Communication Saves a Relationship

@pjsr18 (340)
Philippines
September 7, 2009 6:55am CST
I'm in a relationship for two years now and I could say that communication plays a big role in our relationship. Without it, we would not know what's happening to both of us when were apart. How about you, do you think that a relationship can survive without communication?
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25 responses
• United States
7 Sep 09
No relationship can survive without communicating. We communicate with each other on a daily basis. Whether is verbal or signing. However, I believe you speaking of sound language where each person hears what the other is saying. Speaking and getting an understanding are two different things. Talking with each other is one thing, however, is your partner understanding what you're saying to her or him? We must remember to make ourselves clear when speaking with our partners so they will get a clear picture of what is being said to them. I was once in a relationship when we spoke all the time, however, my partner would say one thing and then do something totally different from what he was saying. Let me give an example. Lets use drinking with the guys or gals. Your partner tells you of a bad experience with one of the guys or gals and tells you that they won't do that again. But the next week, they are hanging out with the same people that they told you that they would avoid? Am I making sense? Exactly...you have to be able to understand what the person is saying and at least try to visualize it in your head as to what meaning is coming from the conversation. We can talk all day, but if there's no understanding or meaning to what is being said, the person is lost and will try and figure out what was just said to them and try to find the meaning on their own. In communication, get to the point and make it clear where you stand. Make sure the other person understands what you're saying to them. Make sure that the both of you are on the same page and that there's no misunderstanding from the two of you. Communication is key to any relationship, understanding is the most important in communication.
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@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
Thank you for your positive response. I'm happy you agree with me that communication is really essential with the relationship. You're right that we should understand what our partners are saying to us and we should put it into action. We should not only hear and not absorb it.
@kitty42 (3912)
• United States
8 Sep 09
Hello pjsr18 I believe communication plays a big part in any relationship, how else will we know what is going on each others hearts/minds you have some people that you may actually have to pull the words out of them,personally I try to avoid these people because I love to talk, there may be days when I can be alone relaxing and I love that as well, but when I ready to have a conversation you better be ready with some positive feedback or I will be unhappy Good question.
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• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Hi Pjsr18! Kudos to you for having such a commited and long relationship. I think a lot of love, patience, understanding and mutual respect played an important role too. But I do agree that communication is the foundation of all relationship. Because even in friendship and especially love, it won't work if you can't express what you feel. Issues won't be resolved. Emotions and genuine expressions of love won't be mentioned. Leaving two people agonizing, wondering and regretting words that have not been uttered. Widening the gap, the distance pulling them apart because of words unsaid. (^^,)
@wmaths (536)
• Italy
8 Sep 09
yes, i totally agree with you. if you can't communicate with your partner of just your friend or relative, you can't have a strong relationship with them. the worst thing to do is not to talk.
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@seekers (393)
8 Sep 09
Sometimes the reason for break-up of some relationships are lack of communication. Through communication, the bond makes stronger, you get to know more of each other and you can easily patch things up.
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I think that no relationship can survive without communication. Since communication is the backbone of a relationship. If you ignore your plant for a week, it's going to die. It's the same thing with relationships. You have to nurture them and watch them grow, otherwise they will wilt and be for naught. People change and people need people, so communication is always necessary. Even seemingly thoughtless conversations are necessary since they let you know that the other person is there for you and listening.
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@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
communication breakdown is a sign of disrespect especially when you and your couple were into long distance relationship. i don't believe that without communication the relationship can manage to survive because of the advance technology, people can easily communicate with their lover. everyone must exert an effort in sustaining the sweetness in a relationship....
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
I really do agree with you. If you still love your partner, the sweetness won't ever disappear. You will continue to be sweet with him/her all the time. And the best part is to communicate with what's the latest with you both if ever you are in a long distance relationship.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
through constant communication, love and trust can be strongly established. i get to be really react on your post because my boyfriend still leaving this November and he'll be away for six months since he'll be fulfilling his dream of becoming a seaman... poor me... :(
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Oh, just trust him and always pray to God that He will guide your relationship no matter what. Just think that your boy friend will do it for your family's future. Don't be sad. Trust and have faith. And don't forget to have communication.
