Do you prefer to have a baby girl or baby boy as your first child?

Philippines
September 3, 2009 3:00am CST
I was a bit bothered hearing those parents, especially mother who always want to have daughter as their first child. Or a father who want's to have a son. For me I don't really care having a boy or a girl, as long as it's healthy baby. But I've known to some wealthy family who prefer to have a son, so he could manage well the business or property of a family.And also those belong in a royal family. But those typical average family, does it still matters? Does having your first child as girl or boy matters to you?
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34 responses
• India
7 Sep 09
Hi careguarden. Your topic reflects the common feelings of every young couples. But my opinion is that let's not worry whether it is boy or girl. Both are ok. Let it be first girl and then boy. What we are going to lose. There are families where they have only girls, one,two, three or more. Such families are still well placed in the society. Why can't girl be successor to your business..? Certain things in our life beyond our expectations. My opinion is let it be boy or girl not only in the first delivery but also in the subsequent issues. Whatever it be that is ok. We should not take it as a big problem in our life. Thank you for the opportunity. BEST OF LUCK
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Yeah, I agree with you monofstrongmind. Personally I don't really mind if my first child is a girl or a boy. What's important is its very much healthy. Though sometimes we just can't help to have preferences, based on experienced and of what we have heard from other families. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great day!
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@veronizm (909)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Hi! It really doesn't matter to me should my first child be a boy or girl as long as he/she is healthy. But, I do like it if it's a girl coz I can just imagine myself having fun with her -- clothing her in cute pink dresses and doning her hair with flowers/ribbons :). I never had a sister and it would be really great to have a daughter whom I could also treat like a sister. Also, I'm planning to have just one child and I prefer it to be a girl. But if God would give me a boy then it's really no problem with me. I would still love him and cherish him as a good mother would :)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Me either if given a choice would choose to have a baby girl. Because mostly a girl would likely close to their mother and much caring and expressive to their parents. Oh, yeah it's really fun to have sister. It's seems like having a best friend. Anyways thanks for sharing with us and have a great weekends!
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I have 2 kids only, and my oldest is a girl. My wife always wanted to have our first child a girl and we are very happy it was given to us. I am not sure about the others, but it's fun to us having the first child a girl. We dressed her up and she's very sweet to us. However, our problem now is she is having a hard time to watched over his brother. But if given the chance to repeat my life, I will still choose to have a girl as the first child. Thanks!
@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 09
Hello Careguarden, this is a nice discussion. For me, when I get married with my husband, we actually discussed this issue before, to have baby girl or baby boy for the first child. My hubs is from a traditional family, where he is the eldest son , so he might want to get a baby boy first. After all my first pregnant, and we got so excited. It happened when the doctor told us the gender of the baby around the fifth month pregnant. Doctor said the baby is MISS WORLD! Oh my! I was kinda sad to hear about that BAD NEWS! I know gender should not be the issue as long as the baby is healthy I must be blessing. But I really hope to have a baby boy as my first child... Hubby cheer me up, mother in law said to me first child is baby girl is good, she can help mummy to do house works, LOL. So my baby girl was born and I am so happy to have her as my first child. Later I pregnant again and my second baby is a boy! I am counting my blessing to have a girl and a boy.
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
well it doesnt matter if your baby at first is boy or girl..But like you said your hubby is traditional...I also heard that to some people that its better your first baby is boy.I wasnt sure with this but they said.If you have first baby and its a boy the grandmother will be healthy and if its a girl the grandmother will be sickly.I realy dont know anyway..But who knows...what can you say about this guys?.Thanks..
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• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Oh, I've heard so many couple praying that it will be a boy or girl of their choice. Because some hubby do have preference on the gender for their first child. But still glad that your wishes come true now that the second child is a boy. I known a family who always prayed to have a girl, since they have 3 boys, but unfortunately it didn't happened. Anyways thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
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@vingyan06 (2489)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Hello friends, I never heard of getting a boy can get wealthy and getting a girl will make the grandma sick. I could not believe this, no logic at all, LOL. And I am pretty happy with what I have now. A girl and a boy just perfect for me. But now my mother in law is trying to convince me to get another pair of babies. She told me it is good to have 2 boys and 2 girls, LOL. I am so tired already for being a mom of 2 kids here, I don't think I will get another baby so soon... Happy Mylotting!
