help! help! a poor cook

India
September 8, 2009 10:47am CST
how can i change the age old concept of thinking a girl to possess innate cooking skills? i am a victim to this. in a office picnic i was automatically assigned the task of cooking which i barely manage for myself. i almost had a panic attack by the great expectations of my boss and other male colleagues who thought me to be an efficient cook by the dint of being a girl. i somehow managed to escape by turning down the assignment and by dissappointing the expectant group.i felt cruel but didn't knew how to handle.
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@harmonee (1236)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I don't think I would have turned the opportunity down. I would have had to enlist the help from some friends or forked over the bucks to have the food made for me. I too am a girl that lacks those innate cooking skills. I'm getting a little better now that I have a family that I need to provide for, but they are still mediocre at best.
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• India
12 Sep 09
i should also learn to change myself as you have done.keep it up
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@cherrc (666)
• Philippines
9 Sep 09
u should have told them in a jokingly manner so they wont pin u more, "sorry boys, i went beyond ur expectations" :) i hope they're not sexist just because u're a girl and u're supposed to be expert for that task. but it's not bad to know some recipes somehow, for ur own experience, not for anyone else. :)
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• India
12 Sep 09
its not bad at all i understand but due to my lack of interest i hardly remember recipes or get messed up with the proportions or ingredients somehow.
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@irishidid (8521)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Learn how to cook. Forget about all the "way to a man's heart" nonsense. Learn to cook for yourself. Get yourself a basic cookbook. Nothing fancy. Start out simple. Use shortcuts and cheats. Look up Paula Deen recipes. They are super easy. You could have managed the picnic with little skill. Boiled some eggs, opened some cans, toss out the KFC bucket and presto chango a picnic! No one even had to know. If anyone asked for a recipe-lie through your teeth.
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• India
12 Sep 09
hey!it sounds so easy now .thanx.i could have substituted some of the things which would have matched our food habits but for majority of the things i think i would have done what i did as those complex recipes were not my cup of tea.
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@annasong (10)
• China
9 Sep 09
In fact, cooking can be fan. You will very happy when you can make delicious foods. There are many books about cooking. And you can also find the menu on internet. Tt is not so difficult as you think.I trust in you! What you should do is just try yourself.
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• India
12 Sep 09
thanx that was a gud piece of advice.i should learn to make cooking enjoyable for me.
@pxm204192 (160)
• China
9 Sep 09
you just do it like the anything done. you should get a little by little, just like do anything like cook something, cooking things is just like as other anything.it should need the children to do by themselves,by their whole heart and soul and put all energy and time on such this thing like doing other things:reading,studing,and other complicated other things,not innate and nature to do such things like this.you can do first from the simply things, like the cook a egg,and such this simply other things.step by step,you can teach the more difficult things. the most important thing is to built the confidence of them.
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• India
12 Sep 09
thanks i have already started to build my confidence in cooking .just hope im able to sustain my motivation for long so that it pays off right.
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• United States
8 Sep 09
Well if you had cooked for the PICNIC they would not ask you again next year.
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• India
12 Sep 09
ha ha ha. i swear they won't.
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@jellymonty (2358)
8 Sep 09
I feel for you honey.. most males expect every woman to be a genius in the kitchen. But if you really need a quick fix then head over to allrecipies.com. Thats the best guide to making the simplest of foods..
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• India
9 Sep 09
thanks to u all mylotters.i have really got a number of practical and useful suggestions
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• United States
8 Sep 09
allrecipes.com they have any possibly recipe you can imagine, there are also step by step videos on youtube. I can now make elaborate Indian dishes just from reading and watching videos. What I am getting at it you need to relax, just read the recipe, follow the steps, and you'll be fine. There are tons of things you can cook that take less than an hour and are very simple. Don't bite off more than you can chew, start out simple. If something confuses you ask a question somewhere, look it up, again there is probably a video on youtube. I agree this concept is sexist but if that's what is expected of you, then do it. You'll either never be asked to cook again or you'll learn how to make some cool thigns for yourself to eat.
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• India
9 Sep 09
thanks. i really have my confidence boosted up now.i can manage basic cooking but elaborate ones and for more than 2-3 people really scare me. i will start practicing more but somehow it simply doesnot interest me that much.
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• United States
8 Sep 09
For some reason many people hold on to this past view of a "working husband, devoted housewife" society. Even though I learned how to cook for an early age I wouldn't cook for someone without asking for their help in the kitchen. If anything it might even be an interesting conversation to bring up all the mishaps and mistakes you made near a stove so that your colleagues will get the hint that your not a good cook and they shouldn't expect you to be just because you were born with certain body parts. Next time that happens invite some of your male co workers to help and it they ask why just tell them "because i'm cooking for you so the least you can do is help." That way the daunting task of actually cooking won't be entirely up to you. and if the food does turn up bad you always have someone else (a man who has no experience in the kitchen) to blame.
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• India
12 Sep 09
i will try to remember to drop hints if at all such a thing happens again. infact i have started working at it already.now at the earliest possible mention of such cooking events i drop the hints immediately so that the air gets cleared off and i am spared of the embarrassment.
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@magickat (382)
9 Sep 09
Just be honest! I'm sure not all the guys you work with are great at traditionally male tasks such as DIY etc! Offer to do what you can, just simple things and see if anyone else wants to cook. Many of the worlds best chefs are men, so maybe someone else would like the opportunity to show what they can do.
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
9 Sep 09
neo_matrix, The answer to this question will be no way, at least for sometime. However, I feel that the world today does understand this shortcoming from womenfolks and are quite understanding when they come to realize it. So, you should not feel embarrassed or at odds here. Just be honest, than make a mess of it and be in a much more odd situation. Women today, are ever more active outside the domestic scene and as such culinary skill is just no longer a forte. Let me assure you that it is alright and their concern is not about your current innate but your future when you are required to cook for yourself. Take care and have a nice day.
• India
12 Sep 09
yes i guess its true. i know its one of the important domestic skills.in our country no matter you are working or not ,you have a maid to help or not ,the inlaws as well as the husband feel its the women's duty to cook. i can understand their concern when i see it that way.
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@babyjesus (277)
22 Sep 09
well they can't judge you for that. the next time you get that assignment, try to invite other memebers to help you out and tell them honestly that you are not that good cook but willing to take that responsibilty with the help of other memebers who are willing to give suggestions. good luck