When did you find out the gender?

@maximax8 (27344)
United Kingdom
September 4, 2009 2:51am CST
When you were pregnant did you find out the gender of your baby then? Did you wait until your baby was born to find out the gender? Is it popular to have gender scans in pregnancy in your home country? I wasn't able to find out when I was expecting my first baby. I had a gender scan at a private clinic when I was expecting my second baby. I had so many scans when I was expecting my third child I didn't need to visit the private clinic again. I went to the fetal medicine unit to find out if my baby was healthy. Luckily she was and now she is a 10 week old baby. So I have a 14 year old boy, a 2 year old girl and a 10 week old daughter.
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@sacmom (14317)
• United States
4 Sep 09
Hi maximax. I found out the genders of my kids while I was still pregnant with them. I couldn't wait until they were born! LOL I wanted to be prepared for my babies arrival. With my eldest I found out that I was having a boy when I was 21 weeks along. With my youngest I didn't find out until I was 33 weeks along. I was a little hesitant to find out the second time around as some of my family was saying it was going to be a girl, which I found rather annoying because they didn't even know. Personally, I didn't care what the gender was, so long as the baby was healthy. I got them back good though...I told them I was having a boy before I even found out. Who knew that I'd be right! LOL Happy mylotting!
@maximax8 (27344)
• United Kingdom
6 Sep 09
Hi Sac mom. Yes, it can be so challenging to wait until a baby is born to find out his or her gender. I am delighted that you knew your second was a boy. I think when finding out it is lovely to buy blue clothes. I bought a blue moses basket and have used it for my toddler son and at the moment my baby daughter. I hope that you are having a happy time on My Lot.
• China
4 Sep 09
when i was pregnant ,i know nothing about the gender of my baby,but my mother was sure that i would have a boy based the characters of mine,and it is correct.those who have babies always have some experience for making a judge.
@maximax8 (27344)
• United Kingdom
6 Sep 09
That is lovely. Some moms know what gender they are expecting so that sounds special.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
15 Mar 10
Scanning to find the gender is banned in India (though there are doctors who do it on the sly) due to the female infanticide. Socially, people consider girls to be a burden and they might kill the foetus before it is born. The male-female ratio in many states are skewed due to this. And so the government has banned finding out the gender of the child before birth. We even have to sign a declaration during our scan that we have not been told and we have not asked to find out the gender. It is illegal to do either. I know some doctors who do hint or tell...and also some who take money to tell the parent. But personally, I never found out till both my sons were born.
@arkaf61 (10884)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
Maximax with both my kids I preferred not to know the gender of my child until he/she was born. I did have ultrasounds and scans mostly to know if the baby was healthy and if everything seemed ok, but I never wanted to know the gender. I was asked both times if I wanted to know and I answered no, both times. I guess there were times where I was curious to know, but I loved the surprise when my babies were born. And even if I had more kids I still wouldn't want to know. I agree that scans are a great thing to make sure everything is fine and the baby is fine. Those things are important. But knowing the gender of the child is not really important, at least for me.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I have 4 children and found out the gender of each one of them via ultrasound. We generally had the scan done in my doctor's office at around 20 weeks. This is when they measure the baby and do organ checks and make sure the baby is healthy. Each time my Dr asked if we wanted to know the gender and since I am no good at waiting, I opted to find out early.
@gelibean (159)
• United States
5 Sep 09
I found out when I was 20 weeks pregnant (about 5 months) that I was having a boy. The doctor just did an ultrasound to check the growth of the baby and asked if I wanted to know the gender of my baby and I said yes. Four months later my beautiful baby boy was born. HE's my only child.
@youless (90446)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Sep 09
Here it is prohibited to check the gender of the baby because the doctors are afraid that some people just prefer to have boys. I don't care about the gender of my baby when I was pregnant. I just care whether my baby was healthy and that's all. I want to have a surprise when I labored my baby. So at that time I bought some female and male toys because I don't know whether I would have a boy or a girl. To me, it's the same because I like both boy and girl. It doesn't matter to me. I love China
• United States
5 Sep 09
Congratulations on the new baby! For both my children I KNEW whether they'd be a boy or girl, I don't know how, I just always KNEW what they were! I knew what they were before they were even identifiable on the sonogram pictures. So since I already knew, I did not ask the tech to let us be "surprised", I simply allowed them to confirm what i knew to be true in my heart, that the first one would be a girl and the second one would be a boy. I also have a knack for knowing what other people's babies will be , I don't know how, but I've never been wrong. Even my for brother's wife when she was pregnant with their last baby, I KNEW it would be a boy, even though the ultrasound told them it would be a girl. I was right.
@twooten (64)
• United States
5 Sep 09
yeah of course. especially with the first your so exciting and overwhelmed with emotions you want to know. with the second you want to know not really as excited because youve been thru it once already. but you may still have anxiety alittle cause each pregnancy is different. But with both of mine i wanted to know. However, once i realized i was pregnant i began praying right away God please allow me to have a boy. I am a living testament that prayer works I got just what i asked for both times and am very happy.
@much2say (38744)
• United States
4 Sep 09
When I was pregnant with our first child, our doctor was 80% sure it was a girl - the couple times that I had a routine ultrasound. This ultrasound was to make sure the baby was healthy - it wasn't just to find out what gender it was. We wanted to know if it was a boy or a girl simply because we wanted to be prepared all we could before the baby was born. We sweated that 10% because we had only picked out girls names, so we were relieved that the baby was indeed a girl when she was born - hee hee!! Second time around, I had an amniocenthesis done . . . it was not required but recommended for pregnant ladies my age. The ultrasound done just before the amnio showed that it was a boy . . . then two weeks later, the amnio results came back saying the baby was healthy AND that it was indeed a boy. I had another ultrasound since then, and the doctor even said it IS a boy. Again, we wanted to know to prepare . . . and this time we know it is 99.9% a boy. The important thing was that we knew the baby was healthy.
@dbabcook (390)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I was torn when I found out I was pregnant. On one hand I really wanted to know what I was having so that I could plan appropriately but then on the other hand I kept tellng myself that it didn't really matter as long as he or she was healthy. During one ultrasound the technician stated that she was about 90% positive that it was a girl. I had mixed feelings after she said that because I didnt know yet if I wanted to know or not. Well, it's been 10-1/2 years and I am happy to say that I have a very beautiful, loving daughter that I couldn't be more proud of.
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
4 Sep 09
Hello maximax. When my wife was pregnant, we did not find out the gender of our baby, but experienced women could tell about its gender and they were right. In China, it is illegal to scan gender because so many people want to have boys because of the one-child policy, especially in the country. Because they need workforce on the farm. Also their surname is continued if they have boys. It is a complicated explanation though.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
4 Sep 09
Hello max, both my children were surprises, but to be honest gender scans were not so common in those days.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
4 Sep 09
Scanning to find out the gender of the baby is prohibited in our country,India.Since most of the people prefer boy child,they try to abort if they found the child in the womb is a girl.So,the government has prohibited it.Not for that,but I don't want to know the gender of the child when my wife was pregnant.We liked that suspense.Cheers!
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
I was very excited to find out the gender of my baby when i was pregnant... so the minute i was like 16 weeks expecting... i requested for an ultrasound... that was like the second time... i was so happy to find out i was having a baby girl... and kept that to myself for a few days...