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
You are right. It doesn't matter wether your first child is a girl or a boy as long as the baby is healthy. I am too young to think of this but if i will be given a chance to choose, I would rather go for a baby boy. Why... Because, if my first child is a boy, he will be able to protect his younger sibling, especially if it's a girl. And my other reason is that, when I was a kid, I always dream to have a brother. Yah, maybe that's why.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
He..he..he.. maybe that's why you prefer to have a boy,'cause you just longed to have a brother. But I guess what a boy can do, girl can do the same thing as well. That's just my opinion because we're in the modern world. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• Philippines
6 Sep 09
I just want to clear thingsn out. I do not underestimate girls. I just want my first child to be a boy because when I was a kid, I envy my friends who were being protected by their older brother. That's it. :)
• India
3 Sep 09
well i wud definitely like to have a baby boy first then a baby female . as he`ll start earning quickly than her and will try to help her in her studies too:)
• China
3 Sep 09
Okk Me too
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
I guess it all depends, you would not be sure on who would be more successful.LOL Thanks for sharing Enjoy your day!
@Dorafa (6)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Hi Careguarden, First and foremost, I'm totally agree with you that having a healthy baby is of paramount important to me. Although my first baby is a boy, gender is really not an issue because I love boy and girl equally. I dislike those family still stick to the tradition where a son is very important to carry a family surname and family business. I think a daughter has the same potential too. I hope people don't bother the gender of first child since they are your flesh and blood!
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, I agree with you, both gender can do the same thing equally when it comes to leading and taking care of family. And it sad that nowadays an old thought of gender bias still existing. It's all depend on how parents brought them. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• China
4 Sep 09
Well, most of us can have only one child today ,as for me ,I would like to have a female baby for the first one. Because I think girl maybe more gentle than boy,cannot be so mischievous ,and I can buy a lot of beautiful clothes to her,and dress up her an lovable one . As well as she is growing up, we can go shopping, sauna, swimming together and so on. These are wonderful things,I think.Hehe.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, most mothers would love to have a baby girl as first child. As you've mentioned there's so many things that you can do both, and you would love to teach her as well. Yeah, you can easily get the girls attention since girl is more sensitive and compassionate than boys. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• United Arab Emirates
4 Sep 09
hi i will go for what god gives me if god give me male or female i will be happy............because the god is one what he do for us that will be good for us and we cant change it thats why be happy what you got
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, God gives you the kind of child because that's what you need, not what you want. There's always a reason for having that kind of gift. It's all up to see and realized the importance of it. What mostly matters is it's healthy. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• China
4 Sep 09
to me, frankly, it wont matter a boy or a girl as my first child. but maybe in some conventional family here, they still long for boys as their first children. but the conception is becoming weaker. but i do hope i can have 2 children, one girl and one boy, the best, then they will not be lonely in life, i think.hehe...
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, having a girl and a boy is enough, and would be glad if would happened in the near future. I would not disagree with you. I hope the misconception of gender ability would soon buried. Since we're now living in a modern world. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
So I will be one of those who will bother you. lolz! Because as an anticipating mother to be... I often wish for a baby girl. I don't know what is it with girls, but they seem to brighten a household more than boys do. No offense to anyone. They seem easy to manage and to dress up. :) they seem more quiet and discipline. And they seem to be more expressive in caring and sweet to the adults... of course there are exemptions.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Wow! I can't help not to agree with you. Because that's what I also think and felt. Even I don't care the gender as long as it's healthy, but if given a choice I prefer a girl.LOL Based on my family, unfortunately all of my brothers didn't leave a good impression to my parents. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@maximax8 (28490)
• United Kingdom
4 Sep 09
Before I had children I wished to have a girl first and then a boy second. If I had one been able to have one child I wished to have a girl. Most of all I dreamed of having a healthy baby and it didn't really matter if it was a girl or a boy. I got pregnant and guessed that I was expecting a boy. I was right and he is now 14 years old. Then 12 years later I got pregnant again and hoped I might have a girl. However I had a gender scan and it said I was expecting a boy. Then at 36 weeks pregnancy I found he had spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He is now 2 years old and he can't walk. My baby girl was born this year so my family is now complete. She is 9 weeks old. I love all my children dearly.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
That's great, what matter is you have kids and you love them and have a happy family. I have cousin who have an autistic child. Before they always want a girl but they'd given a boy, and he's special. Then I realized that it doesn't matter what's the gender of my baby as long as it's normal and healthy. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@advokatku (4037)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 09
at the beginning of marriage, I was expecting my first child is male, but GOD gives daughter ...
