Think Happy Thoughts!

@sredith (239)
United States
September 3, 2009 7:06am CST
Lately I've found that I've been having a lot of anxiety attacks, which are either brought on by stress, or a negative atmosphere, or too much caffeine...but most likely a combination of all three. This morning I decided that I am not going to throw myself into a panic so often, because it really feels terrible and I can't go through that every day. So I know that I should just maintain a calm and positive attitude, but if you've ever tried making that kind of switch you'll know how difficult it can be. Does anyone have any tips on how to maintain a positive attitude, even in a high stress or negative atmosphere? Thanks!
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13 responses
• United States
4 Sep 09
I too have been stressed and beginning to think negatively though I think a lot of mine is due to the fact that I cannot find a job in this horrible recession and I am watching my bills pile up and my children's happiness suffer from our government's mistakes. I have begun bike riding and walking to get things off my mind. A lot of times the exercise also helps me to come up with ideas to help reduce the stress.
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Absolutely, exercise definitely works for me as well, the only problem that I have is, well I can sit here and work more to try to combat the source of my stress (money) with the other source of my stress (work) or I can get up and exercise, but then come back to stressing because I could have been at my computer working (stressing.) Another thing that I find helps is LISTS, and I think I'm going to have to go out and get a new notepad for this. I work online from home, so if I write out my schedule in the morning and follow that schedule, it helps me out a lot. I think that a part of writing something down and crossing it out makes it actually feel like I've done it, and if it's not on paper it doesn't exist. Ah, being crazy is wonderful! Have you checked out any of the WAHM websites and forums that are available? I would be more than willing to help you find resources to help you try to combat your financial problems, because I do work from home myself (also due to anxiety... I have a really hard time being out in the workplace...). Just let me know!!
• United States
5 Sep 09
Sredith, a few good Work at Home resources would be great. I have tried going out putting in applications and resumes and there seems to be nothing available. With two kids its very hard just to make the bills. Places like Mylot are what I am relying on right now and they don't pay much at all. I am trying to find something, anything that I can do online from home would be great because I can not afford daycare and getting government assistance is like pulling teeth... It takes months to actually get it and when you finally do it is too late. The Unemployment office keeps putting me off and they are only wanting to pay me 127 a week which won't even cover my rent. Luckily I do have food stamps so we don't starve, but that don't pay the bills or cover toothpaste, toilet paper, or gas in the car to look for a job. Any help at all would be GREATLY APPRECIATED. Thank you so much. Its people like you that still give my family hope in these horrible times. Bless you.
@tintukm (1084)
• India
3 Sep 09
Positive thoughts come with negative thoughts,whom to blame.When a person has no hick ups or any sorts of troubles regarding his daily activities ,then the very next moment,he/she is targeted with bad and sad kinds of thoughts. People have even started therapies to be with the happy thoughts and make themselves always feel younger and better.Positiveness can always be with us with a smile for of all on our face.The bad feeling for other needs to be thrown off,just simply say a sorry of any one has made you feel dis comfortable. The real attitude is always hidden somewhere in us and we don't actually enhance it for our nourishment.
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Unfortunately it's not always so easy to dismiss those that are making you feel negative, but I think that from now on I will try to explain to people how their attitudes are affecting my well-being, or at least try to just block things that make me feel bad out until they pass.
@tintukm (1084)
• India
4 Sep 09
Its actually a lot of understanding between anyone before he/she could get to know what one means by their comments.
@VANILLAREY (1473)
• India
4 Sep 09
The main solution is to not worry or be afraid of the problem. I prefer to listen to good and happy songs. Lately I have been singing. And it seems to help. Sometimes moving away from all the stress can help. A nature walk can help. If you have some good friends spend some time with them.
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Yes! I completely forgot a bout singing, it really does help. I also do like to walk when I get stressed out, but generally not nature walks... I've just found that exercising makes me feel a little bit better. I guess being on medication for so long made me forget about all of this!
@shimanaja (495)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 09
Hi there mylotters, Yes think a happy thoughts. you have already knew that way. so you keep strong to focus on that happy think. Just relax to face your problems. Think that not only you had a problem in this world..:) I'm sure you can do it. Good Luck
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Thank you! It's easy to forget that the world doesn't revolve around us when we're in times of trouble isn't it? It's hard to see that everyone has their own problems when the only problems that are real and in our face are our own.
@hmkoct5 (2067)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I have panic attacks quite often too. I even went to the doctor and got Xanax, but I don't like to take it. The way I deal with the negative thoughts is I stop them in their tracks. Whenever I start to think negatively, I make myself stop. I tell myself I'm walking through the wrong door and I have to turn around. It usually works for me. I just keep repeating -wrong door - wrong door. It helps! I hope your hard times end soon.
