Hit and Run Discussions

I hardly ever make discussions anymore. I could not keep up with all of the replies most of the time. I tried my best to though. I did rate everyone and choose a best response too. I think if someone starts one, they should reply back to members if they need replied to though. Some responses do not require a response back from the discussion poster though.

The art of conversation is one of the things that is on the decline in our society. It has gone the way of letter writing and friendship, manners and respect, marriage and family. Unfortunately we have had this discussion before. I think you and I are the only ones listening.

zandi458, Perception is a funny thing with people and I think you are coming to terms with it. Your intentions may be genuine, well intended or most of the time logical, however, due to one's own perception, it could be interpreted otherwise. Have you ever tried to whisper a news around a room? You will be surprised with the version after going through a few hands. Also, sometimes we have people who seems to have woke up on the wrong side of the bed and who else but the unfortunate you to bear the brunt of it. Maybe we are not eloquent enough, maybe this, maybe that....but whatever it is just don't let it bother you to the extent of arguing back. State your case and then move on. If the skulls are numb there, nothing ever is going to penetrate and work for them. As for responding to the member's post, I think this is really individual. If it is me and the topic is my interest then, I would and treat the past as history. I suppose this is called: "Moving on?" Anyway, be happy always and take care.

this is another thing that i have learned after a year of becoming a member. i wanted my responders to come back to the discussion after giving my comments. if they come back, then that means he is a good conversationalist. if not, then thank you for responding. but i would rather not comment if i will just say a simple thank you as a comment. it could be the first and last response that i would give him. but what i hate so much, is a member who loves to post a lot of discussions, but you will not see him in any of your discussions, as a sort of appreciation in supporting his discussions.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, I feel as and when someone keeps his/her expectations from others very high, such dis-appointment comes. I do not expect much from others, so I try and remain calm and normal. It is one who takes lot of interest in others, but other's habit may not allow to do . It is like snakes whirling around sandlewood to get some coolness, but snake is never in postion to give its poison. So this world wants verything. On eshould never forget that. May God bless You and have a great time.

Hi Zandi, I can't stand it when people do that, it's just so rude and shows they only post to get responses without caring what people have to say. Before I add a friend I always check to see if they respond to their own discussions and won't add unless they do, but like you I venture out but with a response such as the one you received I surely wouldn't venture along to any more discussions by tha't person. It's even worse when you have given a longer response. Perhaps someone else will come along and see it and respond in the manner you expected from the poster, it does happen sometimes.

maybe what you wrote was way beyound htioer understanding I get many who just tanks be for responce and thats it.

Hmm... there are times when I do come across a long response to my discussions and I find it meaningful, but could not find the words to post back to that response. Kinda like when you are in a conversation, and the person who is talking to you said something that you understand, but you have no response to cos whatever he/she said has more or less covered everything that you wanted to say, what do you do? You simply nod you head to acknowledge that response, rite? Same goes for discussions in mylot. There will be times when you read a response to your discussion, and find that the response has covered pretty much everything you wanted to say about the topic, and the response was a close ended one, all you can do is to "Nod" in reply. So a simple one liner to acknowledge your efforts is all I could do at that time. Don't you ever come across any responses to your discussions like that as well?

I try to answer all my notifications of a discussion that i get.The only time i din't is when i know absolutely nothing about what they are talking about. i appreciate every response i get to the discussions i start. Sometimes I wonder why the people don't respond to mine that i respond to all the time. guess they are not interested but i think there should be some common courtesy here between friends.

Hi zandi! I guess that is what happens sometimes! Some posters just don't really care! Like you so aptly put it in your title, they just post for the sake of posting and don't really want to be bothered with the discussion after that! I guess that is why sometimes when I too venture out to try a new discussion starter it is usually a "one time only"! I have on occasion stumbled upon a new friend, but more often then not I end up just staying with the friends that I know will have the more knowlegeable discussions and who care what the responders are saying! There are still way too many of those here that just don't care and it is really sad!

I have received such comments many times. I admit that a lot are from MyLotters who don’t speak English very well but there is the odd one who cannot use that excuse. The way I see it; it is not about the length of the comment but the quality. I have received one line comments that made perfect sense and were very apt for the discussion but of course they communicated more than just” thanks for the response”!

Some people only have one way of doing things and thinking and that is theirs.They never consider someone else might like to have a proper conversation,or find out why and what made them think that way.It can only mean one thing they are not sure of how they really feel.I have a running discussion before and it was extremely interesting and in the end after explanation,and his reasons he agreed with me and I with him,very satisfying and we both enjoyed our exchanges sadly the topic wore it self out but I got something out of it.You always get one zandi do don't worry there are always plenty of us waiting for a healthy exchange of views and remain good friends afterwards as well.

