People that Have ISSUES with BBW's and how they dress...ughhh!

United States
August 28, 2009 11:29pm CST
I was downtown today and theer was this bigger woman and she had a shirt that fit her well and it showed some cleavage,nothing nasty just a lil sumtin lol..andwho there were a few ppl gawking and i hear them whispering at how huge she was and how disgusting she looked blah blah,and honestly she didnt look bad at all..and thennn..about 15 mins later a beautiful lil hottie walks in and teh same group of guys and even one of there wives were checking her out and they were saying how hot she looked and wished she had it tighter and showed more..and frankly it showed more than teh bigger woman..not this just pi$$es me off on so many levels!! People perceive each other differently when they look in the mirror and quite frankly because shes a bigger woman she isnt aloud to dress sexy or dress what makes her feel sexy because shes not a size 3??!! GIVE ME A BREAK! I give her huge props for being comfortable with who she is and doesnt give a sh*t what other people think..so what is your opinion on this matter? Do u think all BBW should hide under a bunch of clothing ? Or dress however they feel they want to?
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8 responses
• United States
30 Aug 09
As a big and possibly beautiful woman myself (ok, so I DO struggle with the beautiful bit!) I do think its wonderful if a larger lady can carry herself with pride and show off her assets to the world as she chooses! People absolutely don't have the right to stare or comment in the street when they know nothing about her. I do think that both large and small women can dress in a way that does them no favors. This, as I said, is still entirely their choice, but my preference is to NOT wear things that are overly tight, or overly revealing, simply because it is less attractive - as a larger woman, I DON'T feel I look my best if I wear things which cut off above my stomach, or are tight around my upper arms - I don't need to announce these parts to the world....lol... But I WILL wear something which shows a little leg, or a little cleavage, because I feel this looks good for me. So for me it is not about size but its about each woman deciding how they look their best self, and about dressing with taste and class and comfort for yourself. Just make sure you wear something that gives you enough movement to make an appropriate gesture to anyone rude enough to comment or stare in the street!!! Now, go work it, ladies....
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I totally love the way you responded to this discussion..
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• United States
30 Aug 09
Aw, thanks, I'm new here so its nice to be appreciated!!
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@DCLehnsherr (1042)
29 Aug 09
Hey cloud_kicker_32, I hate people who judge others like that. Whenever I see a bigger woman who is dressing sassy and sexy I congratulate her because it means she is happy with who she is and is embracing that. I look at those women and I think 'I wish I could be like that' and I don't care if they are showing a little of something to be honest. When I see people judging those women because they are dressing confidently like that, I want to slap them because it is just wrong and is a good example of why society is so screwed up these days! I think more bigger women should dress sexy, maybe then the rest of society (and perhaps the women themselves) will start to see that they are human and beautiful, instead of demanding they become the size 3s that you mentioned just to feel like they fit in! All the best, Dranz
• United States
30 Aug 09
hello there DC:) i cant stand ppl that judge anyone if they dont know them anyways,but being a BBW myself this i guess hit me harder then most topics.and she was a very confident woman and i think that alone is sexy on anyone,what sucks is that once upon a time society expected women to be plump or over weight untill our models went to a size 1,then the whole USA goes if your over weight your disgusting,or unhealthy..bull..before last year..i have always been over weight and always a clean bill of health..and as far as sexieness whatever ppl want to wear who are we or anyone to tell them how? thank u for posting hun! April
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I am overweight..alot overweight..and I know just how this woman probably felt because I have been in the same situation(of people making fun of me and saying stuff..) You know what I realized though..that even if I had been skinnier that if I hadn't passed some beauty test of theirs I would still be ridiculed about something if it wasn't my weight it would be my hair, my makeup or my looks..people are always trying to find something wrong about someone else So they don't have to look to closely at their own faults..it gives them some high to make fun of others different then them.. I ain't no barbie doll and never will be, But I am human and have feelings. I am a big woman..I wear a 40 DD cup, I might not show them to the world but if I did it would be my business. It is people making fun of the way others look that makes some people keep a hold on depression so much. My mom has always been the one to say if you like it, if you comfortable wearing it, if it makes you feel good or sexy then to heck what others think, because it is what we feel and want in the end that counts. I have let my hubby tell me what not to wear a few times.. like Leopard Capri's But usually I wear what I want unless it is something that makes me feel self conscious or I think I look horrible in it..I won't leave the house in it..although I probably do have alot of clothes that others think WTF was she thinking when she chose that ..If it sickens someone to look at me..well there is always millions of other places to look..
