Hit and Run Discussions

@zandi458 (27952)
Malaysia
September 4, 2009 7:02am CST
I am fond of venturing to the many places in mylot besides responding to my friends discussions. Though the set of friends I have are in no short supply of discussions to response to but sometimes I can't relate well to the subject of their discussions. Today I went hunting for discussions that might interest me and found a topic to response to in the hope that I do a favor to the poster by responding to her discussion. Yes, I made an impressive lengthy response to her discussions. When I logged in after 2 hours, I was sad to find an unwelcoming comments from the poster briefly saying "I know your meanings.thank you." Would you ever return to response to people who don't seems to appreciate efforts put in your response. Are they not good conversationalist who can engage in a decent conversation so the respondent can add something more to spice up the topic? The hope of going further in the discussions just come to a naught. I don't see any reasons why they are able to post many discussions but fail to give their valuable comments. They can hit a good number of discussions but run away from giving their appreciation to their respondents. Slowly but surely their activities here will come to a sudden death if they don't buck up.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I hardly ever make discussions anymore. I could not keep up with all of the replies most of the time. I tried my best to though. I did rate everyone and choose a best response too. I think if someone starts one, they should reply back to members if they need replied to though. Some responses do not require a response back from the discussion poster though.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
Hi stephcjh, I think we should reply to all our respondents as it give them the feelings of appreciation.
@savak03 (6681)
• United States
7 Sep 09
The art of conversation is one of the things that is on the decline in our society. It has gone the way of letter writing and friendship, manners and respect, marriage and family. Unfortunately we have had this discussion before. I think you and I are the only ones listening.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I hope the others will listen too so we share all the joy of good interaction.
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@thea09 (18327)
• Greece
4 Sep 09
Hi Zandi, I can't stand it when people do that, it's just so rude and shows they only post to get responses without caring what people have to say. Before I add a friend I always check to see if they respond to their own discussions and won't add unless they do, but like you I venture out but with a response such as the one you received I surely wouldn't venture along to any more discussions by tha't person. It's even worse when you have given a longer response. Perhaps someone else will come along and see it and respond in the manner you expected from the poster, it does happen sometimes.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
5 Sep 09
I wouldn't mind if the poster put a bit of weight to her words. That would make sense.
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Feb 10
this is another thing that i have learned after a year of becoming a member. i wanted my responders to come back to the discussion after giving my comments. if they come back, then that means he is a good conversationalist. if not, then thank you for responding. but i would rather not comment if i will just say a simple thank you as a comment. it could be the first and last response that i would give him. but what i hate so much, is a member who loves to post a lot of discussions, but you will not see him in any of your discussions, as a sort of appreciation in supporting his discussions.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
They are many here who doesn't reciprocate to others. The keep posting and expect others to respond. If I have responded to many of their discussions and never see them in my posts then I will not respond to them again in future.
@neildc (17253)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
25 Feb 10
some of them are in my friends list. would you suggest to keep them or clear them if they don't know how to reciprocate?
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
We only share few friends and the rest of your friends are not in my list so do not know much about them. But those you have chosen who are also in my list are my regulars and they are the very best friends I have here. They are great supporters.
• India
14 Sep 09
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I feel as and when someone keeps his/her expectations from others very high, such dis-appointment comes. I do not expect much from others, so I try and remain calm and normal. It is one who takes lot of interest in others, but other's habit may not allow to do . It is like snakes whirling around sandlewood to get some coolness, but snake is never in postion to give its poison. So this world wants verything. On eshould never forget that. May God bless You and have a great time.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
you have given a good example here to illustrate your meaning. I understand what you mean.