Hi zandi, I thought we only heard the "hit and run" title on our newspapers especially when its come to our mat rempit maniacs. I receive a lot of that kind of comment from some members here. I am okey with that as long as I earn from there. That is their loss. And I still respond to their discussion especially at the end of the month. But it is actually a bit annoying to receive such comment when we try to have conversation with the discussion starter. We can't do anything though if they prefer that way. They forget the earnings part of this site. They thought they can earn from that kind of comment and they will regret it later. That is why sometimes we did not response to certain members discussion. We prefer to response to our friends discussion because we know we can have a real discussion and have a lot of fun there. And we earn too. Don't think to much about it. Just do what you usually do here. Have fun and earn funds. Aramaiti ...

Hello. I am really fund of posting a response here in my lot and I receive many comments like yours. They only say thank you. I too was wondering if they don't like my answer or they found a better answer for their queries. Well it's up to them if they want a lengthy discussion or they just want to end it there.

If I received a comment like that then I would go back with another comment. I always go back and comment anyway to the comment that I recieve on a response. In this case I would say something like "Had I known that you knew I would have written less. Happy Lotting" Most of the users I come across do say much more than that and recently I have not seen comments similar to that one. As Mike pointed out, it could be a langauge problem too. The fact remains that, as we earn for our own work, that user will not be making much. His/her problem - or ours?

Zandi is this a new picture? I started a discussion before about, "is the motivation of money degrade the quality of the post?" (it is not the exact statement but more or less like that). I guess the motivation is in the earning not in the discussion. It is like quantity over quality. I think a lot of people think that if they make a lot of response or discussions, it automatically will earn them a lot. I use to think that way until someone here told me it's not. I think one of the setbacks here in the net, is that people just tend to browse on the screen just looking for keywords. The art of reading word for word is a rare thing in the internet. It is like people eating in the fast food, instead of just enjoying the taste of the meal, it is just eating for the purpose of filling a hungry stomach because of time.

i have also seen many discussions which are out of topics this guys are just starting discussions only to make some money and not to help other users and mylotters also there are some repeated and useless discussions which are started in mylot and which only eats up the webspace of mylot and reduce their server speeds ,

I love your term 'hit and run discussions,' and I lose patience with people who do this. I think they harbour the mistaken belief that they need to post lots of discussions to earn, whereas if they posted fewer discussions but actively managed them, not only would they earn more but they'd also enjoy their time on MyLot much more. I like to branch out from my friends list too, to encourage new members and expand my own horizons, but lately the excursions into the unknown have been most frustrating. As you say, hit and run discussions do nobody any favours - particularly the posters.

Hey zandi i am with you, it would certainly be nice of them if they appreciated the work we did in putting all those words together, i have come across people who seem to have nice discussion topics and i write a long response and it so happens that they give a one line response to it... i don't know why they can't add two more lines to it commenting something about our response whether it be positive or negative but do respond . . . i just want to know what do they think about our response, i don't exactly want them to appreciate whatever i have written but want to be sure that they have at least gone through all of my response. . . . i don't know why this happens with people who have been here for quite a while .... yes i am talking about elder lotters here, some of them do the same i don't understand, i mean at least i don't expect them to do that... i am newbie and like enjoying getting into discussions that interest me..... well if only people could give a 3 liner response instead of 1 liner, i would be glad...... they are either too lazy to comment back on their responses or are trying to do things the fast way, must be busy with something else i guess... well it is alright if it is their choice but they should know that they are the one in loss here..... anyways have a nice weekend zandi!

Hi Zandi, I actually hated those comment so much when I first got them, that before starting to comment on things myself I actually asked how it was meant to be done, as I needed to know all commented weren't meant to be like that! As it stands I stopped creating lots of discussions once I got the responses to the questions I asked about comments, because I did not want to be one of those people. I still have discussions from the past that I have to attend to and resolve, so I try and keep the number I create really low (one a day it seems at the moment) so I can get round to them (if I stop being so distracted by new discussions!) Personally I am starting t get a touch annoyed when I go to a board and see that a member has started lost of discussions, and seems to care about none of them. Usually I just respond because they are interesting, or bring me closer to being able to cut and paste. I definitely don't add feelings to them, I just don't see the point. I hope you don't run into that situation too much in the future Dranz