Are Women GOOD Listeners Than Men?

@mjmlagat (3170)
Philippines
September 8, 2009 9:23pm CST
Hello All! Relating to varied personalities all the time every day, i sometimes got confused as to who is really a better listener: MEN or WOMEN? Women tend to be more patient when it comes to listening skills compared to men who seem to be present but still behaving as if they're somewhere else during the conversation. Do you have the same observation? Please share your thoughts on the matter.
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18 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Yes. I think most women are alot better listeners than men are. I know that from plenty of experience. Not all women are good listeners either though. I have met my fair share of those type too.
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• United States
9 Sep 09
I have to grdginglyu agree with you. I have been male as long as I can remember and I understand that it is all because of that darned Y chromosome. Ladies, you know that is the part that forces us to miss the dirty clothes hamper every single time... the one that makes our eyes glaze over whenever we have been watching the television for more than a few minutes. Sad to say that men are mostly all born without the 'shut up' gene so that inappropriate comments just jump from brain to mouth. Can I hear an 'amen' to that one? But back to the topic here... men are rarely as good listeners as women as most feel they have so much more to impart to others than to hear. The trick is to let them know that their opinions are valid, appreciated and that if they could just listen for a while they can talk again ... later. Active listening I find is rare in men and well done by most women.
@mjmlagat (3170)
• Philippines
10 Sep 09
hello guys! thanks for the responses!
• Philippines
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@pan_23 (420)
• Kuwait
20 Sep 10
i think 90% woman are good listeners than men,because men are dominants in this world,as men think they are only superiors in this world. as u told,woman have more patience than woman. we can observe this in conversations,household works,giving birth to kids and teaching them good manner in their life.
@ADMaroC (76)
1 Sep 10
hi to all.. are women good listeners than men? in my own opinion.. well i think NO! because when it comes to situations like ''debate'' or in debating. their are some women and men joining in this competition and both they are good listeners. i dont think so that women are more good listener or speaker than men. thats all
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Hello! well.., according to my own understanding, women are really good listeners but thier are also men who are a good listeners too. It just depend to the person you are talking with. It's true that women are more patient compare to men because women can easily relate diffirent kind of situations and can easily understand what does the person his talking with feels. That's why, sometimes we observe and then we can finally say that women are best listeners than men but we should not expect that all women are good listeners and all men are not because every one of us have a different kind of understanding.
18 Sep 10
All i can say is that, women are good listeners than man, because they have more patience than man. but sometimes if they get angry or mad that's the time they would not listen, or maybe they will express there feelings.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 09
Not necessarily so. Anyone can be a good listener if the minf is set to doing so. I guess I am inviting brickbats from the females here, but I am talking from experience. As someone else has mentioned, there are other factors which need to be taken into account. Patience and compassion do not equal to being a better listener. We do not have to go far, because we can find on myLot people who do not listen as well as they claim to be. Generally men are seen as impatient. This may be because men tend to get things done as soon as possible. If we look at the number of male counselors we can say that men in general are better listeners. In my experience this appears to be true when it comes to giving advice or opinion. Most probably this sort of discussion will never end, because both sides can give their valid points of view,
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
11 Sep 09
I agree with you. Women, as a rule, are more patient and more compassionate then men. You can only be like this if you are a better LISTENER. Of course, there are exceptions, but, as a rule this is how it is. Another little known scientific fact between men and women. Both men and women lie, but, they lie for different reasons. As a rule men lie for personal gain, but, women lie to save another's feelings. Again, there are exceptions, but, as a rule this is how it is. Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
@krajibg (11923)
• Guwahati, India
11 Sep 09
Hi this is a rather relative case. At times you would see a woman listening intensely and the other moment you would see a woman roaming her eyes here and there but a man listening with interest. Now Characteristically speaking women are more patient than men and they by default are better listener. If or not they understand what is being relayed but they go on listening.
@lawana_f (326)
• United States
9 Sep 09
Actually I believe that it depends on the subject. women are better listeners when someone has a problem, though many of us advise to much. (I have been guilty of that). But if you are simply setting and talking, then men seem to be better listeners as they have more time to be interested in more things. Women do not have this time what with children and jobs and husbands. I know men have children, jobs and wifes; but there is still a difference in the way men and women relate to family, friends and co-workers among other things.
@artofreed (130)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 09
Well, sometimes they are. But women are also easy to be distract. When they have distraction while listening to something, they will lose their concentration.That's my observation.
• United States
9 Sep 09
I think a person's ability to listen is more a quality of their personality than their gender. I've known both men and women who are good listeners.
@sasalove (1709)
• China
10 Sep 09
Hi mjmlagat, That is the point why God creat men and women to undertake and share different duty in their respecive life. In my life, seldom men can be a good listener except they would like to talk to others. Female are more senstive, emotional and helpful, male are more sense,straight forward and tendency to hide their emotion. In all, men are as rare as women to be listener in the real life.
10 Sep 09
very interesting question. i have a funny opinion about it. eg, if you just fall love with sombody. no matter you are boy or girl. you will be good listener. if you get married for a long time. maybe you will become bored about what opposite side said. by the way. If you get promotion or get higher pay. no matter you are boy or girl. you will ingore what sombody else said.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Sep 09
I do think that most women are. My husband cannot even get things right and understand after sitting through a serious conversation. You have to go over things over and over. If you are upset over something, he just looks at you with a stupid expression, like why let it bother you.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
9 Sep 09
hi mjmlagat hatley here.we have to be good listeners to raise 'our children so I guess its sort of built in to us. we also'try to listen well to our husbands too. I think it just sort of comes'with the territory so to speak. so I do agree with you.
@wangkai (797)
• China
9 Sep 09
no.i do not think so.
@nakula2009 (2325)
• Indonesia
9 Sep 09
that"s how it would have the same opinion as you,usually women are more serious than any problem with men