Do You Or Do You Know Of Anyone Who Plays Favorites Among Their Children?

@Cherryd41 (1121)
United States
August 27, 2009 2:08pm CST
I have 2 boys and 1 girl I love and treat them all the same however I will admit that my firstborn was an angel my second child (yes there is a middle child syndrome) was a handful at times he was in his older brother's shadow and to young to be the baby of the family so he acting out (more times then I care to remember LOL.) My daughter was shy and quiet as a child. Each had their own peronalities but I loved them equally.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 09
My son maybe gets a little more slack from me because he has autism and his twin sister gets away with more with her dad because she's small and cute.
@ilyzium (1206)
• Canada
28 Aug 09
Yes actually I do. My sister-in law favors her younger child, as opposed to the older one. It's so sad really, but she's always been an extremely selfish, lazy person only concerned with her own needs before others. Her older child is Autistic and not allowed to play with any friends or bring any home, because she doesn't want those type of kids in her home. Meanwhile the younger 6 yr old is allowed to have as many friends over as he likes. Well, the kids are starting school in September, anyway the older one had 3 watches that he's been unable to use. I asked what was wrong with them and he replied that they need a battery and that his mother hasn't replaced it. Well, I think that's the stupidest thing that she won't do that for him, so the other day I went to mall and had all new batteries put in 2 of the watches (3rd one didn't work). See, if it were the younger one, she would have put the batteries in a long time ago. She'll never take the kids out anywhere even to play with them in a park, so after school they're always glued to their computer, she won't let either of them play with various kids down the road. Her excuse is just that she doesn't know the parents, but she's too self absorbed to walk down the street to introduce herself. Also, we bought the kids a swimming membership at their recreation center but unfortunately it expired because she was too lazy to take them. BTW She's a stay at home Mom who I'm told only surfs the net the entire day. If she's had an argument with the husband before he goes to work, she'll take it out on the kids by not making them dinner, so they're left to fend for themselves. The irritating thing is that because we don't care for her, she's labelled us as being racist, which is just her stupid defense for her abominable behavior!
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
28 Aug 09
Dawnald Sounds like that woman has some real issues she needs to deal with no way should you take it out on your children by not feeding them if your upset with your husband. I wonder if the husband knows whats going on in his own home? As far as the kids thats just ridiculous behavior for her to have.
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@dawnald (84126)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Aug 09
Yeah, sounds like she has issues all right and how sad for the older child.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
27 Aug 09
I sort of grew up imagining that all parents had favourites in their children. I mean in my house dad liked me best, and mum liked my brother best (I am the eldest, my brother is the middle child), and then when my younger sister came along she became the favourite of everyone but my brother who couldn't stand her! Should I ever have children I don't know if I would be able to not have favourites. I can imagine being closer to a female child, and perhaps my husband to a male child, but I guess I won't know until it happens. I do think it is natural to have favourites though. I mean personality wise there will always be one child (the adorable little angel) that appeals more than another (the troublemaker, but just as long as the favouritism isn't too obvious it shouldn't be too problematic I don't think. Happy mylotting and nice question :) Dranz
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Thanks for the comment on my question DCLehnsherr I do think that it is somewhat natural to play favorites like someone else said in the post earlier and I also think its the behaviors and attitudes of the child that play a role in it as well, if you have a child that is easy going and doesn't require a lot of discipline then they would be favored instead of the child who was rebellious or disrespectful.
• United States
28 Aug 09
I do belive that some parents do have favorites and it is very obvious. Sometimes it appears they have favorites when they really do not. I love my oldest child dearly. She is my firstborn and I love her just as much as I do my other two. It is her and not the middle child that has the issue. She is jealous of the attention the other two get. The oldest is so smart and hardly needs help with her homework though I offer. My middle child struggles with her homework and reading in general due to dyslexia. She needs more help from me. My youngest is only three and needs help with everything. Plus, my oldest is now a teenager and is wanting to do things with her friends and is hardly home. When she is home she acts out alot to get attention from me. To outsiders it appears that all I do is fuss at her and I am hard on her. We do a lot of things at home that people do not see like spend time together as we make dinner together which she likes to do. It is frustrating to all of us.
@MistyWood (349)
28 Aug 09
I am the elder of two children, I have a younger brother... NO we weren't treated equally... He always was the "better" child, the "more intelligent" child, the one that dis more with his life, the more sucessful - simply he was favoured! As a child he got what he wanted when he wanted it - he passed his drivers ed he was bought a car, he passed exams he was paid... I think you get the picture... I passed drievers ed - I bought my own car from my savings from my part time jobs, jobs he never had to have as my parents gave him everything... Now he is getting married and I am not - so the cycle will start again.... :o(
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
Well, there are parents I know that play favoritism to their children, though they won't mention it, you can sense from their actions. According to some experts, these actions are normal as we, human being, have emotions and most of the time, parents have a specific feeling for its children, hence favoritism is unavoidable.
• Philippines
27 Aug 09
I think as your children grow you will see different attitudes that are nice and bad so parents may have a preference over their children. But parents generally love their children equally but in time since those children will grow and will show their loyalty to their parents and be favored more. Because some children when they grow up they don't look back and become disrespectful to their parents.
@dorannmwin (36620)
• United States
27 Aug 09
I have only two children and I love them and I try to treat them the same. The thing that is getting me now is my oldest. She's six years old and in the first grade. She goes to school during the day and comes home jealous that she doesn't get to spend the day with me like her brother does. She accuses me of loving my son more than I love her. She doesn't seem to understand that for the first four years of her life she had my undivided attention and her brother has never had that. It's not that I love her less than him, because I love her just as much. I want to be able to spend one on one time with her, and that is what she is asking of me, but the thing is, when I am ready to spend this time with her, she always finds something else that she would rather do. Go outside and play with her friends, spend the night at a grandparents house, etc.
@dreamr802 (987)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Honestly, my mom seems to play favorites. My sister (the middle child) was always the favorite because she was my mom's puppet. My mom always took her shopping and left me home (I'm the oldest) and even though I'm living 1200 miles from home now because I graduated from college, when I went home in June for my little brother's high school graduation, one of her friends didn't even realize my mom had 3 kids. But my brother and I have always been close. I think we did that because my sister was mom's favorite and my dad works a lot and he wasn't around too much when we were growing up.
@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
27 Aug 09
Ha... My own mother.