August 28, 2009 11:05pm CST
Many years ago I was engaged to the love of my life. He was my best friend since we were kids. I loved him so much. During college we started having some issues. He was working a lot of hours and taking classes. I was taking classes as well, but not working. I would try to call him and his mom would tell me he was either sleeping or not home. About 2 weeks had gone by and not a word from him. I was kind of thinking it was over. Since he wasn't answering my calls, I sent him a letter. After he got the letter, I finally received a phone call. He kept telling me how much he loved me. I asked him he has a funny way of showing it. I felt like I was being ignored. We had talked everyday for about a week and then no calls again or seeing him. I didn't bother with trying to contact him after that. A mutual friend of ours told me he had seen my boyfriend at a party. I was so mad. He had time for parties, but couldn't spare 2 minutes for me. I broke it off. I couldn't deal with it anymore. I saw him a few times out and about, but I refused to talk to him. It was too painful. He had gotten a job and moved out of state. We didn't speak for a few years. About a year and a half, maybe two years, went by and I really was ok. I do admit for a long time I thought something was wrong with me. I didn't date for awhile. I just focused on finishing school and starting my career. He then contacted me and said he wanted to talk about what had happened. He said he was too ashamed and embarrassed to talk to me before. During that awful period of no calls, no visits, nothing, he said he was questioning his sexuality. Our mutual friend had told me when he had seen my boyfriend at a party, he had cheated on me. During this call after all of my healing, I had no idea what to say. I was angry, hurt, and confused. I told him he should've came to me sooner. I said I deserved and had the right to know what was going on. He said it wasn't until he moved out of state that he realized his sexuality. I told him he should never feel ashamed or embarrassed about anything and that he can tell me anything. We talked a very long time. We became friends again. We are still in contact and are friends. No more hurt, no more anger. I had moved on. I have married a wonderful man. He comes home a few times a year and we get together. My heart was broken for a long time. I guess people are right when they say time heals all wounds.
• Shingle Springs, California
31 Aug 09
I'm glad that he was finally honest with you and that you were able to find somebody who was right for you. It was probably really hard for him to tell you the truth even after all this time. Good for him that he finally did.
29 Aug 09
That is a good relationship should be an open communication and both partner if ever got mistakes should be honest to confess his mistakes no matter what the consequences. It is better than to hide lies while on the long run it will be discover which break a relationship.
29 Aug 09
See how good is God, He made a way though it hurts you much before but better than having all the pains now knowing his real sexuality in case you and your childhood sweetheart ended as wife and husband. You are destined to someone better, someone deserving of your love. That's the meaning of everything happened for a reason, you have to lose him and feel the pain as tomorrow you'll have the true happiness.