn't be taken away from me. I could go on and on. It seems like there are always insults, incidents, and plots of this type in my work environments. Man, now, I'm depressed. 3 1/2 years before I can get my pension. Like little kids say, "Are we there yet?"
@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Aug 09
I salute your determinatin.Your response is a great lesson for theweak hearted who give inn to the comments and shabby treatment they get in their work place.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Thanks, I need all the encouragement I can get. The work place in brutal in my part of NY State.
@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Aug 09
You shall overcome.
@wolfie34 (26816)
• United Kingdom
27 Aug 09
I hope this is pertinent to your discussion, I had to plot and plan to escape my ex, it was very draining, I had to continually lie and build up a context at how I was going to get away, my ex read my diary and found out what I was going to do and tried to stop me, they refused to believe I was actually leaving them, they nearly crushed me mentally but I was determined I was going to get away, I had to for my own sanity, it could have been so easily different, my ex wanted me there where they could control, manipulate and use and abuse me, well after 12 long solid weeks of plotting and planning I had achieved what I set out to achieve and my ex never saw me again. I am strong for it but I am also resolute that I will never ever get involved in a relationship again, it's put me off for life, I never want to be in that situation again. I am stronger for it yes but much harder too.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
27 Aug 09
I love you wolfie, my little brother!
@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
I am happy that you were able to do what you thought was the best for you.Nothing can a stop a earnestly resolved man Wolfie.
@alokn99 (5717)
• India
29 Aug 09
A very recent one comes to mind and it's an incident with the upholders of the law. It could have had disastrous outcomes had i reacted differently from the way i did. Lesson learnt- try and keep a cool and logical thinking mind when in troubled circumstances. Things then should work out okay. They did.
@balasri (26554)
• India
30 Aug 09
Great Alok.We just cannot be the same person of yesteryears.Time and experince teach us lot of things and mellow us to react with reason at the moment of provocations.A split second decision of controlling the urge to react sharply will definitely save a lot of trouble and pain.I always know that you are a level headed person.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Yes. I have been through quite a bit of things in my life and some of them made me very weak at the time. I have overcome alot of those things now though and it has only made me to be stronger.
@balasri (26554)
• India
28 Aug 09
I wish you all the best to become even more stronger Stephcjh
@littleowl (7157)
27 Aug 09
Hi Bala, lots of things have happened i my life to break me, yet I have always become a stronger and better person because of it...LoLo