• India
2 May 10
Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, So nice of you for understanding me well. Please folow, you will never feel dis-appointed from anyone around you. But there are certrain natural things, which ought to come automaticall as a human-beings. mothers always expects something in return from their children right after they concieve them and everytime they get chance , they always remind them. Take care. May God bless You and have a great time.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
5 Sep 09
zandi458, Perception is a funny thing with people and I think you are coming to terms with it. Your intentions may be genuine, well intended or most of the time logical, however, due to one's own perception, it could be interpreted otherwise. Have you ever tried to whisper a news around a room? You will be surprised with the version after going through a few hands. Also, sometimes we have people who seems to have woke up on the wrong side of the bed and who else but the unfortunate you to bear the brunt of it. Maybe we are not eloquent enough, maybe this, maybe that....but whatever it is just don't let it bother you to the extent of arguing back. State your case and then move on. If the skulls are numb there, nothing ever is going to penetrate and work for them. As for responding to the member's post, I think this is really individual. If it is me and the topic is my interest then, I would and treat the past as history. I suppose this is called: "Moving on?" Anyway, be happy always and take care.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I like your liberal thinking. In actual fact there should always be a give and take situation but sometimes people can be so confusing that makes us think whether it is worth responding to their future discussions.
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• Singapore
8 Sep 09
zandi458, I suppose we have to live out what we preach about moving on and forgiving people. It is merely a discussion where everyone of us is entitled to air our views or opinions. So, we should always be ready to give and take with our friends in real life and online as well. Take care and have a nice day.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
4 Sep 09
I try to answer all my notifications of a discussion that i get.The only time i din't is when i know absolutely nothing about what they are talking about. i appreciate every response i get to the discussions i start. Sometimes I wonder why the people don't respond to mine that i respond to all the time. guess they are not interested but i think there should be some common courtesy here between friends.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I understand your good intentions but not all of our topics fit well to our friends. They might not be able to relate well to our topics and instead of being confused by their own thoughts and putting some nonsensical views, they prefer not to response. To me I am quite flexible when it comes to friends support. I do understand their predicament as I am also in that situation many times.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
7 Sep 09
Whatever floats their boat, i guess.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
4 Sep 09
maybe what you wrote was way beyound htioer understanding I get many who just tanks be for responce and thats it.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Thanking everyone is another thing but what she said is she already knew all what I wrote which make me feel that my response was not worth it as she knew everything. As a normal thinking mind, she should have phrased her words in a more welcoming tone.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
8 Sep 09
awww I see now what ya mean!
@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
4 Sep 09
Hi zandi, I thought we only heard the "hit and run" title on our newspapers especially when its come to our mat rempit maniacs. I receive a lot of that kind of comment from some members here. I am okey with that as long as I earn from there. That is their loss. And I still respond to their discussion especially at the end of the month. But it is actually a bit annoying to receive such comment when we try to have conversation with the discussion starter. We can't do anything though if they prefer that way. They forget the earnings part of this site. They thought they can earn from that kind of comment and they will regret it later. That is why sometimes we did not response to certain members discussion. We prefer to response to our friends discussion because we know we can have a real discussion and have a lot of fun there. And we earn too. Don't think to much about it. Just do what you usually do here. Have fun and earn funds. Aramaiti ...
@akuler (3539)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Of course we want to involve in everyone discussion. But their attitude to their own discussion sometimes distract us from coming again and again. I don't really know what exactly they are looking for here. They will surely not earn anything from that type of comment and fun would be much far away that way. Some people here just lost at their real intention here. Too bad because there are a lot of them.
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@ahgong (10066)
• Singapore
9 Nov 09
Hmm... there are times when I do come across a long response to my discussions and I find it meaningful, but could not find the words to post back to that response. Kinda like when you are in a conversation, and the person who is talking to you said something that you understand, but you have no response to cos whatever he/she said has more or less covered everything that you wanted to say, what do you do? You simply nod you head to acknowledge that response, rite? Same goes for discussions in mylot. There will be times when you read a response to your discussion, and find that the response has covered pretty much everything you wanted to say about the topic, and the response was a close ended one, all you can do is to "Nod" in reply. So a simple one liner to acknowledge your efforts is all I could do at that time. Don't you ever come across any responses to your discussions like that as well?
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
25 Feb 10
I come across several replies that I can only stare and much as I wish to comment but can't find anything good to say but only go along with his replies so he knows that I have been reading his replies.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
5 Sep 09
I have received such comments many times. I admit that a lot are from MyLotters who don’t speak English very well but there is the odd one who cannot use that excuse. The way I see it; it is not about the length of the comment but the quality. I have received one line comments that made perfect sense and were very apt for the discussion but of course they communicated more than just” thanks for the response”!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I don't really care whether they are short but what I emphasized here is the way she turn me off saying 'I know all that already. Thank you'. It is short of telling me my response is not worthy.
