Do you smile at strangers?

India
September 7, 2009 8:42pm CST
In India people dont talk to strangers or even exchange a smile at each other. I kno it sounds bizzare but thats how it is here. I personally do make polite gestures like pass a smile or jus say hi to strangers. My friend came down from Canada and had a tough time getting rid of that habit. Wenever she used look at strangers and smile or nod her head to say hi..she had a bunch of guys following her to home. Sometimes i jus wonder people here shud change..
3 people like this
27 responses
@adinata (106)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 09
I never smiled much less talk to strangers. Besides the fear of going wrong, I am also afraid if the next person has bad intentions with me, because in my country fairly high crime rate. So I think contact with foreigners is very uncomfortable and very risky. Even to walk alone at night just dangerous enough, so in my opinion especially when we smile or talk to other people. I think quite risky. It's probably our best intentions, we want to look nice, but what if the circumstances around us do not fit? Of course difficult is not it?
@adinata (106)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 09
Yes, that what i mean. Sometime our intention does not walk same with our wish.
@sheclk (14)
• China
8 Sep 09
yeah ,i also nod it .That a polite problem ,i think.
@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Hi cryhapytears, well I find that somewhat funny. I mean I'm from a very friendly country and its just normal here to throw a smile to strangers, not in a flirty way of course. And if after smiling at someone you'll be asked to go out with that stranger, well, that's a whole different story. Anyway, I don't understand how there gets friends, if they happen to be that stiff. I really think people there should loosen up a bit.=)
• India
8 Sep 09
it is funny atually...sometimes wen i smile at strangers..some of them jus look at me like they jus thot.. who the hell are u?..
@angryeve (684)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hahaha I can't stop laughing right now cause I have experienced the same. Well no matter how friendly most people here are, everybody is still different. I've had one of those, where you politely smile at someone thinking that you are putting up a good gesture and then the person you smiled at was just staring at you. haha And then it would make you think if you should be embarrassed because you didn't got any response or is it him for being rude. hehe
• United States
8 Sep 09
I do smile at strangers sometimes. It's a friendly gesture like a little connection between strangers. Once I was paddle boating and saw an old couple sitting on a bench next to the lake and I smiled at them. They smiled and nodded back and I felt really warm inside. I haven't been too a lot of places so I don't know how it is in other areas. There were guys following her home?
• India
8 Sep 09
O yea.. she was terrified u c. poor thing. luckily her bro noticed it one day wen she was on her way bk home being followed by two guys.. the priks ran off from there the moment they saw him..
@dodo19 (47049)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
8 Sep 09
I do live in Canada and it's something that I do all the time. It's a habit that I can't really get rid of. I do it without really thinking about it. I'm not sure why I got the habit from. All I know is that I have now.
• India
8 Sep 09
its not a bad habit that u need to get rid of..its alrite to smile at strangers..wen get one in return.. its very nice feeling.. but in countries like India it cud be a little dicy..however, i want u keep smiling..coz we have show respect to each other..spread love..little things like a smile do matter a lot in accomplishing tat..
• United States
8 Sep 09
I think that I am a naturally friendly person, if there is such a thing. I smile and talk to strangers all the time. Most people are very friendly and maybe just need a smile. It does not hurt to be friendly. You will feel better and maybe you have made someone feel better too.
• China
8 Sep 09
Friendly people, we must first learn to smile, laughter is the lubricant interpersonly ,communication with other people smile when you leave can give each other warm, friendly impression. Can do it from time to time people smile, naturally there will be a lot of friends.