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
THat is so right pjsr. the main reason why people in a relationship always or most of the time split up or break-up is because of lack of communication. even in fights, simply because of a simple misunderstanding from each other. It's effective that partners should always do their best to communicate and have a better understanding and agreement to each other.
• United States
7 Sep 09
communication is vital to any relastionship i should know cos ours broke down and my marrige was at great risk! so i agree we should all communicate with our other half,we r now talking and finding out things that we should have known years ago!!!
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Many relationship have been broken because of lack of communication and I have been a witness of that. There's no relationship that will last without communication.
@sblossom (2170)
7 Sep 09
I agree with you. Communication is very important to start and keep a relationship. without good communication people could not understand each other and will misunderstand each other. However i do think the ablility of developing a communication is not 100% natural. we need to learn skills to express ourselves, we also need to learn skills to develop our understanding ability. I feel frustrating sometimes you talk with your partner or your close friends about your thought, you thought they would understand you but in fact they don't. Then no matter how hard you try you still not get understanding. it's a kind of deep lonely in a relationship. Sometimes people are tolerant with the situation, sometimes people are not, then a well-looked relationship broke or ended.
• India
7 Sep 09
Hi sblossom! you are very much right that we should learn that skills to express. If person fail to express his/her thoughts it can create a problem in life as well as relation. This is happened with me most of the time. If misunderstanding occur in relation , opposite person should forgive you or understand you to keep relation for a long time. have a nice day!!
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Yes, I feel for you. Sometimes, I feel that when I'm saying problems to my girl friend. I thought she'd understand me but I know that she doesn't. I really feel sad whenever that happens and I hope that we'd understand each other for the rest of our lives. Communication is really important especially in shaky relationships.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 09
Good communication, love and trust are three of the fundamentals that build a healthy relationship. People who cannot share things with each other through communication don't have any relationship at all. By communicating I mean al forms of communication, sometimes a cuddle or eye contact can speak for itsself (even though that doesn't mean that with a hug or two you can supplement a good talk).
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Even the lowest form of communication can speak. Communication doesn't always mean talking to each other, right? Your gestures can talk with your partner, too.
@dodo19 (32867)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
7 Sep 09
I agree with you. I really do think that communication can help the relationship a lot. Communication has definitely helped me and my fiance. It's something that should be present in pretty much every relationship, as far as I'm concerned. It definitely helps the couple have a healthy relationship.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
First, congratulations to you and your fiance. Communication plays a vital role in a relationship. I think you and your fiance have always been communicating. Keep the love burning!
• United States
7 Sep 09
It can't survive..if you can't communicate with your better half, then why be together. Your mate should be your best friend, to whom you should be able to share anything.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
I agree because in the first place, why did you become lovers if you weren't able to communicate right? That's why you must keep that communication alive in order to keep your relationship alive, too!
• United States
7 Sep 09
I absolutely agree man. Without communication in a relationship, then it is hardly a relationship at all. I see my friends blow relationships all the time because e doesn't have enough time to just relax and talk. I have always been communicating with my girlfriend and we've been together for about a year. I talk to her everyday, at the movies, online, cell phones, etc. That's what girls look for in a relationship, so don't be shy, just talk to her and you can get the job done.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
My girlfriend,too wants to talk to me always that's why I'm finding a way in order to talk to her. Be it through cellphone, chat and other means. I find it all just to talk to her.
