Do you trully get over your first love?

United States
September 1, 2009 7:23pm CST
Is it possible to really get over your first love? Or do you just learn to live with the lost?Is it possible that your first love Isn't the love of your life? I am new at this love thing and need your advice.
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@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
Memories will definitely be always stay but it's up to us to accept realities of life when things go wrong. If the person we love does not reciprocate the love we have given what use will it be then to keep the relationship. Move on if needed. Later you will find out, God works in mysterious ways and you will then laugh it out.
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• United States
6 Sep 09
I don't think I will ever laugh about it .As long as I don't get angry ,I will be okay.
@sugarlen (138)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
In any circumstance, it is always our choice as what to do. The point is getting over the situation and move on because we cannot cry over spilt milk.
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• United States
8 Sep 09
The way I am ,I can cry over split milk,I could long for the milk to return to the glass and hold on to that feeling forever.It is just the way I am.
@ronnyb (6120)
• Jamaica
12 Nov 09
Even if you do get over your first love one thing is certain you will NEVER forget it .Even today I still remember my first girl and I still wonder "what if " and "could it " even though I know full well it couldnt .I think that your first love has a very special place in your heart and no matter how many loves come after,that place will never be erased.So to answer your question ,I odnt think you ever get over your first love ,you just get by
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• United States
13 Nov 09
When I started this post I thought I was in love. Now I Know it wasn't love,it was just attraction.I hope my first real love will last.But if it doesn't,At least I will remember him.
@AKMEDIA2 (328)
• United States
14 Sep 09
I believe if it's not meant to be which it wasn't though it was your first true love, you will find someone else special later on which may be much better than the first. Actually, it also teaches you how to love more and forgiving is also one form of love.
• United States
14 Sep 09
There's nothing to forgive. Iamglad because it takes me time and the proper revenge for me to forgive.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
2 Sep 09
I had a love affair back in my college days and it ended one sided.But still I remember her a lot and the love for her exists the same as I had then.Even though I have my wife now,which is an arranged marriage,I nourish those days of my love and I have learned to live thinking of the sweet memories.We just can't forget our first love.Cheers!
• United States
3 Sep 09
May I ask a personal question, Feel free to say no if I'm pryig. How long did it take you to learn to love your wife? Is your love for her better than the love you had for your first love?
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
It is a wonderful feeling we ever had "getting love and to be in love". This is an extra ordinary feelings and gift to us from our dear Lord. How happy we are when there is somebody taking care of us, reminding us if we eat eat already or asking of how do you feel? When I was a teenager I experienced all of that. How wonderful! But it so happened that my first love fall out of love with another girl and after a short period of time they got married. At first, I'm pretending I can manage well but I failed. Really hurt.. I count a long period of time before I totally forget him. All i can say is try to date with other just for friends and knowing him. If you enjoyed with his company so good. Do not compare your ex to him. Be happy. Keep yourself busy. That is what I exactly done.
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• United States
3 Sep 09
my guy is the first time I Really felt I was in love. We are far apart and I haven't heard from him lately . Being a natural pessimist I think this may end real soon, But then again I may be wrong. If I meet another I promise never to compare him to my guy. It isn't fair.
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
2 Sep 09
I really can say that I am over my first love......he on the other hand is still trying to get me! LOL....just saw him at my class reunion....his leg up against mine....squeezing my hand....well I will always have a special place for him in my heart! But I don't think I live to see him anymore....it was a good experience but that was the past.....looking foward always to the future!
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• United States
3 Sep 09
I guess for you he was your first and for him you are is one and only. It is too early to tell if my guy is my one and only, but sometimes it feels that way. One thing , I am now more open to the idea of romantic love so this has been a great exerpience, regardless how it ends.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
2 Sep 09
No, and I never will.
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• United States
2 Sep 09
Thanks, I am feeling the same. He is in every other thought and even though we are far apart I love him so very much.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
2 Sep 09
I look back at all the loves I had when I was so young and I think what was I thinking and I am just so glad I never married any of them so I am well and truly over my first love.
• United States
2 Sep 09
Even when I was a teen I never wanted to marry , especially for love.This is my first real love and I still wouldn't marry him.
• Philippines
2 Sep 09
I believe one can get over his/her first love. My first love and I are both now married to different partners and with no regrets. In fact, I am happy and blessed to have married my husband.
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• China
2 Sep 09
Yes,love was the best.The most simple.However,to inceease with age,the reality of change is faster.Then people will change.If you feel fall in love with someone else,you ask yourself,after living together,can accept him,her shortcomings do?If there are conflicts,you will be patient him,her?After the love is not real life..Will miss the next real-life love.
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