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@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
5 Sep 09
Hi zandi! I guess that is what happens sometimes! Some posters just don't really care! Like you so aptly put it in your title, they just post for the sake of posting and don't really want to be bothered with the discussion after that! I guess that is why sometimes when I too venture out to try a new discussion starter it is usually a "one time only"! I have on occasion stumbled upon a new friend, but more often then not I end up just staying with the friends that I know will have the more knowlegeable discussions and who care what the responders are saying! There are still way too many of those here that just don't care and it is really sad!
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
It looks like there are many children running around here. They just post and run away or if they feel like commenting they come in just with a thank you note and off they go again. How sad.
@marctiu (830)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Hello. I am really fund of posting a response here in my lot and I receive many comments like yours. They only say thank you. I too was wondering if they don't like my answer or they found a better answer for their queries. Well it's up to them if they want a lengthy discussion or they just want to end it there.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I think people who write a thank you note do not want to go on with the discussion. A thank you is final. So the discussion is no longer a discussion but a question and answer sort of thing.
@suzzy3 (8357)
4 Sep 09
Some people only have one way of doing things and thinking and that is theirs.They never consider someone else might like to have a proper conversation,or find out why and what made them think that way.It can only mean one thing they are not sure of how they really feel.I have a running discussion before and it was extremely interesting and in the end after explanation,and his reasons he agreed with me and I with him,very satisfying and we both enjoyed our exchanges sadly the topic wore it self out but I got something out of it.You always get one zandi do don't worry there are always plenty of us waiting for a healthy exchange of views and remain good friends afterwards as well.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I agree with you on that not many people are into active interaction here. That is obvious in how they comment to our responses. This person that I responded to make it known right right away that she is not in for a friendly interaction by saying 'I know that already thank you' full stop. That is a real slap on my face and should I know that she knew all I would not have wasted my time responding. This is of course an isolated case. I still have you and many other good friends around for a round table discussions in future.
@JAYMAR777 (840)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Zandi is this a new picture? I started a discussion before about, "is the motivation of money degrade the quality of the post?" (it is not the exact statement but more or less like that). I guess the motivation is in the earning not in the discussion. It is like quantity over quality. I think a lot of people think that if they make a lot of response or discussions, it automatically will earn them a lot. I use to think that way until someone here told me it's not. I think one of the setbacks here in the net, is that people just tend to browse on the screen just looking for keywords. The art of reading word for word is a rare thing in the internet. It is like people eating in the fast food, instead of just enjoying the taste of the meal, it is just eating for the purpose of filling a hungry stomach because of time.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Yes Jaymar, don't you like my new avatar? In this rat race world time is the main essence of getting ahead of others. Everyone seems to be rushing to catch the fast ticking clock and that we can't blame them as the winner is the fastest. Mylot never promises a hefty income here. It is just like a daily tabloid where you get lots of the current issues in life. Sharing and learning is one of the top agenda here. I have been here for quite a while and have came out a polished woman, more confident to speak my mind out be it online or in the real world. I surprise myself sometimes why I suddenly become knowledgeable on so many issues when I am with my customers for a social drink. Don't get me wrong, I own a pub owner. Certain times I chat with my customers to make them feel at home in my presence. Chatting and drinking does create a lot of sales and customers don't realize that they have burned a big hole in their pockets.
• India
4 Sep 09
i have also seen many discussions which are out of topics this guys are just starting discussions only to make some money and not to help other users and mylotters also there are some repeated and useless discussions which are started in mylot and which only eats up the webspace of mylot and reduce their server speeds ,
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Honestly speaking mylot is not a good place for milking money online. I have been here for over three years and was not the reason why I am here. There are better places in the net that one can crave good earnings. I truly enjoy the interaction with people from all walks of life which I can't possibly meet in my real life.
