The perception of my childrens safety has been shaken..

@Sissygrl (10915)
Canada
September 6, 2009 7:14am CST
To start off, I am an inward type of person. I love my friends, but i have very few of them because i can't tolerate, or deal with a lot of people. I can't deal with emotional people, i can't deal with negative people, I get too concerned and involved with them and it drags me down with them. So after that note, onward with the discussion. I live in an apartment building in which the laundry room is on the bottom floor.. I was doing laundry a few days ago, and thankfully my husband was home and the kids where with him upstairs.. I opened the dryer door fully (it was opened a crack), and to my surprise guess what is sitting there ? a RAZOR BLADE. Now i'm pretty cautious type person, especially when it comes to my kids, but even I wouldnt have thought to look in dryers for something that may harm them.. It was sitting right there, placed carefully(?) on the lint trap.. I've played the senario over and over in my mind, and i cannot think of any logical way other then someone placed that there in hopes someone else would get hurt. I mean.. if your using a straight razor in your job even, you wouldnt have a loose blade in your clothing... would you ? that's not the sort of thing you store in your pocket! Now, The next day, my husband and i went downtown to find a few items we've been meaning to purchase and since he had the day off and my mom agree'd to watch our older daughter for a few hours, we figured it was a good time. I had forgotten how many unmedicated mentally ill people there are roaming the streets of downtown halifax.. I understand and can tolerate the ones that are nice.. they seem to just try to make friends with everyone. i have kind words for them. However, on our two hour venture, we came across one man who bumped into my husband and proceeded to LEAN OVER our stroller to point his finger in his face and yell at my husband not to "rub shoulders" with him again.. As i'm pulling my daughter out of the way of this crazy man my husband and his brother and the person working at the store we were conversing infront of told him to get lost and thankfully he did wihtout too much trouble. Then waiting for the bus to go home, a large (i believe he'd be classified as obese) man who was smoking walked right up to my daughter and got in her face talking about how cute she was, all the while blowing smoke at her, and nearly toppled over on top of her in her stroller!! I lack of admiration and respect for most human beings has been once again renewed.. and i will not venture too far from home again for a long time.. This is more like an i need to get this off my chest so i can get it out of my mind (i hope) then a discussion, but to help some of you reply if you'd like, here's my question to you.. Do you feel the same way people as i do (yes i know i'm a person too), and what was the last thing that rocked your sense of security ?
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@dragon54u (31608)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I have ALWAYS looked out for the safety of my children. I went further than you--when they were born they did not leave my site for an instant. I didn't even sleep until I got them home. Thankfully, they are healthy and well adjusted young men in college now and my paranoia didn't rub off on them in a negative way. But I did teach them to be watchful. I understand your feeling about people, I'm the same way to a great degree. There are so many of them that are inconsiderate and thoughtless and I don't choose to be around them. Being a mother of young children, you don't have a lot of choice in choosing to deal with the public or not. My kids are grown and on their own and I choose not to go out in public much.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
dragon!! wanna come over for coffee?! hehe we have a lot in common it seems!
@jillhill (37384)
• United States
6 Sep 09
BEing older I think there is a possibility that I might have a higher tolerance for people.....the razor thing is scary! It had to be placed there and secondly I don't even know anyone that has a razor like that anymore! THe other instances you had were bad but not any that I would displace my sense of security....its been a while since I live in a smaller town I guess I don't see very much that shakes my sense of security....If I lived in a bigger city that would all be very different!
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
Thanks jill, I think i was more tolertant when i was younger then i am now, i guess cause i just didn't know any better that people shouldnt behave that way!! We live just ouside the downtown area, and i rarely go down there, but i used to a lot as a teenager.
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@zoey7879 (3104)
• United States
6 Sep 09
My life's been so crazy that rocking my sense of security is really a difficult issue.. I suppose that anything that could harm my daughter or cause the loss of our home would do it though.... I've just been blessed that things in my life are relatively calm and uneventful as of late. Never ever hesitate when it comes to your children. Never compromise when something makes you uncomfortable.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
Thanks for you support zoey ;) good to know someone is listening!
