Marry the wrong person, or remain single forever?

@reco13 (605)
Philippines
August 31, 2009 8:40am CST
Do you believe that it is better to marry the wrong person than to remain single and lonely throughout life? For me, I don't believe this because it is less painful to be searching for an end to loneliness than to be embroiled in the emotional combat of a sour marriage. I guess there are those who will prefer to marry the wrong person because of the threat of being an "old maid" but too often, this offers a one-way ticket to disaster.
13 responses
• China
11 Oct 09
I think it's better to remain alone than marry a wrong person. I believe you haven't got married or your marriage is good, for a person who has ever gone through a bad marriage will chose the latter instead of posing this discussion. Bad marriage will make your life miserable and so will your children's lives. I have spent my childhood in the quarrels of my parents. You won't understand how hurted i felt. A bad marriage will make you lose your liberty and you may always live in quarrels and disagreeings. It will be a terrible life. While stay alone at least will provide you with liberty and you can go to travel around the world freely. I say so not to mean that i hate marriage. I think a person should try his or her best to find the right person to marry. Then their marriage will creat Heaven instead of Hell in this world. Wish everyone good luck to find his or her Mr. Right.
• India
20 Nov 09
absoluety right see if we will not know about that person that he is right or wrong and by mistake we did marriage so that time you can make him understand ,remind his responsbility and all that but if does not work so just take divorce but in this way what you got ? but if you know each and everything and then you are going to entrap your self in this situtaion so I think it is just foolishness.So dear marriage is not end of life .
@malamar (779)
• Canada
18 Sep 09
There is a very big difference between being alone, and being lonely. It is far better to be single and alone, than it is to be loney with someone else. Marrying the wrong person, just to avoid remaining single, would be a terrible thing. When you meet the right person, you will know. Until then, take time to know yourself and enjoy your life.
• India
20 Nov 09
correct ,without marriage you can enjoy this life because life is not end of life .
@Eisenherz (2908)
• Portugal
7 Sep 09
Well, I believe that we can't wait forever for THE person to appear in our lives. We reach a certain age in life whether we just have to decide to marry someone or not. But in case that persin is really wrong for you, it's best you keep single, but also keep looking and never lose the hope.
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
13 Sep 09
Well, I am already married. But I think, I still can answer this question regardless of my marital status. I think it would be better to remain single as compared to being married and suffering. Most people force the issue of getting married simply because they do not want to be alone. But if such in the case, it may end up into a disaster as you have said. Worst is if you will have children. They will also suffer.
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
i will not marry someone just to tall anyone that i am married and that i will not alone when i get old coz there are too many married couples out there whose not happy and end up getting a divorce. being alone and be an old maid is a choice and not because you can't find someone to marry you for in fact there are too many but the problem is you didnt appreciated them. like me for example, at my age right now, a lot questioned me why im still single and stick with only 1 guy my whole life if i can find someone who will marry me for sure. it's bcoz i am happy and contented being with the guy i am with right now. and as long as we are happy then it doesnt matter if im married or not though im still hoping that we will going to get married too.
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
20 Nov 09
Ofcource not it is better to remain single than to marry wron person. what is point to marry ,this is life not formality .I would like to remain single than marry with wrong person,because this type of relation will not gonna work and at the end you will not nothing except tears and lonliness....
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
31 Aug 09
Sometimes when you are married to the wrong person you are still lonely! So being single you can find ways to keep busy and not be lonely...like join mylot where there is always someone to talk to!
• United States
31 Aug 09
I'd choose to remain single forever. I would hate being married to someone who I could never get along with.
@larish (2191)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
iIam happily married now. But if I am still single and was given the two choices you have mentioned. I rather be single than being with the wrong guy. Marriage is not something that must be carefully evaluated. Getting married with the wrong person os just the same thing oof having an unsuccesful married life. So why take chance?
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
Oh dear, it would be sad to marry the wrong person. And for this reason, I'd rather stay single forever -- at least I have bigger chances of being happy.
• India
31 Aug 09
I would rather remain single than marrying the wrong person.If I am single the utmost factor that would be disturbing me would be my loneliness.I can get over with it by engaging in some activity or hanging out with my friends but if i married the wrong person i would regret it for the rest of my life and my life would be full of worries and arguments which i hate the most.I think a single peaceful life is better than a disturbing restless life..
• United States
2 Sep 09
Being single doesn't necessarily mean that you're lonely. I know I wasn't lonely when I was single. I think more people should take the time to really learn who they are outside a relationship, learn what makes them happy and how they function as a single person and just be able to be happy with themselves. When you're happy with yourself as a single person you're generally more confident and confidence attracts people (both friends and those who are interested in a relationship). If your confidence attracts friends, then you will never be lonely. And if it attracts more, then you'll be even less lonely.
31 Aug 09
I would remain single forever. I could never entertain the idea of getting married to the wrong person just to have someone. I would most likely feel trapped and helpless in the wrong marriage and hate every second. I would much rather be alone.