@DCLehnsherr (1042)
4 Sep 09
Hi Zandi, I actually hated those comment so much when I first got them, that before starting to comment on things myself I actually asked how it was meant to be done, as I needed to know all commented weren't meant to be like that! As it stands I stopped creating lots of discussions once I got the responses to the questions I asked about comments, because I did not want to be one of those people. I still have discussions from the past that I have to attend to and resolve, so I try and keep the number I create really low (one a day it seems at the moment) so I can get round to them (if I stop being so distracted by new discussions!) Personally I am starting t get a touch annoyed when I go to a board and see that a member has started lost of discussions, and seems to care about none of them. Usually I just respond because they are interesting, or bring me closer to being able to cut and paste. I definitely don't add feelings to them, I just don't see the point. I hope you don't run into that situation too much in the future Dranz
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
Hi Dranz, I myself is not so active in posting discussions as I can't service my discussions if I have too many. The most I have is about 4 or less discussions in a week. Trying to chase for quantity is in a way creating problems as we can't attend to the respondents fast enough which are am sure are anxiously waiting for comments. We need to attend to each and every response we get so it will prolong our shelf life in mylot. Respondents will surely come back for more of our posts if we give our attention to their responses.
@Sandra1952 (6052)
• Spain
4 Sep 09
I love your term 'hit and run discussions,' and I lose patience with people who do this. I think they harbour the mistaken belief that they need to post lots of discussions to earn, whereas if they posted fewer discussions but actively managed them, not only would they earn more but they'd also enjoy their time on MyLot much more. I like to branch out from my friends list too, to encourage new members and expand my own horizons, but lately the excursions into the unknown have been most frustrating. As you say, hit and run discussions do nobody any favours - particularly the posters.
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 09
this title has deep seated meaning. Some people just post many discussions per day but would not return to comment on their discussions. I am wondering whether those who write a thank you note to all respondents did actually read the contents of the responses as it seems that they did not bother to read what is written in the response. They just go thanking everyone. So why waste so much of time for a lengthy response when they are rushing to thank everyone.
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@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
4 Sep 09
If I received a comment like that then I would go back with another comment. I always go back and comment anyway to the comment that I recieve on a response. In this case I would say something like "Had I known that you knew I would have written less. Happy Lotting" Most of the users I come across do say much more than that and recently I have not seen comments similar to that one. As Mike pointed out, it could be a langauge problem too. The fact remains that, as we earn for our own work, that user will not be making much. His/her problem - or ours?
@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
4 Sep 09
Mornin'!
@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
4 Sep 09
Maybe
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I have to go with your answer. Your response to that kind of comments would give her an electric shock and should then realize that I am not please with what I get from her comments. But good enough she acknowledged my response. Mike is probably right she could not elaborate more as she have limited command of English. She is from China.
@voldrox (7204)
• India
4 Sep 09
Hey zandi i am with you, it would certainly be nice of them if they appreciated the work we did in putting all those words together, i have come across people who seem to have nice discussion topics and i write a long response and it so happens that they give a one line response to it... i don't know why they can't add two more lines to it commenting something about our response whether it be positive or negative but do respond . . . i just want to know what do they think about our response, i don't exactly want them to appreciate whatever i have written but want to be sure that they have at least gone through all of my response. . . . i don't know why this happens with people who have been here for quite a while .... yes i am talking about elder lotters here, some of them do the same i don't understand, i mean at least i don't expect them to do that... i am newbie and like enjoying getting into discussions that interest me..... well if only people could give a 3 liner response instead of 1 liner, i would be glad...... they are either too lazy to comment back on their responses or are trying to do things the fast way, must be busy with something else i guess... well it is alright if it is their choice but they should know that they are the one in loss here..... anyways have a nice weekend zandi!
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
7 Sep 09
I understand your frustrations when you feel that your response doesn't seems to get a solid comment after giving a thoughtful views. Unfortunately, we can't dictate others to write a good to read comments as it is their prerogative to do so as they wish. The seniors should set a good example to the newcomers by giving a well thought out comments. Sometimes some response doesn't have much weight and this only requires a rating or adding a code to it as acknowledgment.