If you could let your partner experience something you have to go thru...
By dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
United States
August 28, 2009 7:01am CST
If you could let your partner experience something you have to go thru daily, monthly, or annually, what would it be. If I were able to let my fiance experience something that I go thru, by far I would let him experience MENSTRUATION! A period! Oh yeah, no question. When I have my period he drives me crazy! He thinks I make more out of it than it is. For me its bad. I suffer for four days. I think he needs to experience first hand. After he experiences what I go through every month, I believe he will be a little more understanding. I hope... What about you? Men too. What experience, that only you can experience, would you want your mate to experience to help him/her better understand what you go thru? Anything
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
29 Aug 09
I think birth would be my choice, I'll bet we would only have one child then. My Hubby delivers llama babies and he is always so matter of fact about the Mom's pain
he was that way about my pain also. Well I don't wish pain on anyone BUT.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
1 Sep 09
I think they should experience every last contraction, cramp, or whatever else you experience during childbirth. Some think that woman ever exaggerate the who experience. Let them see for them self. One rip in the skin or having to have an episiotomy and they will never underestimate anything we go thru. dl
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@walkinmyshoes (18)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Me personally I would have my wife know what it feels like to grow up with out your parents around. then maybe she would realize why i have the need to make sure that I am the best provider that i can be for my fammily. At the moment I am a stay at home dad coming at of hard times and she's been the provider for so long that sometimes i feel that she likes the fact that i have to depend on her. I would like her to know the feeling of growing up ALONE so she could understand why I have this urge to strive to make a better life for my family in the hopes that my children do not grow up in a broken home.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
1 Sep 09
How touching. You are a wonderful man! THe fact that you would share your childhood with a family to help her understand you is thoughtful. No matter what point you're trying to get across, Its touching that you want to share it. Thanks so much for responding. Its nice to get a males perspective on my discussion. THanks again friend. dl
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@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
30 Aug 09
Hi, dioveli!
I wish my husband could experience depression, but only for a few hours, so he could understand it a bit better. He thinks just telling me to snap out of it is enough, and I'm too stubborn to do so, sometimes. He's not at all unsympathetic, but he just doesn't get it. I don't want him to suffer with depression, but it would be great if he could understand it better.
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@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
28 Aug 09
I've often wondered what it would be like to birth a child. But this is a fruitless, if understandable, question. There are certain things that are unique to each gender,and I guess that is what Nature wants, so why can't we just accept those variations and ghet on with life.
Lash
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@grandpa_lash (5225)
• Australia
28 Aug 09
Of course I should have answered both sides of the question. I would like a partner to experience temporary impotence. Yes, this is an elder person's issue lol, but hey! so what.
Lash
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@polo_princess (803)
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30 Aug 09
If you did get to experience child birth im sure you would take that comment back and pick something else to experience 
It sure would be interesting to see how a man would handle childbirth 
It sure would be interesting to see how a man would handle childbirth 
@virgonian1988 (119)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
for me, I want my partner to experience how it feels like if they are pregnant because you know, my guy is sort of unlikable really.... i mean, not really my ideal one and have more of negative personalities but I have nothing to do to change it. I just have to accept it so, I want him to feel how women got pregnant so that they'll realize how hard for us/women to give birth to our siblings.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
1 Sep 09
That is a good one! I think they should know exactly what we go thru. I mean we do get the short end of the stick when it comes to painful or uncomfortable and inconvenient experiences. Why shouldnt they get to see it from out point of view. I bet they'd never talk trash again. lol dl
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
3 Sep 09
The one thing I would love for my husband to experience that I have to put up with is my super sensitive hearing. Because of his experience in combat, and going to too many loud concerts as a student, his hearing is shot. Mine, on the other hand, is so sensitive that the smallest noises bug me. He likes to blast the sci-fi channel, and there have been days when I'd like to put his head through the television. LOL
@scarlet_woman (23465)
• United States
7 Sep 09
oh my god..i wouldn't wish my periods on him because i wouldn't want to hear the wailing.he's bad enough with the flu.
um..maybe migraines.then i won't hear "it's just a headache".
um..maybe migraines.then i won't hear "it's just a headache".
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Menstruation, pregnancy would definitely be at the top of the list. Next to follow would be my worries about money and work and the economy. Sometimes, I don't think these things phase men that much for some reason.
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
29 Aug 09
i think they would feel a little more compassion if they had to go every month like women.sometime i think they need to have a baby too.
@UhohletsDisCo (33)
• United States
28 Aug 09
I would like my man to experinence munstruation as well;;
But I must say yu know how theii saii some people;;
Will alwaiis have it worse;;Then yu;;
Well yur 4 daiis is nothing Compared to two weeks=)
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
28 Aug 09
No way, Women are strong because they can stand menstruation,menopause and giving birth. that's all i can say. although there was a guy who became pregnant, am not sure if he has given birth. he was interviewed in Oprah before. better check on youtube again@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
29 Aug 09
No, He's a GUY, i swear am still looking at it in youtube...
@foreigntradecareer (166)
• China
29 Aug 09
well,sometimes I would like to let my rates or friends to have the opportunity to go throgu my experience. That might be a wonderful and amazing thing to share your things with other people and after sharing that they might be better understanding your feelings or thoughts. So I guess that is a good way to develop comunication, and most of the time, I would like to act like that.
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@polo_princess (803)
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30 Aug 09
I think if i had to choose something it would have to be for my partner to experience childbirth. That is the single most selfless thing a person can do in my opinion, sure it hurts like hell but as a woman you are bringing a new life into the world to love and care for, and you are giving your partner a child. It its truly amazing and i would love to see not only how they would deal with the physical side but the emotional side too
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@ChaoticBeauty (263)
• United States
28 Aug 09
First of all, I completely know this could go both ways, but if it were me making the choice, I would have to say waking up every day at 5am, and not going to bed until 1am, all the while working a full time job, coming home to take care of the kids, and then pampering my wife when she gets home. Note that I didn't mention ANY alone time or time to do what I want to do...this experience would be a 7 year long experience, not just a day or two...
I think that would be what I would have her understand...
