Would you forgive the one y our with if they cheated on you?

United States
August 30, 2009 3:11am CST
Say your married,or even dating someone..what if they told you they cheated on you,or that someone else told you they knew that your loved one cheated on you? How would you react? Leave them? Give them a chance? and would if matter who you heard ot from? Themselves or soemoen else?
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• United States
31 Aug 09
I took my exhusband back like 9 time's. All after I had found out that he had cheated. So I have to say I was forgiving him. But I never did really trust him and I knew inside of me that he would do it again. Which he did do.
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• United States
1 Sep 09
Aww hun im soo sorry for everything you went threw,im sure it will always be on your mind,especially after 9 times! holy crap! i have given a couple guys another chance..never 3 or more..your wayyy more forgiving than me hun..i hope things are better now..and if they are stay that way..thank u for posting..
• United States
30 Aug 09
Speaking from past experience: My girlfriend cheated on me. We panned things out and patched up our issues, but it wasn't a love that could flourish. We lived too far apart from each other. That was part of the reason she cheated. I wasn't there for her. In the end I knew I had to give her up. She went on and got a new boyfriend and has been happy every since. You know what? I'm happy for her.
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• United States
30 Aug 09
Im sorry u had to go threw that,long distance relationships are soo very hard and really do rarely work,i have been in a few and i know they never did,and what sucks it that i never once cheated because thats how much i loved him,and when ppl say well you werent around,,blah blahh i say,if u lived together and say they met someone from work..they couldnt use it..so really whats the difference from living far or close? nothing in my eyes..if u love someone u dont cheat on them no matter what.and i give you major props for feeling happy for her,makes you such a wonderful and better person.:) thank u for posting:)
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
i think i will be able to forgive, but i think i will not be able to stay with him anymore, i wthink the memories of him cheating, etc.
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• United States
30 Aug 09
ya i hear ya..i forgave my ex..well a few of them but never evere will forget and i think thats what would ever keep me from being able to keep goin on with a relationship with them..id always be afraod they wouled cheat again..and i strongly believe u ned trust in any relationship..ty for posting!
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
I would definitely be shocked and get angry. But i won't let it noticed by him. I will just spy on him and ride on to what he says. It depends on his explanation. I don't want to appear exaggerated in front of him. So it will be better to caught him red handed. No explanations at all then leave him immediately.
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@suzzy3 (8368)
31 Aug 09
I hope it never happens.I suppose you have wait and see the circumstances and why they did what they did and would they do it again.I would like to think I would be big enough to let my love for my husband win through but it would break my heart if he did have an affair or something.I have been very ill in the past and he has stayed faithful when I would not have blamed him if he had strayed.
• Australia
31 Aug 09
It depends on the circumstances I suppose, but if my partner were to cheat on me, I'd probably let him go. If I'm not enough for him, then I have no reason to believe that any number of women is going to be enough for him.