Hating GOD . .. . Have you ever felt this way?

Philippines
August 27, 2009 8:47am CST
While I was on board a bus on my way home, an elderly man sat beside me. Since our travel took us an hour and half, we had a long conversation about his life. When I asked about his wife, I saw a very sad man in his face. He started telling me that his wife recently died and GOD never listened to his prayers. According to him, he prayed to God almost every minute but still, GOD took his wife away. In short, he hates and blames GOD for the death of his wife. . . He was very bitter with God. If I remember right, I never said a word to him because I just listened to what he had been saying. I wanted to comfort him, but I didn't know how. I wanted to give him my opinion, but I was afraid he would not listen. He was really very angry with God. . .. I would just pray to God that his mind and heart be lighted. It was my first time to encounter such a situation and my first time to meet a man who hates God.
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@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
27 Aug 09
Every body who had lose a love one or a bad experience in life will hate God it is the human in us. This is the reason why Jesus intercede on our behalf because he was among us and so understand the flesh. This man is in pain and so he has no one to blame but God. What he need to understand is that his wife was suffering and so it is best for her to go home and rest. How can you explain this to a person in pain and grief by letting him/her talk about the wonderful memories that was share together. After reminiscing after awhile then you talk about the anger that he/she is feeling and then forgiveness. God still love this man even he is feeling this way God is still around him. Remember that God never leaves us but it is us who leaves him. God is love and this man will eventually let go of his anger after his pain begin to heal.
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• Canada
27 Aug 09
This old man does not understand God, God is in us. Only we can help each other using the energy that God in our universe provides for us. See some of the answers given here about God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2115027.aspx
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
Thanks for giving me that link. ..
• United States
29 Aug 09
No , inever felt this way. I think it is beause I am a pessimist so I assume everything Isn't going to go well . I can understand his feelings though. If you really believe that every prayer is answered and the answer is yes, then G-d did let him down. Me, I believeevery prayer is answered but sometimes the answer is no. I think yo did all you could do. He needed to vent. i hope he finds peace too.
• United States
1 Sep 09
I think it is the opposite.Each day it really sinks in that she is gone and his grief is becoming rage and it is aimed at G-d.I hope he gets to aplace where he is less angry,period.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
28 Aug 09
HI dear! I think that he was too disturbed and disappointed due to sudden loss of his wife that he found it convenient to blame the God. Perhaphs, he did not realise that it is God, who gives us our life, He is the Creator and it is the God, who will decide, when we have to leave the planet called earth, therefore, he cursing God was of no use.
@dpk262006 (58673)
• Delhi, India
28 Aug 09
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
You are absolutely right that God gave us life and it's God who knows when is our time to be with Him. . ..
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
27 Aug 09
in 1996, the begiining of it i lost my mom and aunt the same day in a car accident, then in aug i fell and had a spinal cord injury. i almost lost my house so many times. my life did a complete u turn. i was working at a job i loved, made good money. then wham it was all gone. i was big and strong, now i am weak. i hated god for my mom, aunt and what happen to me. but then god sent me some good people to me to teach me. things happen for a reason my mom and aunt it was thier time to go. and myself i wouldn't be the man i am today ( much better) if it wasn't for me getting hurt, and getting bipolar. now i am not upset at god, i see now things happen for a reason. i am a much better brother, son, husband and dad. as well freidn, cousin, uncle.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
I honestly admire you for being so honest and for being so open to all of us. I feel very happy that you have changed your perception and being with the Lord again. You are right in saying that there is always a reason for everything and God will not give these trials to us if we cannot overcome with it. . . You're such a good man. Enjoy life always and have a wonderful life.
• United States
28 Aug 09
i figure if i am open about the bad stuff that happen to me, and how i had people that taught me to deal, maybe it will help someone else
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
hey syankee...i applaud you for being so open and honest about what had happened to you. sometimes it takes a lot of courage to share such feelings and stories. I am glad you realized how God answers your prayers in ways we may not realize at first. we do go through a lot of things that may make us bitter. I am glad you never totally turned you back on God. you looked at the brighter side of things and even became a better person. keep it up...
