What makes women happy?

@krupesh (2608)
India
August 28, 2009 1:59am CST
Why is that a woman is not content with whatever she has? Comparing others & want to be like them is their motto in life.What do they want? Money ? Car ? Extra Love ? Extra care? Why cant they compare the poor people & think that they are better off than those poor people? Why is that they only compare the rich ? What would make a woman happy?
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@Wizzywig (7847)
28 Aug 09
I have a car which gets me to and from work where I earn (just about) enough to keep the bills paid. I have 2 wonderful sons & am in reasonably good health. That'll do for me thanks. I think it would make a woman happy to not be accused of never being content with what she has. Do you not know any men who want a bigger, faster car; a younger, prettier wife/girlfriend; a thicker wallet; to be better-looking etc?? I certainly do!
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
28 Aug 09
... and the football (soccer) always on the television
@Wizzywig (7847)
29 Aug 09
I think we're going to have to "agree to disagree" on this one Obviously, we are both seeing it from different perspectives and from different personal experiences. As I see it there are both men and women who fit into the category of never being content with what they have. Some people want to have stuff just because someone else has it, others just want the stuff that they need. I dont think there is anything wrong with setting goals and working towards the things you'd like but, enjoying the journey to get there is probably more important. In terms of non-material wants... I have a colleague whose wife expects him to cook lunch before he does a late shift and to do all the decorating on his days off BUT I also have a colleague whose husband expects her to do all the cooking/cleaning/gardening/dealing with household paperwork and bills around her outside job. So, I would be thinking in terms of "Why are some PEOPLE never content...?" We do live in a world where many people just expect or think they automatically deserve to have whatever they want. I think the easy availability of credit encourage people to be greedier and live beyond their means. Thanks for a lively discussion
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
...but the wants of men are much lesser compared to a woman.He knows how much money he has & he knows what to do with the money.On the other hand a woman eventhough she knows that its out of their reach wants a particular thing which her neighbour has(not all but some women).Generally speaking women are like that.
@Informer (802)
• India
28 Aug 09
Hi KRupesh, This is the question of the century. No man can answer this question as women always found a misterious personality, you can't understand what is going in her mind. Only women can give answer of this question.
@Informer (802)
• India
28 Aug 09
Hi Simon, May be you are right. But I always think with heart and always tried to understand my lady but she is not with me at this time.. That is why I said it is hard..
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
Hello Informer, The thing is they themselves would not be knowing what their wants are. Their list never ends.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Aug 09
Well, informer. I think you can understand us if you only try to understand. We, woman usually decide things by heart unlike men who usually use their brain rather than their emotions. That is why men find us hard to deal when it comes to decision making.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Aug 09
krupesh maybe you should change the women yousee as we are not'all like that at all. dont lump us all together. what do we want to behappy? respect, honor, honesty, love these all go a longs ways to'make most of us happy. Some women are social climbers and should'not ever marry a man who is not wealthy. but most of us'want'love and companionship,fidelity,honesty and above all' else faithfulness. those are the intangibles but they bring the'most happiness not things.Things wont comfort us on a cold night'when our hubby is out drinking instead of being home to hug and cuddle with us.no we want to be respected.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
I am not talking about all women but majority of them & if you are in the minority its I appreciate that.On a cold night you get warmth by wrapping a woolen blanket around & dont expect all men to be in home on a cold saturday night
@sweetyethot (1737)
• China
29 Aug 09
Hi,If one never contents with what he/she has,then he/she will never be happy.Its nothing to do with the gender.Its very personal.As far as Im concerned,Im not the kind that can be easily contented,but I know thats not good.As you said,I will live a miserable life if only comparing with the rich.