@pushkin69 (546)
7 Sep 09
hey there. I agree that communication is essential if a relationship is to stand the test of time. I think so many relationships go wrong and could have been salvaged by couples opening up to one another and expressing their wants and needs. It is difficult sometimes for people to be completely honest and open with their loved ones especially if things are not working out the way you had planned. I have learnt from past mistakes that ignoring the problem wont make it go away. Being open with the one you love is essential. Like you say if you are apart from one another you have to communicate how you feel and make the other feel loved and wanted. Relationships are never easy and you need to work at them to mae sure they last. You may be desperately in love but without communicating this to your partner you may loose them.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Yes, it is not helpful to hide problems from your partner because it only creates a hole in your relationship. The best thing to do is to talk about it seriously and plan on how to solve it together. Talking about problems also strengthens a relationship.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
7 Sep 09
Yes, I belive that communcation saves relationship. Open and healthy converstations helps people to come of out misundertanding and fights. Most of the time fights or difficult situations become worse and end up in big fights because of lack of healthy conversation. There are also some people who talk a lot and thereby creates issues and put themselves into trouble. I am not talking about them.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
That's true. Many problems are not solved because of the lack in communication. I suggest that whenever there are problems, the people involved just talk it in a nice way so that it will be resolved immediately.
@Graceekwenx (3163)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
a relationship could never survive without communication. There would be suspicion, sadness and it would also compel one to think that he is unloved or anything to that effect. Ive heard other stories also that too much communication would make your party feel a bit annoyed or even strangled.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Everything that's too much is bad. I think too much communication will give annoyance to both parties. I do not recommend too much communication because both have individual lives of their own,too. Maybe one is busy doing his/her work while the other one keeps on calling all day. It may too, be a reason for a break up.
• Romania
7 Sep 09
Communication is not only important, but without it, human life would be non-existent. We have to be able to communicate on a personal level, both verbally and non-verbally. If there was no non-verbal communication, there would be no human reproduction. I believe good communication is the key to a good relationship. If we communicate well with the people in our lives, we are able to better understand what the people around us want, need, expect of us, and what they are able to do and likewise, they will understand what we want, need, etc. This includes not just the people we live with, but our co-workers, doctors, service providers of many kinds...the list is endless. The qualities should include being able to state your feelings, wants, needs, expectations, etc. honestly and in a clear manner without putting anyone down. When someone has done this, I feel it is then helpful to rephrase what you heard so you know you have understood their meaning clearly. If you have miss-understood something, this gives them a chance to clarify what they actually meant. When people feel they have been understood, they feel like you value them, and that is a nice feeling.
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
Yes, I agree with what you've just said that when we think we've misunderstood something, we should clarify it. It's not right to just blab words without really knowing what's it all about and what's the truth about it. We should also be sensitive of one's feelings. We just don't speak and speak. That's why we have two ears and one mouth. We should listen more than we should talk.
• India
7 Sep 09
Hi pjsr! I am completely agree with you that communication is very important in life to run it for a long time. I am not much talkative that is why i faced many problem initially but now have overcome that my behavour.Most of problem in relation occured due to confusion in mind about each others behaviour. If personn doen't clarify that behaviour it creates problem in logetivity of relations. So whenever there is any problem occured both should openly short it out by communicating with each other. May god bless your relatiions. Happy mylotting!!
@pjsr18 (340)
• Philippines
7 Sep 09
I totally agree with you. Hiding problems from your partner doesn't really help. Both should be open with the problems they encounter for them to have an everlasting relationship. Don't stop communicating and understand each other always. Those are the keys. Happy mylotting to you too!
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@vandana7 (64774)
• India
9 Sep 09
I have to concede this. Communication is a gift to mankind. In addition to signs, and verbal communication talents that we share with other animals, we are able to communicate in written form! Obviously, god wanted it to be utilized to hilt. However, instead of improving and utilizing our skills, we often tend to be confrontational. May be such confrontational stance is part of our animal trait, and attempt to communicate is that of an evolved being. I too firmly believe communication is the key to many many things, and relationship is just one of them. Having said that, I do know of a couple wherein the girl is deaf and dumb, and the husband has been very understanding towards her, and their marriage has lasted well over 25 years now. I wonder how they communicate.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
9 Sep 09
no way can one make it without communication. That would be ridiculous to think so anyother way. It doesnt matter what kind of relationship it is either it is critical or the relationship will die.