@StarBright (2798)
• United States
8 Sep 09
I noticed that on my visit to India. There were no smiles on the street, Even husbands and wives talking to each other do not smile or laugh when they are out - even at restaurants. It takes getting used to. I will usually smile or nod at people on the street if we make eye contact. If I am standing in line, I will strike up a conversation. I guess I have one of those personalities that draws people to me because often people just walk up to me and start talking. They tell me their whole life's story. I have met some very interesting people that way.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
8 Sep 09
Truley speaking,I don't smile at strangers. If a stranger smile at me also I don't smile back. I am not interested to smile at strangers and make friendship with them. Today the world is going through so many fruad related issues and I don't want to get into trouble unnecessarily by my stupid actions. I am careful about strangers. I don't want to take the risk.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
That would be a good idea. It is good to know more people and to gain more friends. I do that once in a while. But what I have learned is that I have to choose people that I exchange smile with. Some people do interpret it in another way. Just trying to be careful
@dolmitta (221)
• India
8 Sep 09
Hi As you said, its not safe to say hi or smile at stangers in India. I feel they take advantage of it. Sometimes in shopping malls when u get to meet a strange family and if they are somewhat close to you, we can smile. I have no clue about other countries. :)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
i usually don't. i am afraid they might give another meaning to my smile. if i meet someone who is an acquaintance, that would be another thing.
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
i nod and smile occasionally at strangers who i have eye-to-eye contact with. :)
@KaraKATAD (246)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
Well I smile at strangers only if they stare at me. As if to say "I know you're staring". But if they're giving me looks then I stay away and go somewhere else. I think that it would be nice if everyone acknowledged each other with smiles because it makes the world a nicer place. But in certain places like India and etc. It's dangerous because people can take it the wrong way. It all depends on the culture really.
• China
8 Sep 09
yes,i love smile
@robert19ph (4577)
• Philippines
8 Sep 09
hello cryhapytears, Sometimes, I do smile to stangers. But I only do that to those who are parents of the school where my two kids are studying. Just know their familiar face but don't know there names. Same is true with my co-workers. If they are in different departments, I don't know there names. So, I just give them a smile and start to make a conversation if there is a chance.
@the_ruler (1442)
• Turkey
8 Sep 09
hi cryhapytears :) interesting nickname well, I don't do that if there is something exceptional. Maybe, it would be better if we were living in a more friendly community because I would feel good if someone just smiles or says "hi" to me without any reason. it would also help us make new friends. Don't know, maybe I am being a little naive here but seeing all the people ignoring each other, or opposing another is not a good thing. wish you a good day,and happy mylotting, mate!
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Sep 09
hi cryhappyrtears yes I do smile at people I meet as it al ways'makes me feel good but I guess I should not do that in India at all.I would get into trouble probably.thats so sad as a smile is just a friendly way to say hello glad to see you and move on., Here in the United States we are more open and friendly but different strokes for different folks.
@wangkai (797)
• China
8 Sep 09
yes ,i smile at a strangers when i meet them at the street.i am a goodness man.
@aznrice69 (100)
• Canada
8 Sep 09
Well i usually give smiles back to people if i make eye contact with them too long so it doesn't look like I'm just giving them a bad look. A lot of people smile or say hey when they walk by me (i live in Canada btw). I feel like it kinda breaks any awkward tension you might get if you accidently stare at someone too much. If i'm in a crowded area i don't really bother at all because people are going here and there and it's just too much trouble smiling or saying hey to everyone.
• United States
8 Sep 09
I will smile at people when I pass them. I am quite shy (in person, not so much on line!) and I have trouble saying hello even to people I know. I think there are cultural differences but I am from England, where we are supposedly more reserved, and I used to say hello to people all the time, came naturally, or to smile, or nod - just an acknowledgment (possibly it depends whereabouts you're from) and then when I did that over here in America I found an awful lot of people just look at me like I just swore at them, or completely ignore me (again, I have been told this wouldn't happen down south, or in other parts - I am in Massachusetts) Not everyone of course, and not everyone back 'home' was friendly either, so I think while there is a cultural influence, there are different types of people too, and some may be shy or used to a particular way, not rude, where as loud and in your face doesn't always mean friendly - actually if someone is too much kind of in my space I feel THAT is unfriendly too. My personal thing for me I think is that I will open doors for people whether they thank me or not, I will wave and acknowledge motorists who let me cross the road even if others don't, and I will smile if I walk past someone, even if they don't smile back. Because you don't know, they may not be able to smile that day, but might need one from someone else, and it has to be better to go about life giving out smiles than not, right?!