• Brazil
28 Aug 09
he doesn't understood God! He doesn't understand himself too. he needs to see 'the secret' i mean., hahaha have you ever seen that?
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
What is that "secret"? I haven't seen that.
• Brazil
28 Aug 09
the secret is a movie, that learns you how it works, all works, thru law of attraction, it's a law that gives to you all your thoughts (that you really feel) try to see it xD
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep 09
Yes I felt this way about God when I was fifteen years of age, it was because God had seen fit to make my beloved nan suffer for ten years with cancer that eventually killed her, how could anyone make someone who loved life, loved people, and was so gentle, loving and beautiful go through all that? And die at a young age? I lost my faith when I was fifteen, I've never got it back, I don't hate God because I don't believe in God, no one would do that. Hate is a strong word and you can't hate what you can't believe in or know to exist. There is too much suffering, heartache and horror in this world. I stopped praying after that too, why prayer to someone who doesn't exist?
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
Got your point and I respect that. . .. Thanks for sharing your view. .. Have a nice day always.
@ibuemma (2953)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Maybe I did, when I was young. But now, I realized that never God fault, it's my own fault. Someone told me, when we pray, actually God always give the answer, we just have to understand what He want to do with our life. I will pray for this elderly man, whoever he is. God bless Him, and open up his mind and his heart for He already make a beautiful plan for His life.
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
I hope that the man will soon realize what he is doing. .. Thanks for praying for him.. .May God really help this man open his heart, eyes and ears.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I have met people like that. I usually try to tell them about the forecoming resurrection. If they wont listen i will say a silent prayer for them. I have met people here on mylots that hate god for no reason whatsoever. I have prayed for them too. We can only do so much. Jahovah can reach them much better than we. My hopes for them are for them to listen before its too late.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
Later the old man will realize, God has a reason for everything that happened and everything happened according to his plan. By then He would love God more.
• Philippines
1 Sep 09
i just hope that the old man will soon realize this. ....
@GADHISUNU (2162)
• India
28 Aug 09
Doris you did what was best to be done - yeah you heard him out. God is more tolerant than anyone of us. There is no point trying to tell such a deeply affected man about the infinite kindness of GOD. Don't you worry about how unhappy he felt about God taking away his wife despite his ardent prayers. The ways of God are inscrutable. If he were so steeped in God, he would have immediately understood God's grander purpose. Everyone must get his time under the sun before he/she gets close enough to God. The very fact that he was feeling miserable about it makes him yet quite distant from God, just right now. It is not without reason that we call GOD as That Great Father- He is many many times kinder than the kindest of Biological Fathers. The other day my daughter(10 year old) complained that I did not take her call and she is sore, I only continued asking her what she did at school and bought her a big box of Chocolates, not to please her- but to show her that I loved her despite her complaints. She said she would not want to kiss me. But I said I would kiss her even if she did not want me to. If a very very very ordinary, limited intelligence man like me could be a benevolent father, just think of His Infinite kindness. The man who complained or hated God is also His son. God will take this man's hatred in His stride, and teach him the way he would learn.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
You are so sweet to your daughter. .. . I love this line .. . "God will take this man's hatred in His stride, and teach him the way he would learn. ". I certainly agree with you.
@mrsctb7 (120)
• United States
29 Aug 09
My heart goes out to the older man, because he was/is hurting. I hope and pray that he comes to a place of peace with God! There's a slang saying that there are no unanswered prayers ...... when God does not answer a prayer, that IS His answer; sometimes the answer is no. My husband lost his previous wife, even though he and all of their church were praying all the time for her. Well, if that had not happened, I would never have met Joe, fell in love with him, and had such a wonderful life being married to him, and he would not have been able to manage a Christian bookstore, guided to many, etc.! I believe that things do happen for a reason, and who are we to question God? I just hope and pray that the old man forgives his Father, because that is the one thing that we are required to do before we meet Him.