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
6 Sep 09
Most people are harmless but then again there's the people you just don't know about. My fiance and I do not have children yet, but will once we're ready. That being said, even before then, with my niece,nephew or a distant friend's children, I would walk away with the child or children if there was someone I didn't know approaching us or solely them. Luckily we live in a pretty safe and small county. There are really nice people here, but if we were to venture to the next county, we would be very careful because while there's nice people everywhere, there's also mean people too! Even in the safe security blanket that is our home.
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@Hatley (164755)
• Garden Grove, California
6 Sep 09
hi sissygirl What rocked my sense of security was reading in our'local paper when I lived in tustin of moms finding razor blades stuck in the sand at the bottom of the kiddies slide where little arms and legs might get cut, and the police found more under the swings. they weere put there on purposel they finally caught the middle aged woman who was doing this. seems she had lost a child to a kidnapper and gone absolutely insane with anger and wanted to hurt children. this was one scary woman who needed to be put in a mental institution.Like rotten apples in a barrel full of good ones there are always a few weirdos who can really scare us. just take care
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
holy crap!! that is scary!! we have rocks in a lot of our parks around here.. those little round ones.. i dunno if that would be easier or harder to find a razor blade in but i either way we dont go to the park a whole lot of often anyways!! I am glad i have my children, but sad i closed my mind to the way of the world before having them.. now.. i was living in a nice rural place before we moved here, but my family is here, and so is hubby's.. i kind of miss the little small town of alliston where we made a home for ourselves!!
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
7 Sep 09
Hi there, i try to avpod crowd. I don't feel comfortable amonsts many people. I rether prefer to be a bit alone at times. But I love when I am along with myy friends nothing is more enjoyable than that. Niw my sense of security being breached, to tell you honestly I have gad a terrible incident which is still afresh in my mind as if it were yesterday. It happened when i was with my friend on my way back. I don't want to remember it and I don't feel comfortable with it either. many a times I thought to put the incident down with words but never I had the courage to do so. Maybe I just need some more time before I finally do. My sense of security was shattered i can say the least as of now. Ah! I almost forgot that man (the smoker) was very insensible he shouldn't have done that. It was terrifying that some one put those blades to to mean to hurt someone. Gosh!!
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
8 Sep 09
hi bod, maybe if you where to talk to someone about it, it will help you move on. I dont mean me. or even a friend in person.. even if you write it down in a journal and rip it up, i've heard of that helping a lot of people. you just GET IT OUT and OFF YOUR CHEST. Good luck to you my friend.
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• India
9 Sep 09
Thank you Sissy, I'll try to get it off maybe just I need some time. Thanks again.
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• India
7 Sep 09
Actually Speaking Even A Normal Man IS A Danger To Humanity if He Has A Nasty Mind .. Some People act crazy Not because they Are .. But Certain Circumstances in Life Make them that Way .. But I Can Understand your Concern As A Mother And A Wife .. A Lonely Lady Is Surely Not Supposed To Go Out Shopping With Small Kids .. It Will Indeed Land You in A Lot of Trouble If you Are Not Familiar With the Crowd .. You Can See the Problem You Faced Even With your Husband Around .. Do Take Good Care Of yourself And Family .. Wish You The Best ..
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• India
11 Sep 09
What You Say is So much True .. A Person Must Have Some Concern About himself He Can't expect Help Always .. What You Say is Indeed Right .. Wish You Get All the Help ..
@prinzcy (5063)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 09
Once, after and waiting in a long queue for cashier, a guy behind suddenly pushed his trolley hard and hit mine. My brother was in the trolley and he nearly bump his head onto the trolley in front! I managed to grab the trolley before that happen. That guy didn't apologized at all and pretend like nothing happen. I started to fume. Luckily, he didn't do anything after that.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
You should have called for security in the store! I think i would have! He could clearly see you have a child in your cart! @sshole!
@prinzcy (5063)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 09
I couldn't, there's no more evidence and people didn't notice it. That's why I was waiting for him to do that again so I could do something.
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• Indonesia
7 Sep 09
i think you must be careful with it,cause you have kids which must be protect.
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@Sissygrl (10915)
• Canada
7 Sep 09
thank you ab, I do protect them the best that i can but with all this crap in the world, how do we prepare them for it? and protect them at teh same time?!