• China
30 Aug 09
In view of this aspect,women who tend to achieve more and more and more in their life,are those who follow their dreams and wanna make the dreams happen.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
You are right.No one is contended with what they have but women are slightly more not happy with what they have.They always tend to ahve more & more & more & more
@vandana7 (98731)
• India
28 Aug 09
Hi - I am going to dissect my feelings and let u know ok? a. Love. b. Praise (whether I am worth it or not) c. Money (generosity towards me and not as much on outsiders - outsiders being extended family members and not the poor and helpless), d. Nice home (that I can keep on changing decor to show off), e. Nice car (to keep up with neighbors), f. Good looking well dressed husband (believe me - women like other women envying them), g. Educated husband (even though I wouldnt understand one word of what the guy would be talking aboout - this is also to show off to friends especially neighbors), h. Best set of gadgets in the house (dont need neighbors commenting), i. Ample precious jewelry to be gifted to me more frequently than in neighboring households. j. Display of courtesy like opening the car door, pulling chair for sitting, etc., especially when friends and neighbors are around. k. Skillful handling of gadgets and cars. l. Good sense of humor (how could I forget that - even if I dont understand even a single of his joke, there might be a few in my firend circle, who would, and will be impressed at my catch), m. Good at singing (this is very useful - especially when I have guests coming and I have forgotten to place laundry out of sight), n. The way they handle kids (and save the nanny's expenses ;-)) o. the way they help in the kitchen (how considerate), and there are many other things that I could have added but the post will be really big. :-) To make things short - there is no end to their expectations. :-)
@krupesh (2608)
• India
28 Aug 09
....even having all these I dont think they will be happy.They are not at all content which makes them not to be happy.Whatever they might say that they are happy but still deep inside they wont be happy. I dont think even God knows the reason..... But I appreciate you for responding with a big list of wants .
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• United States
29 Aug 09
Well, i'm a girl and I do like presents and a lot of love. if you want to make your girl happy; then do the following: 1. love her 2. call her back 3. don't cheat 4. compliment her no matter what 5. be nice to her friends 6. don't flirt with anyone other then her 7. buy her gifts every once and a while I put them in order of importance.
@krupesh (2608)
• India
29 Aug 09
HEllo iceprincess, Would you not want money? a car? a nice home ? nice home with all the furnitures & gadgets.I agree with all your first 6 points but why the seventh one? If he doesn't buy you gifts then you are not happy? Just thinking about this even before marriage just think what would be after marriage?
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
28 Aug 09
Hi dear! I think if they have a 'yes man', they would always be happy.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
28 Aug 09
As a women, I am happy when I am loved more and cared. I am very happy when my loved one makes me feel special. I am also happy when somebody gives me presents I like such as hand bags or purses or dress. But, wealth don't make me much happy. I am not a person who is behind wealth. A gift like lipstick case or a small purse can make me happy more than getting a gold earring. I value the love and not wealth.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Aug 09
Definately, daliaj. We apreviate things if we are cared and feel loved. Nothing much more important than that. As i observed men are more on material things than us. We much apreciate simple things as long as it was from the heart.
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
it's a normal thing... people not only women always have their own needs and wants. we can't just conclude that we're already satisfied because in reality satisfaction never exist... personally, the factor that can really make me happy is experiencing consistency of having that sense of belongingness. :)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
as a woman,I can say that what makes me happy are the 3 C's: Care,Cash,and Clothes.it will make me happy to find someone who will love and truly care for me.if I do find him,I still want what everybody wants,which is cash.I can't live on love alone,I have needs and wants to buy/pay for.I'm a girl and I love clothes,so I needs cash to buy my clothes.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
28 Aug 09
Hi krupesh.There are different things that make woman happy.I think as a woman,I'm happy with extra love.LOL.So,My husband love me and try to fill my desire but I am not type of woman who crazy to wealth.I mean here,about his attention and responsibility.As long as my family could enjoy our life,it's make me happy.
@simonelee (2715)
• China
28 Aug 09
So, simple. Every woman wants to be loved and cared. Observe those people who has everything in life, material things. Are they happy and contented? No. Because they are not contented unless they found love. The less fortunate people are much happier even though they have nothing on their table, why? because they feel being loved by their family. Woman are shallow when it comes to happines than man. Happy posting! ciao.
• China
28 Aug 09
love is important!
• India
29 Aug 09
Hi krupesh. It is really a question may be every man asks oftenFor so many women it may be different things. But for myself it is only being loved and being cared for. I have never given importance to wealth.I am happy with whatever God has given me. So I am happy with every small pleasure in life Have a nice day. Happy mylotting
@tintukm (1102)
• India
29 Aug 09
Women mostly are so delicate in terms of emotions and life as a whole.These days the situation tends to show change,women must always be trusted by any one who has any kind of relationship with any women.The trust thus would be also achieved by the person doing so.Women need lots of care and attention, there are lots of cases where relations break regarding the small arguments.The women also tries to show her love to the people she like the most,thus during such a time never fall out from their love always be with them for the best in life.