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I'm just getting off of Paxil which is probably a lot of the reason that it's been so bad lately, I'm just really tired of having to be dependent on medication!
@pushkin69 (546)
3 Sep 09
hey there. I sympathise with you and understand how stressful anxiety attacks can be both physically and emotionally. I used to get them a lot and remember how terrifying they can actually be. It is great that you want to try and work on being more positive and calm. Have you tried meditation? It takes a while to switch off from all the crap running around in your head but if you stick with it can really help. It will take time so dont be put off if it doesnt work straight away. I would not suggest meds as they just numb you and are difficult to come ff as you can become addicted. Try to focus on all the good things you have and love when you start to feel stressed and anxious. Focus on your breathing and block out all those negative thoughts. I wish you lots of luck!
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Yes! Thank you for bringing this up because I had completely forgotten how much daily meditation had helped me in the past!
• United States
3 Sep 09
Of course we need to look to God for all our strength. There is a movie called "The Secret". It is about positive thinking. My hubby and I watched the movie about 2 months ago. We have been going through some challenging times with everyday life, our jobs, etc. Thank goodness we have each other and we have the love of God in our lives. Anyway with this movie it shows how positive thinking attracts positive results and how always thinking negative will attract negative results. We challenged ourselves to always look at the positive in each situation (yes, there is always a positive result in every situation). He was much better at it than I was. As you mentioned it is very difficult to change the way you think. I could not believe the change I saw in him. The calmness, the serenity. It was awesome. Unfortunately it did not last long because it is difficult. I guess you could say we are back into our daily grind again. Although we place our faith in God we still struggle daily to keep a positive attitude. Thanks for posting your discussion. It just reminds me of how I need to focus on all positives.
@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Early this Spring I decided to start studying Buddhism and The Secret and to start meditating and maintaining a positive attitude and it worked very well for the time that I was able to do it, but none of us can stop life from happening and it's not always easy to find that positive side when everything seems to be going wrong, so I couldn't keep up with it. I think that maybe if I start small and try to make a few changes in the way that I think at a time, I may be able to persevere this time around!
• China
3 Sep 09
This is not surprising. Everyone had a species of feeling. Because people would think. Every day a lot of things to do. No matter who takes the pressure. Or the work or the community... Or do not know the reason pressure. If you have this feeling Do not panic. Take a deep breath yourself. Consider in what way to relieve stress. Do you like most to do, eat your favorite food to eat, do you usually want to do not dare to do. Ease yourself down..Everything will be better.
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@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Thank you so much for your input! It really is important to take time aside for yourself to do the things that you like to do in order to manage stress!
• United States
4 Sep 09
I don't think it is always possible to just 'be happy' - for example if you have depression people telling you to 'snap out of it' is the most frustrating thing in the world'. But I do think you can choose your outlook for the day, and choose your reaction and thoughts about various things to a great extent. And if you are feeling bad you can tell yourself that it will pass. Don;t avoid the feelings, just feel them. Because in most cases they do pass and I think you get through it quicker if you go 'yes, I'm sad but thats ok' for a few minutes, process it and move on, rather than running around going 'I';m happy, I'm happy'if you know you're not!
@misisbau (317)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
I'm struggling with the same demons, sweetie. I could play lip service and tell you, listen to happy music, look at happy photographs, happy videos, watch funny movies and shows. Ultimately, you have to find your inner strength to overcome the blues.
@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I think there are some things that work but you're right, we do have to find that strength in ourselves in order to actually MAKE these things work!
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
pray and pray and pray. always look on the brighter side of life. don't let stress ruin your life. fight stress. and i suggest that you go with your friends when u feel stressed. ok, have a nice day! ;)
@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Thank you for your input! I am really feeling happy about all of the positive advice that I'm getting from people. I'm starting to feel better already!
• Philippines
3 Sep 09
Wow, how i wish i can do that as well. but sometimes, problems aren't easy to just deal with. I know something from this discussion, always smile and be positive, even when things gone horribly wrong. well, for me my advice would be, have faith and be strong
@sredith (239)
• United States
4 Sep 09
My former counselor told me that if you smile, even when things aren't going so good, it sends a message to your brain that you are supposed to be happy, and your brain responds with more feelings of happiness!
@prinzcy (5058)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Whenever I am stressed out and think there's no way out, I'll take a deep breath, chanting everything will be alright. Praying makes me calm too. If it's a problem that you can't solve on your own, you can talk to someone you can trust like your parents, your friends, etc and you will feel better by sharing. Not to mention, they might be able to help you out. Asking for help is a brave move, don't be afraid to try.