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I think honestly everyone has some clothes they wouldn't actually leave the house in. I've been chubby, but never overweight enough to really get made fun of for it past elementary school. People will go for the disabilities, my crazy hairstyles, the shoes I wear, etc. I love wearing halter tops but I think they really only work for teens. So I have several I wear if I'm just at home cleaning or sitting around, but I would never go out in them... I think it's just because they show some "side boob" in the words of Family Guy. Something I don't really want to show.
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• United States
30 Aug 09
My philosophy is DIFFERENT STROKES FOR DIFFERENT FOLKS. I have been around men that are surrounded by many different women, some skinny and gorgeous and some bigger and gorgeous and they will go after the bigger one's. It just depends on the people but unfortunately the majority of men will make a comment about a bigger girl when they are with their buddies just to show off. The funny thing is these are the same guys that if they aren't around their friends and these same gorgeous heavier girls are around and they hit it off they will try to ask them out. Funny how that works. I am all for heavier women dressing sexier as long as they don't start showing way too much. When you see some that are showing their rolls along with everything else, well I have to make comments then too. Nothing is more of a turn off when a really good looking heavier girl wears the wrong clothes. It gives all heavy women a bad reputation.
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I just wish they made better clothes for heavier woman. A size 3x woman isn't going to look as alluring in a pair of hip hugger pants and a baby tee..(a t-shirt that barely covers the midriff)as a size 2 would. We try to be fashionable but what they have out there is just not helping us. Make us stuff besides granny dresses and shirts and polyester stretch pants. Would be a big help if they actually showed heavy set models in the clothes instead of smaller models..Some of is don't know what we really look like even with a mirror in front of us..sometimes it takes a real photo to see the error of our ways.oh but then they wouldn't sell as much..
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@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
30 Aug 09
I don't have a problem with people being overweight if that's what they want, but even skinny people, I can't stand some of the outfits people will wear! Those tight fitting outfits don't really look good on anyone typically. I don't mind a bit of cleavage, but outfits that show every roll on the body are just disgusting. I guess if you're lucky enough to have no rolls (whether big or small), it wouldn't look bad. I'm not very big, but even I can't wear spandex. I don't care a whole lot about what people think, but that's just not the image I want to portray. I might wear some crazy shoes or something like that, but I'm not going to show off my rolls with pride because personally, I'd like my rolls gone. But I guess it all depends on how you look at it... if you like having rolls then I suppose showing them off would be different. In any case, I'm not one to point and stare and make comments. I just look away.
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@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
30 Aug 09
I don't think that anyone should dress however they want to. I've seen too many skinny people in too baggy clothes, and too many overweight people in clothes that are WAY too tight. Both make me cringe. I'm a BBW, and I dress appropriately for my size. I am a very sexy woman, and love showing a little cleavage without being tacky or trashy. I won't wear short shorts, because that's just wrong... but I will wear proper fitting long pants and capris (not too loose, not too tight... but JUST right).
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@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Aug 09
hi cloud kicker on behalf of all us BBW;s I say the more power'to the lady as she wanted to look as good as she could and she was comfortable'with herself I feel the same darned way,I try to'dress to show off my pretty eyes and nice hair and the rest of me is big'and so whatthis is me. I am comfortable with myself and like pretty' clothes just as much as the skinny ones do.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Hi cloud_kicker, I know quite a few buxom women who dresses very smart,but then there are some who dresses a little more provocative and people to tend to stare them and talk negatively about them, not even knowing anything else about them. I don't believe clothes makes the man or the women. What makes you is your character,your integity, and your honest. Wear what you want as long as those thing are intact. For those people who are judging, my question would be to them, "what are your flaws? Surely you are not perfect.