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Well your given a daughter, maybe because that's what you need, even though its not what you want. But still it's a gift. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• India
4 Sep 09
I would like to have a girl as my first child. This is because girls are more easy to manage as compared to boys. Boys are 'out of control'. In my country, a some people prefer boys and kill their girlchild before it is born once they discover that it is a girl. However, slowly attitudes are changing as the country becomes more progressive.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Oh, really? that's too bad, glad that it's little by little it changed. Yeah, boys can't be easily controlled. They have this kind of attitude that wouldn't care much others opinion as long as what they feel is right. Their minds kinda impulsive compared to girls. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 09
Boy or girl are the same.They are also human being and 'our kid'. Gender is not an important issue anymore in modern life family. Only the old-thinking people will have a kind of thinking that boy is better than girl. I don't believe in such nonsense. I saw some families have a few sons ,but then after they grow up and have own families,they abandon their parents too. In some situation, a girl(daughter) is even better than a boy(son).At least daughter will get closer to her mom and it will bring the family ties closer too. The most important is giving birth to a healthy baby and give them the best throughout their growth.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Very well said, I absolutely agree with you. My mom do prefer to have girls than boys. Since most of the girls do care a lot for their family especially to their parents, compared to boys. And when boys get married they tend to forgot their parents. And yeah, gender shouldn't be an issue since, nowadays there's an increasing rate of having an autistic child. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@kmkmurli (12)
• India
3 Sep 09
well its a good discussion it doesn't matter to me either it is a baby boy or baby girl as my first child, the thing that really matters to me is the baby whatever may be the gender should be healthy. But there are some families who want a baby boy as their first baby.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, most couple tend to overlook the importance of having healthy baby instead of their gender. But still we can't blame them, because they have different view regarding gender. Thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
@bingchen (1126)
• China
3 Sep 09
i hope that my first child is girl,i like her,i hope that she like me,looks beautiful and clever and intellengce,i can spend my time to decorate her,let her become more beautiful,loving.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Well I also prefer to have a daughter as eldest. With the same reason as yours.LOL Thanks for sharing!
@maryann82 (133)
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
well it doesn't really matter to me or to my husband what our child's gender would be 'cause all we know is that they're God's gift and blessing to us which we should accept wholely and love dearly. Our first child is a baby girl she's such an angel and so so sweet. Typically new mom's like girls for fistborn because they wanna have like a living doll which they can dress up and fix hairs while dad's aim for boys to be their playmates and such but that really shouldn't matter as long as it's your child why choose it's not like when you try making one you go chanting the gender right????
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yeah, they're God's gift and supposed not to asked for more.LOL You're right, maybe when I could have my own I would also felt the same thing. I have an older sister who's pregnant right now, and they often have little argument with her hubby regarding having a boy or girl as best for eldest position. I guess they were just excited.LOL Anyways thanks for sharing with us Have a great day!
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
If i were to choose on my first baby's gender, i would go for the male gender. Because it's much more masculine. The responsibilities are better carried by the male type so it will be better if you have a male baby as the eldest child. But this is just my idea on babies it does not necessarily mean that this is true. Your idea will be the best idea for your discussion. the best thing that could happen to a family is having a healthy baby despite of the gender.
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Well, you've got your idea. My brother-in-law also likes to have a son as for their first child, for the same reason as yours. He thought that having an eldest son, is an assets to family, because it could also be semi foundation to the family especially when he's not around. Thanks for always sharing with us Enjoy your day!
• Philippines
7 Jan 12
Hi careguarden! If I would have the opportunity to choose, I would like to have a baby boy. I would prefer my eldest to be a boy so that he would be the one to protect his younger siblings. Well of course, what is important is, boy or girl, the baby is healthy.