• India
28 Aug 09
well i myself am a non believer.... and all non believers out there will have a reason such as the old man... surely it will make sense only to them ... or us as i am one of them... but i do acknowledge the fact that believing something baselessly and believing in god is something that requires tremendous passion.... well let me put it this way... there are many of us here who do not believe in your loved ones.. there are parents who put their sons and daughters down and there are girlfriends who dont trust in their boyfriends ability to get a job even though they tell him that they do thousand times a day... the same holds true for boyfriends also... we have all this happening in all sorts of relationships and yet all these people may believe in god with all their might... i would say we need to believe in the people whi are closest to us than in something which you cant see... this is the the old man does not believe in god more... he has lost something close to him which cant be got back no matter how much he believes in god... that is the harsh truth... god is an energy that surrounds us and sure enough this energy is within us...you dont need to believe in it and go to temples and churches and all that to worship it... we can reach within us and bring forth this energy and make ie useful to all of us....but man surely needs hope in life... i believe in myself and believe that i can get myself out of any tricky situation whereas the old man is in your words sad...but how that hope comes to him is anybodys guess...maybe god is what he needs....
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
I do praise you for being so honest and for giving your opinion. .We may not have the same belief but still I sincerely respect what you believe in. Thanks for responding to this discussion. Have a nice day always.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
i have always believe in the existence of God. since I was a child, I thought of him as someone very influential and powerful. I do believe in him and in miracles.. i have overcome every obstacle that passed my life because i have faith in him and i know that he will always want the best for me. in life, there are always those events that will change our lives, may it be bad or good. all we have to do is face life positively and believe that God never gives us something we can't handle.
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
I am also a firm believer in God. .. I was raised that way. I may not be very religious but I believe in God.
• India
28 Aug 09
Things Happen According to Destiny And Fate - No One Controls Life .. It Is Pre-Designed Stuff
Most People Don't Understand That Nobody Controls Anybody's Life .. It is Very sad Indeed That an Old Man Didn't Have that Much Sense .. A Loss Of A Wife Is Difficult On Anybody, We Should Understand .. But that's Surely Unbecoming of AN Old Man To Put The Blame On God .. I Just Can't Say More On the Topic .. Sorry .. Good Day ..
@Christoph56 (1504)
• Canada
28 Aug 09
This story shows us that we shouldn't be praying to God to conquer what we're worried about. We have to realize that events will happen to us on their own, and there is no mystical force protecting it. Prayer will not do anything for you, it's just a personal reflection on what you want in your own life... but seriously, you can come up with those things without reffering to some giant fictional being in the sky.
• United States
27 Aug 09
like Kerri said above, anyone who has ever lost a loved one has been in that position of hating God I went through it years ago when my brother was killed i turned to Satanism only to realize that Satanism wasnt what I thought it was I then explored other beliefs and finally found the one that I belonged to I dont hate God anymore if it werent for me being angry with God I would not have found the place I was meant to be in so in a way I am grateful to God if that makes sense considering I am not Christian LOL
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
We all have our own beliefs and each one of us must respect that. . . I am so glad you are no longer angry with God. ..Have a nice day always.
• United States
28 Aug 09
I know how you feel and how the man feels. There are times I have felt God could do something but just wouldn't. It made it difficult. The difference for me is that I am so used to running to God I just couldn't do anything else. I have had times I was really angry with God. It's more about relationship though. During the tough times when I've been angry, I found that even angry at Him, I would have to learn how to trust Him through the circumstance rather than trying to go through the rough time without Him.
• Pamplona, Spain
28 Aug 09
Hi dorisday1971. What a shame for the elderly Man he must have loved her so much to feel this way. Everyone who loses someone like this needs time to recover themselves. Love has many expressions infinite and all he was doing was expressing his love for her. He probably loves God too but at this time he is blinded by his love for his Wife. It´s only natural for him to be angry it´s part of the healing process. Love has no space or time you cannot compress it or put it in a tin. Love for his Wife will heal him in part with the memories of the love they have lived together. I do feel for this man too I send him loving thoughts.
• United States
28 Aug 09
Maybe God needed his wife in heaven. God never deliberatly hurts you; he just wants the best for everyone, aand maybe somehow that was taking away his wife. i saw this episode of 7th heaven, and I thought that the father brought a really good message across. he said something like, "well, I believe in God, and good things and bad things happen to me. If I didn't have God, then I wouldn't have been able to get through the bad things, and then I wouldn't enjoy the good things" I thought that is was a really good metaphor. I pray for that elderly man.